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Do-It-Yourself Ghostbusting

Recently, a friend texted me saying that her daughter who is away at college, had suddenly become plagued by a ghost (or something) in the campus housing.  It had gotten sooo bad, that she and her housemates were nervous wrecks.  Would I reach out and help?  Of course.

When I spoke with my friend’s daughter, the girl described lots of noises, doors shutting on their own, things like that.  It had just begun happening a couple of weeks earlier, seemingly for no reason. In that time, she and her roommates had become increasingly freaked out – – and had reached out to some other psychic-types (not me, that’s for damn sure) who had NOT helped, namely because those people had told her and her housemates that they now had gone from one spirit to multiple entities.  No particular reason for that assessment — but the girls were made completely nuts.

I understood how scared she was.  But I had to do the phone equivalent of grabbing her by the shoulders, shaking her and telling her to….CALM THE HELL DOWN.

Being that these girls are 20, they are still susceptible to that squealing/slumber party/”did you hear THAT?!” energy we allllll remember (c’mon, I know you do).  Look,  when something weird is going on,I know that it’s hard to stay chill — but the more you allow yourself to be terrified, the more that energy feeds whatever is going on around you.  It’s a physical law.  That’s why I got annoyed at the reports of those other “experts” telling them that now, they had a BIGGER problem.  Because they were contributing to the panic.

So, my first piece of advice is to find a way to stay cool.  The thing about ghosts is, they really can’t hurt you — and you, as a corporeal being, have way more power in the situation.  Often, ghosts don’t even know that you’re there — from their perspective, they’re just on a feedback loop, reliving a moment(s) from their life.  My book, OK, So You’re Dead….talks more about this.

Here’s an idea:  I told this young lady to treat whatever is going on in her dorm like a “raccoon getting in.”  If a raccoon or squirrel or mice get into your house, yes, it’s a pain — but you don’t lose your mind over it.  You just deal.  So if there are entities or energies that are disturbing the peace, don’t assign any special weight to them:  treat them like the bothersome guests that they are, and know that you can generally “exterminate” them.

So why is this activity happening?  She had no idea, but generally speaking, paranormal stuff can kick up when an older property is being remodeled, etc.  Moving things around in a structure shifts things energetically.  It doesn’t always happen, so don’t be afraid to re-do those floors — but it’s a typical reason.

Another reason is when folks “open a door” without knowing what they’re doing — as in playing with Ouija boards, etc.  I don’t necessarily believe that connecting with spirit-side via the talking board is evil — but it IS a portal, and if you treat it like a game, you may get some unwanted side-effects.  I wrote more about that here.

So if you feel you have unwanted energies in your house, what can you do on a practical level to clear them out — or at least, calm it down?  Here are some tips to do your own “ghostbusting.”

-Start by telling the ghost to leave you alone.  Let them know that they’re dead and they need to move on to “the Light.”    I know, it sounds a little too easy — but it does help. Sadly, many ghosts don’t know they’ve actually passed — so help them cross the finish line.

The trick is to do this when you’re not in an emotional mood:  being angry or frightened is not the state you want to be in.  When you’re calm is the time to lay down some rules.  Think of them like someone who’s lost their way, and you’re the kindly stranger giving them directions to get back home.  That’s really the bottom line.

-Sea salt.  This is an ancient “go-to” remedy for clearing out negative vibes.  If you can, go outside, and starting at the far left corner of the property, begin pouring out the salt, working clockwise and creating a perimeter.  If you only have a room or a portion of a building, throw a pinch of the salt (because a big, long line of salt may not be practical), still moving counterclockwise.  Pay extra attention to door entrances and windowsills.  As you do either ritual, say “I protect my home with this salt.  All negative energy must stop.”

-Shielding.  The idea is to visualize a protective barrier around your room, home or property overall.  Visualization is a powerful practice, and it works.  All you need to do is to relax, close your eyes and “walk through” or “around” where you live.  “See” the details in your mind’s eye.  Spend about 30 seconds or so doing this (it doesn’t have to be a big thing).  Now that you’ve done the “mental walk-through,” visualize a big bubble of white light settling around the property.  I often think of one of those glass domes you put over pastry.  Once you’ve done that, know that nothing bad can penetrate and that you’re safe from all harm.

-Sage.  Native Americans frequently burn it to clear out stale energies and clear their holiest spaces. Burning the herb thyme is also said to ward off spirits.  Personally, I’ve never done the Thyme thing, but I hear its effective.  Let me know your results if you try it!

-Finally, there’s a prayer/chant that is useful to add to the mix. You don’t need to be religious to use it.  The term “God” is kind of all-purpose:

“The light of God surrounds us/me.

The love of God enfolds us/me.

The power of God protects us/me.

The presence of God protects us/me.

Wherever we are (I am0, God is.

And all is well.”

 

The bottom line?  If loons like Bill Murray can get ghosts under control, so can you.  So don’t freak out!

 

Finally and as a reminder, I’ll leave you with this one by one of my favorite groups.  We are indeed spirits living in a material world.

Magical Spring Cleaning Tips

Even though there’s still some snow on the ground where I live, it’s technically “spring.” And that puts most of us in mind of “spring cleaning.”

After a long winter inside, it’s time to throw open the windows, dive into untidy drawers and closets and give our homes a “reset.” You can increase the positive power of your efforts with these tips.

  • As you clean, keep an “intention” in mind. Let’s say your family went through a tough financial spot during the winter months. While cleaning, think about clearing out that heavy energy and drawing in more prosperity. Make up a little chant or affirmation if you’d like (something positive, like, “Better days are here”) – but even if you don’t come up with an affirmation, keep your new vision running through your head.
  • De-cluttering a closet may not be your favorite thing – but trust me, it has a super-powerful effect. Getting rid of stuff you no longer use (and donating it to someone who could use it) spreads positive energy. Making sure your remaining items are neatly hung/folded/stacked makes you feel more peaceful. (By the way, if you own a cat and find him/her curled up in a closet, they’re doing you a “feng shui” favor by breaking up stale energy)
  • There’s a current trend, based on Japanese thinking, in which you look at each and every item you own. If you don’t absolutely love it, you’re supposed to get rid of it. For me, I don’t have the time to do that – but there is something in the idea that too much “stuff” just clogs up the free flow of energy in your home. Maybe I’ll try it with a few things and get back to you.
  • Although I own several vacuum cleaners  – with my favorite being the Dyson  (massive pet hair, don’tcha know) – one powerful magical tip for spring cleaning is to take a new broom and go through each room, sweeping in a counterclockwise direction. This symbolically “undoes” any old, stale energy. Again, your intention is the most important thing.

  • Speaking of brooms, take the time to sweep the entrance points of your home. (I keep a separate “outdoor” broom for this purpose – meaning, the “new” broom from last year’s spring cleaning) As you do it, envision that you’re sweeping away old energies and clearing a space for great new things to come into your life.
  • Some magical practitioners are big on using only natural items for spring cleaning: vinegar, essential oils, what have you. Me? I still go hardcore with the Clorox and scum-busters. I do believe that “intention” is the most important cleaning ingredient. But there is ONE natural item I feel is invaluable in your spring cleaning, and that is, a sage bundle.

  • The Native Americans have used sage for eons to cleanse and purify a space. Once you’ve done your bit with a mop, seal the deal by lighting a sage bundle and moving through each   room. ( I keep an ashtray underneath to catch any burning bits that might fall off as I work)   Let the smoke remove any leftover negative energy. As with your broom, move in a               counterclockwise direction. Open the windows to let both the smoke and the old energy out. I think you’ll find that your home feels considerably lighter and cleaner after this one ritual.

Here’s a bonus tip. After you complete your spring cleaning, stash a $20 bill (or higher denomination, if you can afford it) under the mat of your home’s main entrance (meaning, the one your family uses the most). Every time someone steps on that mat, it charges the bill and helps draw more prosperity into your life.

Kiss 2016 “Buh-Bye”; How to Prep for 2017

If you hadn’t yet noticed, 2016 has been one of the suckiest years on record. At every level, it has been awful, with a capital “awf.” All those celebrity deaths….international tragedies…the political nastiness. I want to take a shower, just writing those words. On a personal note, I had to take a biiiiiig break from my psychic work to deal with some stuff.

Again, “suckiest year on record.”

I knew it was gonna suck when we lost THIS guy right off the bat….

 

The good news? It’s almost over. Numerologically speaking, 2016 was a “9” year, meaning, “endings, wrapping-ups, loss.” And boy howdy, did we get ‘em. I can’t tell you how many people I know who lost jobs, relationships, their minds, you name it.

The flip side of this s**t show is that 2017 is a “1” year – meaning, “fresh starts, new beginnings, do-overs.” So we’re all getting a chance to hit “reboot” on our lives. But to make that energy really effective, we need to send that janky crap from 2016 out the door. With a giant kick in its ass. Here’s what I plan to do before the ball drops in Times Square.

  • SAGE THE S**T OUT OF EVERYTHING: Sage has long been a go-to tool for clearing negative energy. Get yourself a sage stick, light it and let the smoke do its thang in your home, your office, car – pretty much anywhere and everywhere you hang. Open a window if you can to let the stale vibes out. Hit the corners of every room (where energy, like dust-bunnies, tends to congregate). As you work, envision all the crap of this year going up in smoke – literally.
  • WRITE A “FAREWELL LETTER” TO THE YEAR: It’s easy to let the heaviness, frustration and despair of 2016 leave a mark on our energetic fields – kind of like holding on to a grudge. Clear the slate by writing a letter to the year, venting all your feelings about whatever went down in your world, and releasing them. Really, let it fly. No one else will read it. This exercise is like writing to a bad ex, telling them to hit the road, and good riddance. If possible, burn it in the fireplace, on a grill or (super-carefully) in your sink or bathtub. The point is to put those feelings down, then (as with the sage) send them up in smoke.
  • USE SALT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE: Salt is a traditional element for clearing and holding off bad “juju.” After sage-ing your space, take a little salt and put it around windowsills and doorjambs, to keep anything funky from entering your nice, cleansed space.

My other favorite use for salt is in the form of salt scrubs. If you’ve been feeling a little “off,” use a salt scrub in the shower to remove it. I do this on a regular basis to stay a bit more balanced.

OK, so now that you’ve done some clearing, give the fresh energy of 2017 a boost by setting your intentions for the new year. “Intention” is the key here; whether you write your goals down or just “think” them, adding “I intend to….” adds some extra punch. So take full advantage of the “I” word as you consider what you want to make happen this year. Because we have more power than we know; the Universe doesn’t operate in a vacuum. We are the other half of the achievement equation. Step up, and make your stand.

THE MAIN THING IS…2016 made many of us feel powerless. Too many people died. Too much negativity overwhelmed any sense of making a difference. I felt it; so did many people in my world. But with this fresh new “1” energy entering the scene, we need to reclaim our sense of autonomy. Perhaps we can’t directly influence the big stuff; but we can make an impact in small ways. So focus on what you’re able to impact: little acts of everyday kindness (especially to your self); putting your energy into the one or two things that really matter most in your world, like supporting certain charities; keeping your attention on what makes you happy or fulfilled, and not letting any residual negativity drag you down. For me, I’ll be tuning out cable news and watching a lot more old movies, like “The Thin Man,” reminders of a more civilized time (and funny, to boot).

How can you not love Asta?

The thing is to reclaim a sense of power over your own life in 2017. Because the “1” energy is yours to use. Happy New Year – now go forth and be the badass that you are.

And remember: if I can help you sort out the path forward, get in touch.

Why Patience Is A Virtue…and A Pain In the Ass

One of my long-time clients has a problem with patience. That message comes up frequently in her readings – to the point that we both laugh about it. She’s a woman in a hurry and has lots of things she wants to make better in her life.

Her problem is, when they don’t occur on her timetable, she gets frustrated. Raise your hand if you know how she feels. I’ll wait…..

We want things, and as Veruca Salt sang in Willy Wonka, “I want it NOW.” It doesn’t make it any easier that we live in an age of ATMs, drive-thru windows, microwaves and instant downloads. Our ability to hang in for the long haul has atrophied.

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But what we have to keep in mind is that the Universe has its own timetable. And I believe there’s a reason for that. By aligning ourselves more with the process than the result, we gain far more than the “thing” itself.

This is not to say that we just sit and wait and do nothing. We continue to put some effort towads our goals. We keep them in mind. But we’re not super-attached to the “when.” It’s a partnership with powers greater than ours.

The 7 of Pentacles in the Tarot shows a farmer looking at the results of his patience. These things have grown in accordance with nature’s clock – not his. In that time, he’s tended them, watered and weeded – but let Nature do its thing.

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When something hasn’t manifested in your life just yet, the Universe may be telling you that you’re not quite ready for it. You’re still in the process. And there’s a ton of value in that.

Before she was twerking and sticking her tongue out at every photo op, Miley Cyrus did a song that is applicable to what I’m talking about.   When you’re struggling with patience, take a look around at what “the climb” is teaching you. That will make reaching the peak that much richer.

Crystal Basics

Whenever you get a bunch of psychics together, there’s bound to be one who’s so loaded down with crystals it’s a wonder she can walk without assistance.   To each their own, I suppose.

What did Coco Chanel say?  Take off one thing before leaving the house.

What did Coco Chanel say? Take off one thing before leaving the house.

I’m a bit simpler with the use of crystals in my work. It wasn’t always that way: when I first discovered these wondrous stones, my apartment was littered with them. And so was I. With all that weight around my neck, it’s a wonder that I wasn’t making some chiropractor a rich man. But since then, I’ve learned a few things:

1)   More is not necessarily better. In fact, my personal feeling is that using too many at once jam up their individual frequencies. I limit myself to three at any one time. For instance, when I read I’m wearing a quartz crystal and an ametheyst. And I have a piece of celestite (for higher vibrations) nearby.

Some days I swap out a piece of black obsidian to ground my energies, or some lapis. But I consciously choose what I need, rather than just piling it all on.

(I wrote about some essential stones everyone should have here.)

2) Crystals pick you. I spent many an hour perusing shelves of beautiful stones, only to go home with the fugliest one in the shop. It had everything to do with its energy and how it felt in my hand. This is probably one of the coolest things about crystals –actually feeling the energy they possess.

3) Size is meaningless. Unlike some of the men I’ve dated, size in a crystal isn’t everything. Sure, those ginormous hunks of amethyst are glorious to look at, but I have a teeny one that gives off some righteous vibes. Just like Tyrion Lannister on Game of Thrones, small can kick ass.

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4) Same goes for raw versus polished. Personally, I like the look and feel of raw crystals, but that doesn’t mean they’re necessarily more powerful. The polished ones, that are all shiny and with the jagged edges smoothed off, work too. It’s an aesthetic.

5) Like a tired mommy, crystals need recharging, I have a giant slab of selenite that I use as a charging station for my smaller stones. Just leave ‘em on there and let them soak up the energy. But sometimes, I just put them on a tray and let them bask in the sun. When I’m feeling witchy, I do the same, but let them soak up the rays of a full moon. And occasionally, I put them all in a big bowl of salt water to clean off the funky energy they may have picked up along the way.

When I’m at the beach, I’ll to put them in a nylon stocking and swoosh them in the ocean, then let them dry in the sun. Now THAT’S the bomb of crystal cleaning.

So these are my fave crystal tips. Got any of your own you’d like to share?

Boo! Some Thoughts On Ghosts

Last night, I was still in a food coma from Thanksgiving and all its leftovers, so I found myself on the couch watching a marathon of one of those ghost/haunting shows.  Things flying through the air, funky smells, noises, apparitions, lots of screaming people.  Made me happy for my quiet little un-haunted house.

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But it got me to thinking about ghosts.  As a psychic-medium, I deal with spirits.  But I have yet to encounter one of those spooky, home-wrecking ghosts (and if I did, I’d probably need a change of underwear.  I’m not ashamed to admit it.)  Anyway,  I have some thoughts on the subject.

First off, ghosts are spirits who have yet to go to the Light. They hang around for lots of reasons.  I think the biggest one is a fear of going to the Light; they’re afraid of having to face up to any bad behavior, real or exaggerated.  So they hang out between the worlds.  I mean, we’re given free will in this life, and to some extent, that includes our choices after we die.

Many ghosts will just sort of “pace” between the worlds.  They stay in an area that seems comforting and familiar, even as it changes around them. In their eyes, their home is the same as it was back in the day, even if now, there’s a freeway runnin’ through the yard (apologies to Tom Petty).

Some ghosts may get noisy, and I think its their way of letting people know they’re still around.   I mean, considering we live in an age where we update our social media every 5 minutes, can’t blame a lost soul for ratttling some plates to make their presence known.

Sometimes a ghost is actually just an energetic imprint.  Something intense happened and punched its mark into the atmosphere – like the appearance of Civil War soldiers on the battlefield.  I hate to think those poor guys are still having to relive their trauma; I think that what gets “seen” on those ghost walks is almost like a movie playing out long after the actors have left the set.

For spirits who are indeed stuck here – for whatever reason – there’s something called “Soul Rescue.”  This is a specialized form of mediumship, where the medium works with certain spirit guides to help convince the hangers-on to move on to the Light.

But I mean, when you think of how many people die in a year – and how comparitively few ghosts there are in the world, hauntings are pretty rare.

The thing they all have in common though, is to scare the bejeepers out of most anyone who encounters them.

Fear is a very powerful energy; for some disembodied spirits, it can literally feed them.  If you can dial back the fear, you can also dial down the influence – or frequency in appearance – of a ghost.  Whether they’re benign like Casper or scary like Freddie makes no difference; that initial “Holy crap!” reaction is like a shot of 5-Hour Energy to spirits.

When it comes to dealing with ghosts, anything that makes you feel more powerful and less fearful – prayer, holy medallions, lucky talismans, tequila – will help.  Archangel Michael is a great ally to call on when you’re feeling anxious (ghosts or not).  The Catholic Chuch believes he did battle with Lucifer, so he can take on your jittery nerves or garden-variety spook without breaking a sweat.

One of my bedtime rituals is to ask Michael to stand guard around my home as I sleep.  It makes for sweet dreams.

Just for fun, other cultures have some interesting other “ghostbusting” traditions:

-Put salt across the threshold of your door.  This is good for keeping any janky energies in general from entering (like your pain-in-the-ass neighbor).  My friend Joanne says that, in Greece, they put sugar under the doormat for similar reasons.

-In the Far East, priests purified and protected their temples with cinnamon sticks.  Place a bundle by your door or over the windows.

-Wind chimes began as a way to scare off negative energies.  And they sound awesome!

-Wear anything made of silver or obsidian as protection.

-Garlic over an entry way keeps anything troublesome away.

Should Psychics Charge Money?

It happened again.  I’m scanning my morning Yahoo headlines and see that a Florida psychic is on trial for scamming her clients out of — wait for it — something like 25 MILLION (with a “mill”) American dollars.  She managed to get otherwise intelligent folks to hand over gold, jewelry and cash, all in the interest of “sacrificing” to rid their lives of evil (’cause “money is the root of all evil,” get it?).

This shameless skank insist that her clairvoyant gift had been in the family for 1500 years.  Gee — with all that ancestral weight, you’d think shed’a seen the law coming to shut her down.

Houdini could escape the cuffs; you can't.

Houdini could escape the cuffs; the phony psychic can’t.

I friggin’ hate stories like these, because it tars all legitimate psychic/mediums with a bad brush.   No legit intuitive will EVER ask for more than their standard fee.  Extras like curse-removing, intervening with the gods on your behalf or invisible bitch-slapping should not even enter the discussion.  But this begs another question:  if you have a gift, should you be charging at all?

The answer is: HELL TO THE YES.

No matter how naturally intuitive someone is, using that ability takes energy.  A lot of it.  You don’t want to see me after a long afternoon of reading:  its not pretty and usually requires some serious time on the living room couch.

Most of us devote a lot of effort to keeping our gift sharp, in order to provide the best possible information we can to our clients.  We take classes, buy and read books, travel to sacred sites, meditate.  It’s not just for fun:  its specifically to help us be of service.

Then there’s the fact that a reading requires  time.  Outside of the actual session, there’s preparation involved:  in my case, I spend about a half hour before you even get here to meditate, tune in, clear the space with sage and incense.

Psychics could be using that kind of time for plenty of other things:  car pools, laundry, making flan.  Plus, most of the psychic/mediums I know have full or part-time jobs, families and other things pulling at us.  So, at the very least, you’re paying us for our time.

On the subject of “giving it away,” most every psychic/medium (myself included) has frequently used their gift for someone who’s in need, and not taken dime one.  We want to help, and our hearts are softer than most when it comes to a person who needs to hear a message or get some direction.  The point is, we shouldn’t be “expected” to work pro bono.

Very few of us get rich from this work.  The John Edwards and Theresa Caputos are few and far between.  But our efforts to help and heal others in our own little way should be honored monetarily.  Every reader has their own rate card; like any professional,  I’m up front with mine (which you can see here).  I’m not a fan of those “one free question” types or the ones who only charge you $5.  ‘Cause you KNOW they’re gonna suck you in for a lot more.  This is not a party game; it’s serious endeavor and should be respected as such.

What do you think about psychics and money?  Share your comments with me.

Sorta get what you pay for with this type....

Sorta get what you pay for with this type….

Get the Funk Out: Space Clearing Basics

This is the time of year when we start getting that “spring cleaning” itch.  As the weather warms up, we want to open the windows and let in some fresh air, banishing the stale old winter vibe.  You can tell when a room “feels” funky, can’t you?  I know I sure as heck can.  So cleaning — spring or otherwise — has a calming, healing effect on us.

Whenever you’re vacuuming, washing windows or flipping a mattress, you’re doing a version of “space clearing,” moving molecules (not to mention cat hair) around.  But there are some other tools you can add to your bucket to really bring some energetic freshness to a space.  Here’s what I like to use.

SAGE:  This is the classic clearing tool, breaking up anything negative and resetting things back to neutral.  You can buy sage in several forms, but I like the stick form myself.

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Sageing – or “smudging” as its often called — is easy.  Light the end of the sage bundle, then blow out the flame.  The sage will begin to smoke.  I go room by room, walking in a counterclockwise motion and moving the bundle up and down to thoroughly cleanse the area (in nature work, counterclockwise is the direction used to reverse or undo something). I pay particular attention to corners, since stagnant energy can hang out there, just like dust bunnies.  BIG SAFETY NOTE:  Keep a fireproof container under the sage, to catch any random sparks.  You can use a shell, like this:

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I carry a ceramic dish filled with sand under my sage stick; when I’m done, I extinguish it by grinding it into the sand.

When smudging, open a window to carry the stale vibes out of the room.  Oh, and one more note:  sage smells kinda like pot.  So be prepared for some funny looks from your neighbors.  And maybe a Cheech and Chong joke or two.

SALT:  Salt has long been known for its power to ground energy and keep negativity away.  After a good vacuuming, I’ll put a pinch of sea or kosher salt in the corners of a room.  You can also sprinkle a bit near your front door to keep bad vibes from entering your home or office.

It's not just for potato chips anymore...

It’s not just for potato chips anymore…

SOUND:  I love the sound of bells and chimes.  There are windchimes all over my backyard — and a few in my house, too.  Chimes have the power to break up stale energy.  Tibetan singing bowls can do that, too when you use them in a space clearing.

I’ve gotten so many questions on how to make the bowl” sing,” and there is a trick to it, so here’s a quick how-to demo (and please pardon my Bad Hair Day)….

Once you’ve gotten the bowl to sing, walk around the space counterclockwise, hitting corners and closets to break up old energy.  If you don’t have a bowl or bells, clapping your hands can also clear a space.

WATER:  We wash our faces, dishes, clothes, floors and dogs with it.  And it clears away energy funk nicely, too.  I fill a spray bottle with water and a drop or two of lavender oil (just ’cause it smells nice).  Then I hold my hands over the bottle, putting an intention into it to purify whatever it touches.  I spray this energized water into the corners of a room, again moving in a counterclockwise direction.

Anyhoozle, doing a regular space clearing will make a huge difference in how things flow.  People will be less cranky, animals will behave a little better , everyone will just feel …better.  And by the way, don’t limit these techniques to your home.  Clearing your office and your car, anywhere you spend a lot of time, is a good habit to get into.

So put down the Swiffer and get your sage on, already.  ‘Cause this is the only kind of funk you want around you…

 

Any other ways you get rid of unwanted funk?  Share it in the comments!