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Don’t Fear the Reader

She leaned across the table and said, “I had you come here this afternoon while he’s not here, because he thinks this stuff is like black magic….”

(Sigh) Man, if I had a dime for every time I’ve heard that psychics are spawns of the devil, I’d be writing this from a beach In Turks and Caicos.  With a drink in my hand.  And someone rubbing my feet.

My next office....

My next office….

Here’s the thing:  as a reader, I believe, to the deepest part of my soul, that what I do is in the service of all that’s positive and good.  I believe that I’m working on behalf of a Higher Power, helping my clients find a path to their happiest, most fulfilled life.  And if that doesn’t that fall under the category of “spiritual,” I don’t know what does.

And there’s more: part of my prep work for a session is to say the Lord’s Prayer.  I also ask that all information that I get be for my client’s highest good and the good of all.  Finally, I surround myself and the space with white light, only allowing positive energies in.

OK, so I frequently use the Tarot during a reading, and of all metaphysical tools, the cards probably have the worst rep.  There’s a reason for that — but it’s not what you might expect.

Way, waaaaay back in the day, the Church was the arbiter of everything.  EVERYthing.  People got their direction from the priests, who were considered the one and only link to the Divine.

"Don't question me..."

“Don’t question me…”

Well, the Tarot — along with other esoteric systems — reveals our own link to the Source. The theme that runs through Tarot is that of personal responsibility, and one’s own experience of God.  Naturally, the Big Dawgs of organized religion did not dig this idea.  AT ALL. So they tried to keep the flock in line by scaring them.  It’s that simple.

Despite the fact that we now know the world isn’t flat and dragons don’t exist (at least here in New Jersey), many people still buy into these myths.  I can’t tell you how many discussions I’ve had with several family members of the Evangelical bent that basically end with, “You’re going to Hell.”  Hey, thanks for coming!  Remind me to call in sick to the next family dinner!

And they think what I do is wierd?

And they think what I do is wierd?

While I fully recognize that there are some who dabble in the dark side of things for their own power,  I do not acknowledge them.  I simply don’t.  Natural law will soon show them their mistake (as in, whatever you put out comes back three times). It’s a little like that scene in The Wizard of Oz where Glinda the Good Witch laughs at the Wicked Witch and banishes her from Munchkin Land “before someone drops a house on you, too.”  You just don’t give it any power. (In the end, Natural Law — in the form of a bucket of water — took care of her wrinkly green ass too, didn’t it?)

Do not mess with the power of pink sparklies....

Do not mess with the power of pink sparklies….

So whatever myths, legends, rumors or campfire tales you may have heard about psychics, I urge you to find out the truth for yourself.  Think for yourself.  I consider it part of my job to give you food for thought — and a sense of your own power to direct your life.  So can I get an “amen” up in here?

THE OUIJA HEEBIE-JEEBIES

I still remember the first time I ever used a Ouija board:  I was in fifth grade, having a sleepover with my friends.  After a long, giggly debate, we decided the dead person we most wanted to contact was….Betsy Ross.  Go figure. (I voted for Bobby Sherman, but he wasn’t dead– a minor technicality).

“Easy come….easy goooo…..”

Anyway, we shut the bedroom door, lit a candle, gathered ‘round the board….and promptly had the crap scared out of us when my mother (listening on the other side of the door) gave a spooky “Woooooooo.”  Cue the sound of high-pitched squealing 10 year olds.

Ouija boards have a reputation, which hasn’t been helped by a long line of stories starting with “I heard about this guy who….” or movies where they burst into flames. But I personally don’t believe they are the default gateway to the demonic, and here’s why.

The board is a way of communicating with the spirit world.  Like any work with spirit, certain precautions are necessary.  Whenever I do a reading, meditation, etc, I make a habit of surrounding myself with the white light of love and protection.  I declare that only positive and helpful entities be allowed into this circle.  To me, this is my “Beware of Dog” sign to any spirit that might want to make mischief .

The same kind of precautions apply when working with a Ouija board.  You only want “good spirits” to come through.   And here’s one more thing I learned from a very experienced medium:  have a bouncer.  She works with a board all the time, but generally gets the information from one spirit guide alone.  When she wants to communicate with a different spirit, that guide steps aside – but keeps an eye out in case things start to go off the rails. He has the power to tell that troublesome entity to hit the road.

“I don’t care WHO you are….you’re not on the list….”

Several years ago, I had a Wiccan friend of mine make a Ouija board for me.  See how beautiful it is?

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She put a lot of positive energy into it – and added one special touch on the back:  the engraved message, “with harm to none.”  When I work with this wonderful board, I have one of my guides serve as my doorman.  I also make sure to start every session with positive intentions and the circle of protective light.

Having said this, however, I don’t recommend working with a board casually.Like chainsaws, explosives or PowerPoint,  you need to know what you’re doing.  It’s just good sense.

Kids and chainsaws….never a good mix.

As for all those tales of spooky Ouija boards?  Wait…it’s spelling out something….”Forget….about….it….”!

“My kitty sees dead people!”

I work as a psychic/medium – but don’t limit myself to two-legged clients.  I’m frequently asked to talk to pets, including those who’ve passed over.  And their take on that experience is pretty interesting.

Not quite the Spirit Pet I'm talking about....

Animals understand – on a very fundamental level — that death is merely a change from one form of energy to another.  I believe its because they’re closer to nature; they recognize the rhythms of life, and don’t attach so much baggage to them.

They also know that, while death may keep them from playing fetch, it doesn’t really separate them from their human friends. They still pop in to curl up on their favorite spot on the sofa, or patrol the house, making sure everyone is safe and sound.

"3 a.m. and all is well...."

A spirit pet will often help a living animal adjust to a new home.  In my volunteer rescue work, we placed a cat with a family who had just lost their sweet Pearl a few months before.  I strongly sensed  — and so did the new kitty – Pearl’s spirit.  But I also got that she was helping him figure out his new surroundings  and settle in.

Animal spirits frequently  “direct” their owners to their next pet. They know best what that person needs, so they’ll arrange for a certain stray to cross their path….or to spot an ad for a dog in need of a new home.  Its kind of like being a four-legged matchmaker!

"Hmmm....a Boxer mix dating a Yorkie? Not gonna work..."

Intellectually, most of us understand that we’ll be reunited with our furry loved ones at some point, but it’s a tougher sell to our hearts.  Right before you go to sleep, ask your spirit pet to make its presence known.  You may dream of them, or think you feel them jumping on the bed, or brushing up against you (they are).   Keep your radar up and you’ll start to sense them more often – because that powerful bond between us never dies.

“Well done, Medium Raya”

The headline is a line from one of my all-time favorite shows, I Love Lucy.  In an old bit from their vaudeville days, Fred introduces Ethel, who’s posing as a medium in order to lead a seance which will hopefully impress Ricky’s spirit-obsessed new boss.  Here’s a little taste…

Having done my share of working with spirit, I can pretty much attest to the fact that it does NOT go down the way it does in Lucy.  For one thing, I don’t wear a turban — way too Norma Desmond/”Sunset Boulevard” for my taste.  And unless the lights go out in the bathroom while I’m putting on my makeup, my eyeliner is on straight.  There are a few other aspects of connecting with the spirit world that my clients tend to ask me about, so off we go.

First off, a medium and a psychic are not the same .  A medium specifically works to communicate with the spirits of those who’ve passed on.  A psychic tunes into the energies of people [living, generally], places and things, to provide an insight.  The process of mediumship and psychic reading is similar, in that you’re “turning off” your own brain and allowing your Higher Self to take over and receive information from a source beyond the everyday – but the goals are different.  They’re essentially two different channels on the same radio.  Simply put, all mediums tend to be psychic — but not all psychics are necessarily mediums.  [For those of you reading this with experience as a medium or psychic, I know, I know:  this is a waaaaaay simplified description.  Let me know what you think in the “Comments” section below.  Now back to our regularly scheduled blog….]

As in baseball, ballet or pro-wrestling, some people are born with a gift and it takes hardly anything to bring that gift to the forefront [we hate those people].  The rest of us can learn their particular skill, but it takes some doing, and some will be better at it than others.  I believe that’s the case with psychic ability — and to some extent, mediumship.  It’s a natural function, but some have the volume on their particular radio turned way up loud, and tuned in perfectly right from the git-go; the rest of us need to fiddle with the dials.

I began working only psychically, but after some profound experiences with the spirit world, I made  a conscious decision to develop my own mediumship abilities.   Unlike many mediums, I wasn’t talking to my dead granny as a child;  I pursued this as a discipline, because it intrigued me and because it was a way to deepen my service. To that end, I spent some time at the Arthur Findlay College outside of London, considered the “Harvard” of spiritual studies.  I joined students from all over the world — and at all levels of expertise — who were there to sharpen their ability to recognize the presence of spirit, connect with it and convey messages.

It kicked my ass.

The coursework involved getting highly specific details about spirits, then trying to connect them with someone in the group.  The focus on “specifics” is two-fold:  1) to confirm that there is indeed life after death and 2) to combat the  perception of mediumship as a bunch of hooey (keep reading for more on this).

As if this wasn’t challenging enough, add in language and cultural differences, jet lag, and heavy English cuisine, and its no surprise that I was completely, utterly knackered at the end of each day.

...and needed one of these, STAT...

One of the things that made the experience — and mediumship, in general — so tricky, is that the information passes through a very human filter.  Speaking only for myself, I don’t get the message verbatim:  I pick up images, words, feelings from the deceased and try to interpret it.  So it’s hard not to try and figure out what things mean, rather than just giving it, “as is.”  The logical part of your brain wants it to make sense.  Your ego doesn’t  want to be wrong.  Yes, there are super-gifted mediums out there with very high rates of accuracy — good for them.  But no one is 100 percent right all the time.  Not even John Edwards, Sylvia Browne or Alison DuBois [BTW, my fellow reality TV fans,  did you SEE her on that infamous episode of “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills”?  Holeeee crap!]

Just for the record, I'm waaay better behaved at dinner parties....

You should also know that you may not always hear from the person you hope to hear from.  Being a medium is like having the only working wi-fi in a crowded airport:  a lot of folks are gonna try and jump on it.

Yeah, it's kinda like this.

Just like when they had a pulse, some spirits are still bossy.  Others have a very important message they want you to hear, which will take precedence over just hearing “hi” from your dead mother.  You can certainly ask that special person to come through during your session — and personally, I do my best to link in to that spirit. But know that you hear from who you’re supposed to hear from and get the message you’re supposed to get.

At this point, I have to mention the unfortunate reality of phony mediums.  These are the people who cynically target those in grief or in need, bilking them out of peace of mind, not to mention, cash.  I think there’s a special place waiting in Hell for them.   You don’t mess with someone’s grief.  You don’t take advantage of their pain.  If you do, well, let’s just say, “Karma is a big, sparkly bitch.”  And not in a good way.

Good thing Patrick Swayze redeemed your fake-ass before the movie ended...

My own experience with the spirit world has shown me that those who’ve crossed over are generally pretty positive. They’ve been released from physical pain, they’re with people they haven’t seen in years, they don’t have to deal with stupid bosses, mortgages or traffic, and that whole “death” thing turns out to be pretty cool.  They care about those left behind and want them to know that the problems of this world are, in the end, just not such a big production.  So for a faker to tell a vulnerable client that they’re “cursed”, or that the spirits are angry, or some such baloney (and oh, by the way, you can appease them by letting him/her do a ritual at the low, low price of $2500) makes me want to deliver a serious beat-down.

A session with a medium is a very personal, intimate thing.  You may find yourself sharing details of a difficult relationship or a tough situation, so its best to find someone who comes highly recommended and is above all, a professional.  You should leave feeling empowered, positive and uplifted.  You should have a sense of peace or closure. You should NOT be scared, worried or in a hurry to empty your wallet in order to rid yourself of some bad mojo.   Yes, a reading from a qualified medium does cost money — and there’s nothing wrong with that.  After all, it IS a skill that takes time, training and a lot of physical energy.  But there’s a huge difference between paying a one-time fee for a one-time service — and feeling pressured to hit the ATM repeatedly as the price for fighting off bad spirits, curses and random hoodoo.  Trust me, your loved ones on the other side could care less about your money because (psst!): they don’t have checking accounts in Heaven.