So I’m laying out the cards, and I see a change coming. A new job, new lover, a shift in living situation. Something awesome and positive. But then the client leans across the table and starts reciting how they expect their new lover, new job, new fill-in-the-blank to appear.
“Well, I know someone who knows someone like that, and we met at a party last year, so I think its him….” [ It’s not].
“So OK, my boss is talking about retiring which will make a space for me to move up, so then Sheila will probably go to Accounts Payable and then.….” [Wrong again].
I get it. We all want a super-clear path to our future, one with no pholes, stoplights or tacky tourist traps.
I’m happy to oblige as best I can, but most of the times when I read, I see the destination with a fuzzy glow around it. This is a reminder that the details of how something will manifest have yet to be fully determined.
And the more we cling to our own version of the details, the more we narrow the path to getting there and block out some pretty kickass options.
Years ago, my friend and I were first learning about Creative Visualization. One of the key tenets is to get very detailed about what you want. She wanted a new boyfriend, so she wrote down everything – and I mean everything – that she desired. Four pages worth. Back and front.
I’m all for having a clear vision – but too many details or expectations can drag it down.
To me, drilling down to the core of what you want simplifies that process. And to get to that essence, think about how you want to feel with that thing/goal/person in your life.
Feelings are like lighter fluid to a dream.
Experiencing the emotion of a goal provides a potent, simple beacon that helps the Universe bring it your way. Conversely, trying to maintain a million details in your head only mucks up the works. It’s like herding cats.
My girlfriend could have made her man-hunting job way easier by thinking about how she wanted to feel in that new relationship: safe, loved, appreciated for her wicked sense of humor. Maybe the brown hair, build like Jean Claude Van Damme and penchant for collecting African art wouldn’t be so important if she got the emotional outcome that she wanted.
My philosophy is, you don’t have to do all the heavy lifting alone; keep the simple essence in mind, gently hold onto the feeling and let the Universe meet you halfway. Let it surprise you.
This requires letting go of the handlebars. Remember how scary that felt? But when you did, and the bike flew along on its own, it was a total rush. And you got where you were going having had a whole lot more fun.
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