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How to Remember (and Use) Your Dreams

The other night I dreamt I was about to go on stage in front of thousands of people, to play bass with the Stones.  Only I don’t know how to play.  And unlike flying or breathing underwater, I didn’t know how to do it in the dream, either. Here I was gonna be standing next to Charlie Watts, a frikkin’ awesome drummer and one of my heroes. And I’m clueless. Clue. Less.  It still gives me the willies when I recall it.

I'm not worthy...I'm not worthy....

I’m not worthy…I’m not worthy….

I know where that particular dream came from: reading an article about the band in Rolling Stone earlier. But there are other dreams that offer up more than just a psychedelic rehash of the day.

Like those wonderful ones where you encounter someone you’ve lost and they look wonderful.  They practically shine.  And you know – you just know –that they’ve visited you from the Other Side. Or the one where you get a “preview” of something that’s about to happen.   This is where dreams serve a really useful purpose, to “download” info from other dimensions.  Our conscious brain is in “sleep” mode – literally – so we can access different channels.

You may not think you dream, but you do.  It’s a vital physical function; in fact, I think I read somewhere that, when test subjects were prevented from dreaming (as in, being woken up repeatedly), they got really sick.  Umm, for the record?  I would cut a bitch if someone did that to me.  Anyway, the point is you do indeed dream — you just aren’t so hot on remembering them.

Dreaming is where we work stuff out on the physical plane, but more importantly, its where we access higher dimensions.  Training yourself to remember what you learn in Dreamland is not as hard as you might think.

First, keep a notebook and pen by your bed.  Second, set your intention to start remembering your dreams  As you drift off, tell yourself that you WILL recall what you’ve experienced in the dream state.  If you wake up in the middle of the night from a dream, jot down what you remember.  Do NOT tell yourself that you’ll do it in the morning.  Trust me, you probably won’t.   So roll over, turn on the light for 10 seconds and scrawl it down. Just like Jerry Seinfeld with his awesome idea for a joke…..which he then couldn’t read.

When you first wake up from a dream, try not to move.  This will keep you in that state between the worlds where it will be easier to consciously recall what you’ve experienced.  Once you’ve captured a theme, image, whatever jot it in your notebook.

If something really stands out, ask yourself what it means – then go with the first impression or thought that you get.  Don’t overthink it.  Stay in that muted place where things flow without a lot of intellect behind them.  Dreams reach us on a very subtle level; use more of your gut to interpret them, and less your brain.

There are some great dream interpretation books  ( I like Mary Summer Rain’s Guide to Dream Symbols) and sites out there, but don’t discount what your own bad self tells you.

Once you’ve built up your recall muscle, you can direct your dreams towards something specific.  For example, you can invite a deceased loved one to visit you in the dream state.  Don’t force this; they have things going on on the Other Side. They don’t sit around, flipping through Us magazine, waiting for your call. Make the invitation, then let it go.  Trying too hard blocks the energy.

You can also ask your Spirit Guides to provide an answer to a question by way of your dreams.  Even if you don’t know who your guide(s) is, simply throw up a request for information.  You can assign them a name if you want, or just say, “Yo, Guides – I need some help here with (fill in the blank).”  They don’t stand on formality.  Then see what they send you.  And don’t be surprised if the answer/info you get is different than what you expect.  Receive it with grace and say “thank you.”

Better than one of these!

Better than one of these!

One note – don’t get frustrated if you don’t get anywhere in remembering your dreams. Keep setting the intention, and eventually you will.

There’s an old folk trick to help the dream recall process along.  Place a glass of water by your bed.  When you first wake up, drink it down to help remember.  Or to get the stank morning breath out of your mouth.  In the meantime, enjoy a blast from my 80s past.  And the exquisite Annie Lennox.  In my dreams, I have her voice.  In real life, my singing voice is closer to Linda McCartney’s.

20 Simple Steps to A Better Life

I was cleaning out some stuff the other day and stumbled across this.  Words very much worth paying attention to.  Oprah couldn’t have said it better.

THE NATIVE AMERICAN CODE OF ETHICS

1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.

2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.

3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.

4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.

5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.

6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth, whether it be people or plant.

7. Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.

8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.

9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven.

10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.

11. Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. They are part of your worldly family.

12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life’s lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.

13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.

14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of one’s will within this universe.

15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self, all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.

16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.

17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others, especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.

18. Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you can not nurture and help yourself first.

19. Respect others religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.

20. Share your good fortune with others. Participate in charity.

Get the Funk Out: Space Clearing Basics

This is the time of year when we start getting that “spring cleaning” itch.  As the weather warms up, we want to open the windows and let in some fresh air, banishing the stale old winter vibe.  You can tell when a room “feels” funky, can’t you?  I know I sure as heck can.  So cleaning — spring or otherwise — has a calming, healing effect on us.

Whenever you’re vacuuming, washing windows or flipping a mattress, you’re doing a version of “space clearing,” moving molecules (not to mention cat hair) around.  But there are some other tools you can add to your bucket to really bring some energetic freshness to a space.  Here’s what I like to use.

SAGE:  This is the classic clearing tool, breaking up anything negative and resetting things back to neutral.  You can buy sage in several forms, but I like the stick form myself.

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Sageing – or “smudging” as its often called — is easy.  Light the end of the sage bundle, then blow out the flame.  The sage will begin to smoke.  I go room by room, walking in a counterclockwise motion and moving the bundle up and down to thoroughly cleanse the area (in nature work, counterclockwise is the direction used to reverse or undo something). I pay particular attention to corners, since stagnant energy can hang out there, just like dust bunnies.  BIG SAFETY NOTE:  Keep a fireproof container under the sage, to catch any random sparks.  You can use a shell, like this:

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I carry a ceramic dish filled with sand under my sage stick; when I’m done, I extinguish it by grinding it into the sand.

When smudging, open a window to carry the stale vibes out of the room.  Oh, and one more note:  sage smells kinda like pot.  So be prepared for some funny looks from your neighbors.  And maybe a Cheech and Chong joke or two.

SALT:  Salt has long been known for its power to ground energy and keep negativity away.  After a good vacuuming, I’ll put a pinch of sea or kosher salt in the corners of a room.  You can also sprinkle a bit near your front door to keep bad vibes from entering your home or office.

It's not just for potato chips anymore...

It’s not just for potato chips anymore…

SOUND:  I love the sound of bells and chimes.  There are windchimes all over my backyard — and a few in my house, too.  Chimes have the power to break up stale energy.  Tibetan singing bowls can do that, too when you use them in a space clearing.

I’ve gotten so many questions on how to make the bowl” sing,” and there is a trick to it, so here’s a quick how-to demo (and please pardon my Bad Hair Day)….

Once you’ve gotten the bowl to sing, walk around the space counterclockwise, hitting corners and closets to break up old energy.  If you don’t have a bowl or bells, clapping your hands can also clear a space.

WATER:  We wash our faces, dishes, clothes, floors and dogs with it.  And it clears away energy funk nicely, too.  I fill a spray bottle with water and a drop or two of lavender oil (just ’cause it smells nice).  Then I hold my hands over the bottle, putting an intention into it to purify whatever it touches.  I spray this energized water into the corners of a room, again moving in a counterclockwise direction.

Anyhoozle, doing a regular space clearing will make a huge difference in how things flow.  People will be less cranky, animals will behave a little better , everyone will just feel …better.  And by the way, don’t limit these techniques to your home.  Clearing your office and your car, anywhere you spend a lot of time, is a good habit to get into.

So put down the Swiffer and get your sage on, already.  ‘Cause this is the only kind of funk you want around you…

 

Any other ways you get rid of unwanted funk?  Share it in the comments!

How to Meet Your Spirit Guide

I’ve written previously on the subject of spirit guides, how we all have them and how they stand at the ready to help you get through all the potholes of life.

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Quick review:  before we incarnate, we make a deal with a fellow spirit.  For our part, we agree to take on the hairy experience of human life – which is jampacked with experiences and relationships designed to help our soul evolve.  For their part, they stay on the other side, keeping an eye on our progress and helping us stay on track.

"Dealt with bad boss? Check.  Dealing with money issues?  Check..."

“Dealt with bad boss? Check. Dealing with money issues? Check…”

Whether we know they’re there or not, they do their best to offer opportunities, new people, coincidences and info that — if we pay attention — can help us keep moving in the right direction.  (This is a super-short overview of the subject.  A couple of great books on the subject are Ask Your Guides by Sonia Choquette and Spirit Guides by Iris Belhayes and Molly Sullivan).  Moving on.

This particular spirit guide is the big kahuna; there will be other guides whom you can call on when you need help with something specific.  For example, a “doctor” guide can assist with a health issue, or a “parenting” guide with kids.  They come and go, but your main guide is always there.

Of course, the process of working with guides is way easier if we can recognize them and consciously develop a relationship.  Here’s a way to meet your guy…or gal.

               MEDITATION TO MEET YOUR MAIN SPIRIT GUIDE

Start by placing a notepad nearby to jot down your experience afterwards.  Close your eyes and take a few deep centering breaths.  Envision yourself surrounded by protective white light.  You are completely relaxed and safe in this space.

Now see a beautiful garden path.  You’re surrounded by lush greenery and flowers.  The path slopes gently downwards into a wood.  Walk along this path, enjoying the scenery as you go down, down, down.

You see a cottage in the distance.  Continue walking downwards on the path, drawing nearer to it.

You arrive at the cottage.  Notice how it looks.  Notice the doors and windows.  There’s a charming brass knocker on the door.   Lift it and hear it fall, announcing your arrival.  Now open the door and step inside.

There’s a gentle fire burning in the fireplace. There are two comfy, overstuffed chairs in front of it.  One is for you.  And the other is for your guide.  Who is sitting there?  What do they look like?  What are they wearing?  Keep in mind, they may surprise you.  You may expect them to be in long white robes, but be open. I had one guide show himself as a white man wearing buckskin — he had been a woodsman in a previous life, kind of a “Jeremiah Johnson.”  The point is to go with what you first see.

Now ask your guide their name.  Again, the name may surprise you.  When I first did this exercise, my guide said his name was something like “Rael.”  Well, that is just waaay too out there for me, so I asked  if I could call him “Ray” instead.  Now he shows up wearing a pair of sunglasses like Ray Charles.  That works with my sense of humor.

OK, so now you’re sitting in your chair with your guide.  Ask him if he has a message for you.  It may be short.  Ask him how he will identify himself in your daily life.  With “Ray,” I know he’s around when any Ray Charles music comes up on my iPod.  In your case, maybe your guide will let you know they’re there through a symbol, a feeling (like tingles or cold chills) even a smell.  Again, stay open and go with the first thing that hits you.

Tell your guide that you appreciate them being there for you and that you want to work more closely with them as you move forward.  This cottage will be a place you can meet in future meditations.  This is also where you will be introduced by your guide to any other spirit helpers.

Now, its time to leave.  Say goodbye to your guide and exit the cottage.   The path stretches out before you, sloping gently upwards.  Walk along this path, feeling the warmth and love you experienced being with your guide.

Continue walking upwards, gently upwards.  You feel yourself coming back to the here and now.  When you’re ready, open your eyes and return to the present.  Jot down your impressions, messages and insights. And — this is important — stay alert for any sign of your guide in your everyday life, and thank them for their presence.

You don’t have to go into a meditation every time you need help (good if you happen to be driving)– just ask.  But it’s a good practice to regularly spend time meditating and building a relationship with your spirit guide.  It will make it easier to interact with them, but mostly, it’s just good manners.  You know those “friends” who only call when they need something?  Don’t be one of them.

You know who I'm talking about....

You know who I’m talking about….

To me, spirit guides are a wonderful resource for navigating the ups and downs of life.  Like factory air conditioning and OnStar, they come standard with our life.  Why not use them to make yours run smoother?

Ever have an encounter with a guide?  Spill it in the comments!

Give It Up! Your Invisible Helpers

During my meditation this morning, I got a message that went something like, “You don’t have to do it all yourself.”  This is pretty much spot on, being the perky little control freak that I am.  It put me in mind of this card:

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When this card comes up in a reading, it indicates someone who’s taking on way too much or doing most of the work in the situation. And you can see that he’s in danger of tripping and dropping his bundle — which means, he has to pick them up again and he’s probably in a hurry and his back is hurting and he’s feeling like he has to do it all and wah wah wah….you get the idea.

The advice behind the 10 of Wands is to share the load — but for control freaks (like me), that can be tough.  However, each of us has a team we can call on to help.

They’re always awake (even at 3:20 am).  Their phone is always on and never goes to voicemail.  They never get tired of hearing your problems.  They don’t judge the size of your ass.  They are assigned to you from the time you’re born and stay with you until you cross over.  They’re not allowed to leave you, no matter how big a pain you may become.

They are your Spirit Team, made up of your spirit guides and a guardian angel.  I wrote about spirit guides here –but one of the questions I repeatedly get asked is, “How do I work with them?”  It’s really not that complicated:  just tell them what you need.   That’s it.

I’ll give you a way to meet your guide(s) later — but in the meantime, even if you don’t know their name or anything about them,  just reach out.  I suggest taking a moment before you go to sleep to send up your message, but you can do it anytime.  They don’t stand on ceremony. Something like, “Hi Spirit Team– I could really use your help in knowing how I should handle the situation with Mark.  Please send me a sign or some information.  Thanks.”

Then keep your radar up.  Your Team will always deliver, but it may be subtle and it may not show up the way you expect.  The point is to offload some of your burdens on to them.  They live for this stuff, so put them to work on your behalf.

There have been a number of great “teams.”  Like these guys….

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Or this crew, boldly going where no man has gone before….

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But YOUR “team” has ’em all licked.  And they are at your beck and call, ready to take some of the weight for you.  Remember the message I got this morning?  “You don’t have to do it all yourself.”  You don’t!

Let the late, great Levon Helm and The Band sing us out….

Let’s face it:  no matter how spiritual you try to be, at some point, you will encounter people who are — to put it bluntly — pains in the ass.  They push your buttons, work your last nerve, make you want to  punch something.  They can be a co-worker, neighbor, boss, family member, client.  They are someone you can’t easily get away from.   Here’s how they dealt with it on Seinfeld:

Other than “Serenity now!”, there are some practical tricks you can try.  Like the Ice Cube method: write your personal PIA’s (pain in the ass) name on a slip of paper.  Put it in any small container filled with water and stick it in the freezer.  Their ability to interfere, aggravate or otherwise drive you nuts will be sharply curtailed.

This is an old bit of sympathetic magic that  doesn’t harm the person, which is very important.  According to the laws of nature magic, whatever you put out will come back to you “three times three” — this is why Wiccans include “with harm to none” in  their workings.  So as much as you’d like to punch them in the snoot, please control yourself and head for the ice tray.

For all you "Goodfellas" fans, this is not the kind of "ice" I'm suggesting....

For all you “Goodfellas” fans, this is not the kind of “ice” I’m suggesting….

My sister has a boss that would make the Dalai Lama lose his shit.  She had tried everything to make their working relationship better, but he continued to belittle, insult and interfere.  I told her about the freezing method; she went home and stuck his name in her big downstairs ice chest.  Guess what?  The next day, he started heading towards her in the hallway, with that look on his face indicating that he was about to deliver his usual morning beatdown- but all of a sudden, she saw him stop dead in his tracks, turn around and go back to his office.  Since then, he’s largely stayed out of her hair.

There’s a variation on this technique involving water.  If there’s a PIA you need to sit near, say for a meeting or event, put a glass of water between the two of you to block the negativity.  I read about a fellow psychic who did outdoor fairs.  There was one other reader no one ever wanted to work near; she was a raging PIA and her negative vibes kept customers away.  Well, our psychic found herself stuck next to the PIA, and there was nothing she could do about it.  So she poured a cup of water and set it between their tables.  Guess what?  She got more business than any one who’d ever been placed in that slot before.

If you have a really irritating neighbor, put water in mason jars and dot a few along your property line. If you live in an apartment, put it against a common wall.  Just make sure to dump the water down a sewer drain and NOT in your home’s system.  Don’t want that janky vibe coming back into your domain.

Crystals are another helpful tool to block the aggravation of a PIA. Wearing them or keeping a chunk in whatever space they may show up in works. Rose quartz has a gentle, loving vibe that will increase your understanding of why a person is being so obnoxious.

When all else fails, you could chunk it at their head, too....

When all else fails, you could chunk it at their head, too….

If you need to up the protective wattage, black obsidian will absorb the bad juju coming off that person. One of my friends who read in bars –not something I recommend — used to keep a giant piece of black obsidian in her bra to protect her heart chakra.  Kinda made her look like she had a third breast, but it did the trick.

You could chunk this one, too!

You could chunk this one, too!

For that matter, wearing something black will also have a shielding effect.

Creative visualization is also useful for dialing down the irritation of the PIA.  As tempting as it might be, don’t visualize them getting hit by a bus (remember that “three times three” rule); better to envision yourself not being affected by whatever it is they do that makes you nuts.

These are all stopgap measures.  Over the long term, consider that when someone in your life is rubbing your fur backwards, they’re giving you a chance to learn something — if its only to learn creative ways to swear silently.  “Serenity now!”

The Real Trick to Changing Your Life

I met a woman –call her “L”  — in January.  First-time client.  This woman’s back story was pretty amazing: horrible childhood,  husband dies on their 7th anniversary leaving two little boys to raise alone.  So she was training to be an electrician in a decidedly macho business; in fact, she was just promoted to an especially challenging specialty. On top of that, she just wrote a book about her experience stepping into that world.

She is pretty much THIS woman...

She is pretty much THIS woman…

Total badass, right?  But her weak spot was the guy who was living with her.  We’ll call him “R.”  This guy was a cheater and a slob; he spent most of his waking hours putting her down, calling her names.  That was when he wasn’t eating Cheetos on the couch (and wiping his hands on the cushions, probably). He took her money.  He ran around.  The guy was a walking  old-timey blues song and you would wonder why anyone would put up with his sorry ass.  But she did.  It happens.

No surprise that “L” was frustrated and mad with herself.  She knew he was a bonehead. She knew she had put up with this for too long, but she worried about making it financially if he were out of the picture.  She wondered if she’d ever find anyone else.  You’ve heard this story before.

Cut to this afternoon, a few months after our first meeting.  “R” is still in the picture — but not for long.  “L” has been quietly making some plans.  She rented a storage unit to stash her precious items (in case he decided to mess with her — ’cause that’s the kind of tool he is).  She secretly opened up her own credit cards and took a loan against her 401K to give her a cushion.  And, on her way to my office, had hit the Home Depot for a new set of locks.  Bah-ZING!

Don't let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya!

Don’t let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya!

The funny thing is, “R” seems to know something’s up.  And he’s trying to be all nice again — because clearly, his usual m.o. of being a jerk is not having the expected effect of putting her in line.  “L” is still a little freaked out over the change that’s coming — but she keeps moving forward.  No wonder THIS  card came up for her:

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The Moon is about being spooked by uncertainty.  The Moon’s light is deceptive; even on the brightest night, you can’t be quite sure what that is in front of you. Vicious dogs are a-barkin’, creepy things are crawling out of the mud, ready to slime you.   You just want to curl up with the blanket over your head.  It’s a game of Blind Man’s Bluff, where you feel around in the dark, not knowing what you’re about to bump up against. Frustrating. Terrifying.

However, moving forward is what we must do.  And even the smallest effort counts.  It’s the fact that you’re trying in the face of uncertainty that’s the point of this card.  That’s where greatness starts; its Edison’s final push for the light bulb, the last record company visited by the Beatles.  And you won’t BELIEVE how fast the successes and “whoa, where’d THAT come from?”s start piling up on the back of those little moves.

I was so proud of “L”s eensy steps towards a life free from the janky vibe of “R.”   She’s scared, no doubt.  But she’s walking through the uncertain light of the Moon.  She may be crawling on her hands and knees sometimes – but  she’s moving.  Before she knows it, the sun will rise, showing that she’s farther down the road than ever expected.

That’s your word of the day, children: “try.”   And here’s your assignment:  think of something in your life that just ain’t working.  You’re putting up with a job you no longer like, a person you no longer love,  the 15 extra pounds, anything you know you need to change but just can’t.

Now, take a few deep breaths and sit quietly with a pen and pad.  What are the three smallest things you can do to start to change that situation today?  No big moves to overwhelm you, just little baby steps.

Here’s an example.  Let’s say your job is played out.  You’re just grinding it out, day by day, knowing that you want something else, but it’s just too damn hard to consider leaving it.   If this were me (and it was, at one point), here are my three baby steps:

1) Google a few job sites and just poke around for 15 minutes.

2) Write down three people to talk to about  possible opportunities (notice, I’m just writing them down, not actually contacting them at this point)

3) Pull up the resume’ and give it a quick once-over.  Again, we’re not making any actual changes to it. just initiating some energy.

I think you’ll find  that the act of doing something, anything builds momentum towards change. You take another tiny step…and another…and another. So have at it, and let the light of the Moon lead you forward into your dream life!

Tell me how you’re gonna do it in the comments below.  (And if you like what you read, share it!)

Beating the Fear Monster

I’ve been thinking a lot about Fear.   I’m going through some things right now that have me living with a sense of worry, pretty much all the time. That’s what moving forward will do to you.

The wise ones tell us to remember that we are safe at all times, that we are bigger than our worries.  Yeah, OK.  Thanks for that.

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The Attack of the Heebie Jeebies….

Fear shows up in so many ways, doesn’t it?  Worry, anxiety, anger, bitchiness.  All of those stem from a place of not feeling safe.  Example:  look at the downright nasty nature of politics these days.  If you really drill down, it strikes me that all that heat comes from fear of a changing world.  We like things settled, predictable.  When that goes away — or appears that it might– watch out.

So how do we get to that place of feeling serene when all we want to do is dive face down into the biggest martini we can find?  Breathing helps, both on a physical and spiritual level.  The act of consciously breathing releases tension in our body and gives our mind something else to focus on.

I also think that anxiety and worry are the Universe’s way of letting us know that we need to make a change.  Something isn’t working. This particular Tarot card illustrates that awful wide-awake-at-3-in-the-morning feeling…

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Of course, when you discover the answer, making that change brings its own kind of freak-out potential.  Change is not something anyone really likes; look how long the evolutionary process took–  millions of years for us to just stop walking on our knuckles.  But getting up off our knuckles is necessary.

When the Nine of Swords comes up in a reading, I tell my client that worry is counter-productive and that they need to shrink that sense of overwhelm with action.  One small, bite-sized step at a time gives us a sense of control over the situation.  Action is the antidote to Fear– whether its making a plan to get out of a bad situation, or the physical kind that sweats it out of you.

So I’m trying to look at Fear through a different lens, as an indicator that I am making an important change. I’m not thrilled at it riding shotgun on this journey — but with some deep breaths, an action plan and a giant martini, maybe the trip won’t be so bad.

Extreme Makeover: Life Edition

There are tons of “do it yourself”-er shows on TV these days, where experts are making over homes, restaurants, relationships, bad hair — whatever.  And this is the Tarot card that sums up all that creative energy.

The Magician is the card of the entrepreneur or, for that matter, anyone who wants to give something in their life a fresh paint job.  Take a closer look:

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On the table are all four of the symbols that show up in the Tarot deck:  the cup, wand, sword and pentacle.  He’s about to use every resource available to him.  The cup are his emotions and intuitive insights; the wand his practical abilities; the sword represents his ideas and intellect; the pentacle, his earthly resources and physical energies.

He’s pointing down towards the energy of the earth and  up towards the power of the unseen worlds above him.   That squiggly figure-eight shape above his head is called a “lemniscate” and represents being tuned in to the universal power during the whole process.  In a word, he’s about to get jiggy wit it.

Speaking of magicians, here’s one of my all time favorites:  Tim, the Enchanter!

Our Magician is not so much about throwing fireballs from his finger (although that could come in handy); he’s about doing something more useful.  I like the idea of engaging ALL of our abilities and talents in pursuit of a goal.

It gives us an opportunity to take stock of the many gifts we have at our disposal. Do this right now- make a list of your gifts, from your amazing smarts and long list of friends, to your ability to juggle. Really dig in, and see all you’ve been given to run your life.  This is the secret of the Magician.

Here’s mah girl, Chrissie Hynde, to sing us out.  She’s running down her own list of tools: “gonna use my arms, gonna use my legs…”  Work it, honey.

Talk to the Bubble…

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve kept a journal.  From high school through my early adulthood, I spent hours filling dozens of spiral notebooks with every random event, meaningful song lyric and painful moment.  It was my comfort, my friend, my addiction.  And as I moved out of the dorm, into my first apartment(s), I carted them all around in a couple of plastic milk crates.

A few years ago, when I was packing to move again, I randomly pulled out a few of those spiral notebooks, sat down and had a good read.  The pain of my college years leapt off the pages and brought back a ton of memories (OK, I was a bit of a drama queen).  It was hard reading them, realizing how sad and frustrated I had been.  After a couple hours, I realized that I had been carrying pain around with me.  Literally.  So I dragged those crates downstairs and threw just about every one of my journals in the dumpster (I kept a few for laughs, because nothing makes you glad to be older than reading your 16-year old self. Holy crap).

For me, that was a liberating moment.  I never realized how attached I’d become to those notebooks, fearing that if I didn’t have them with me, I’d somehow “forget” my life.  That ceremonial dumping made me realize that I didn’t need those painful reminders — I had lived through them.  Constantly hanging on was not going to serve me.

So I let go.

Those journals were tangible baggage.  But what are you carting around from the past that no longer does anything for you?   How many milk crates are taking up space in your head?

That's a lot of space that could be put to better use...

That’s a lot of space that could be put to better use…

There’s a great exercise that I just discovered to help free yourself of any situation, painful memory, person or whatever is putting a negative splotch on your life:

1)  Picture that person/situation/thing in your mind’s eye.  And here’s the key thing — remain unemotional about it.  Emotion is like sugar to a toddler; it amps up the energy and makes it hard to manage.

Yup, I knew that Ring Ding was a bad idea....

Yup, I knew that Ring Ding was a bad idea….

If the thought of that bad breakup still makes you start clenching up inside, take a moment to breathe.  Now try again.  Maybe make them/it appear like a static picture.  Once you have the image in your head, put it in a bubble of white light.  Call this Part A.

2) Put an image of yourself in a bubble of light, too.  Again, remain unemotional about it.  It’s just a picture of you (aren’t you glad you combed your hair?)  This is Part B.

3) Bring the A and B bubbles together,and attach them within a figure eight.

Like this....

Like this….

4) Now, imagine you’ve got a big pair of scissors and you cut the figure in half, letting Part A just float away, softly, into the light.

Up, up and away....!

Up, up and away….!

I heard of a woman who used this exercise to keep her neighbor — whom she liked — from incessantly playing the piano.  She didn’t know how to tactfully ask him not to practice, so she “released” the image of the neighbor playing….and guess what?  The neighbor suddenly curtailed his sessions dramatically.  And no cops had to be called!

Now, with some things, it may take you a couple attempts to really feel like you’ve rid yourself of its past influence and gotten it out of your energetic field.  You may run into your ex unexpectedly and have a setback.  Just do the exercise again.  I guarantee that with each attempt, their power over you will be dramatically reduced; and when you see your ex with their new honey, you’ll be able to be all cool and calm…and not want to put a shiv in their side.

I’d love to hear how this worked for you, so hit me up in the Comments section….

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else:
you are the one who gets burned.”  Buddha

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