Tag: death

How To Connect With The Dead

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By a certain age, we’ve all acquired a few things:  a credit rating, a droopier ass, an inability to remember why we came into the room.  We’ve also acquired more than a passing familiarity with death and the loss of special people.

Like that droopy ass, this is something we’d rather not have to deal with.  But we do.

Even though I spend a fair amount of time connecting with the dead, it hasn’t made my own personal losses that much easier.  I have felt my mother’s presence many times, but sure wouldn’t mind the chance to hug her again for real.  I know that will happen one day, but in the meantime….

You know, I kinda hate to call them “the dead” because they do indeed continue to live in another dimension.  They interact with us through our dreams, through little signs  (like finding pennies), or by using a medium who is sensitive to their energy.

But I like this exercise, too.

Start by inviting a loved one on the Other Side to meet you in this meditation.

Choose a time when you will be completely relaxed and undisturbed.

Get comfortable and take several deep breaths.  Envision a warm ball of white light surrounding and protecting you. Now settle in and focus on your breathing.

Imagine that you’re at the top of a beautiful marble staircase.  You begin walking down the steps, noticing how sweet the air is and how peaceful and relaxed you are.

At the bottom of the staircase is a path that winds through a beautiful, lush garden.  Step onto this path, noticing the beautiful trees above you, the flowers in bloom and the birdsong over your head.  It’s a magical, peaceful place.

Continue focusing on your breath as you walk along this winding path.  Ahead is a garden gate.  Push the gate open and walk inside.  Amidst the greenery and flowers is a marble pavilion, open on all sides.  The marble columns glow with light.  You can see two comfortable couches inside.

Walk up the steps to this pavilion and settle into one of the couches.  The pillows are deep and soft, and you’re totally comfortable.

As you relax in this special place, you hear footsteps on the pavilion stairs.  Your loved one has arrived.

Look at them as they settle into the other couch.  How do they look? What are they wearing?  Don’t be surprised if they appear younger than when they passed.

Just stay in this quiet place for a moment, feeling their presence.  They’re so happy to be with you again.  Bask in that love.

Now ask them a question.  Go with the first response you get.  It may be a gesture, they may “show” you something, like a symbol.  Or you may hear words.  The most important thing is to not doubt what you get.  This is really happening.

When its time to leave, thank your loved one for meeting you and give them a hug.  Allow this beautiful, eternal energy to flow through you, and know you can be with them any time you want in this special place.

As you leave the pavilion and go back through the gate, you turn once more to see them smiling at you.  Walk back along the path to the marble staircase.  Walk up the steps, coming back into the present moment.  Open your eyes.

It’s a good idea to jot down your experience in a notebook.  This will help you notice any information you got in the meditation when it shows up in real life.

And it will.

One day, you will be able to hug your loved one again for real.  But in the meantime, the Pavilion is a great meeting place.

I’d love to hear about your experiences after you do this meditation.  Leave me the details in the Comments.

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Death — It Ain’t What You Think

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My best friend lost her father this week.  I stopped in to give her a hug, and over coffee, she shared her story.  One of the things she was struck by was  how fast he went, shortly after entering the hospital.  She said it was like he had made the decision to leave and had surrendered to that path.   “Surrender” is a good word for death in all its forms.

It put me in mind of this Tarot card:

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Whenever the Death card comes up in a reading, I make it a point to tell the client that its not as scary as it looks.  Death is riding a horse, with people bowing down in front of him.  They are allowing him to ride over them, pushing them back into the earth where they will become part of a new cycle.

The dude in the yellow, however, is trying to stop Death in its tracks.  Guess what? Not gonna happen, and the more he fights it, the harder the process will be.   Don’t be a little bitch, Yellow Guy.  Get with the program.

Anyway, the white rose on the flag represents the purity of the new state they will enter into. The river running nearby symbolizes the endless and enduring stream of Life.  The sun is rising in the background, signifying a new beginning.

I take this card to represent the need to let something “die” in order to move on ( I will also read it as someone who may have died recently, but I don’t take it as a harbinger that someone is about to kick the bucket.  I don’t believe that’s for us to see — just my opinion.)

When someone is hanging on to something that has run its course — a relationship, a job, a habit, an ideology – things get “stuck.”  You feel like you’re covering the same stale ground and getting nowhere, and guess what?  You ain’t.  So maybe you need to surrender to that fact.

When you acknowledge that something is done, finished, kaput, you clear a space for new energy.  It’s like a big cosmic garage sale.

I’m not saying that letting go  is easy.  But get the ball rolling by recognizing that something is played out and is serving no purpose other than to make you frustrated, bored and unhappy.

By  focusing on the idea of letting go to make room for the new, you’ll facilitate the process.  It may happen in stages, it may happen all at once.  That may create some anxiety (after all, its familiar), but breathe through each moment.  Always remember that you’re not “losing” something so much as gaining a new opportunity to move forward in your life.  To me, this is the big lesson of the Death card.

Surrender.