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I’ve often said that our gut instinct, our natural intuition, is something we must pay attention to. One of my favorite sayings is: “Intuition is wisdom in reverse” – meaning, we knew we should’ve done (or not done) such and such.

But we may have ignored that for the more cerebral aspect of the situation. And we live to smack ourselves in the head over our overthinking of the situation.

In theory, following our “gut” should be easy. But there’s one thing in particular that can really throw it off.

The other day, I read a client who admitted that her own “gut instinct” was being clouded over by Fear. Normally, she would know what to do – and feel good about it– but in this case, she was all over the map. No surprise there: Fear is unbelievably consuming. So she reached out to me as a neutral party to sort things out.

When you’re trying to deal with something in your life, and find that Fear is getting in the way of making a decision, I have a few suggestions:

-Take a moment to sense “where” your Fear lives in your body. Because Fear is a powerful visceral reaction. For me, I get a cold, sweaty feeling in my stomach.

Now, picture gentle “pink” light shining over and in that place. Many times, Fear feels overwhelming – this “pink” takes the fight out of it. It’s kind of like letting some air out of the balloon, shrinking its size.

Next, imagine this pink light “vacuuming” up the Fear energy. You can also visualize a meter showing how that energy is reducing. The idea is to clear as much of it away from your natural intuitive sense.

-Give your own version of Fear a name and image. Maybe it’s a naughty dwarf. Maybe it’s a giant, slimy green monster. Maybe it’s that awful kid from the “Twilight Zone,” who wishes people into the cornfield. Whatever comes to you.  When you can compartmentalize it, you can better control it. The next time that image shows up, call them out. Not to say they will go away entirely – but you can shrink them down to size: “You have no power over me.” “I won’t be held back by you.” “Go away – you’re not welcome here.” These are some suggestions, but you may come up with something better. Like a simple, “Get the F outta here” (sorry, I live in Jersey…)

The idea is to reclaim your own power over this destructive emotion.

-Fear is like a boat anchor, slowing us – even dragging us – down. So picture either a giant pair of scissors or maybe a pair of industrial-strength bolt cutters. Take a moment to get quiet, and picture them cutting the Fear away from you. Really see and feel it.

And at the end of the day, if nothing else works, let Fear inspire you. You KNOW that it’s designed to hold you back from your best life, so don’t let it. Tell Fear that it’s pushing you to choose better, to utilize your unique smarts and move forward.

Bottom line: cut that scary bitch down to size and tell her she’s working for YOU now.

I’ve been experimenting with the things that freak me out – and letting Fear be a partner of sorts. I tell it that I’m gonna take that funky energy and direct it into something positive, rather than letting it keep me afraid. Action – of any kind (even the small kind) – is a powerful antidote.

But of course, if after all of this – like the client I mentioned above—you need a neutral party to validate or calibrate your choices, get in touch! There’s no shame in a second opinion.

 

What You Should Know About A “Sign”

I got an email from a friend the other day about her mother. Mom was in the hospital, undergoing some tests, and was understandably a nervous wreck. In the past, my friend had told me that she wished her mom could be more “open” to the spiritual and metaphysical worlds – but nope, that’s just not how this woman rolled.

However, spirit can sneak up on you.

As Mom was laying there, waiting to be wheeled in, an attending nurse came in. Her nametag read “Carmela,” which happened to be the name of Mom’s grandmother.

Then another nurse came in with some paperwork for her to sign. Her nametag read the name of Mom’s mother. And she used that cute (and overused) phrase, “I just need your ‘John Hancock.’” Turns out that Mom’s father had worked for that company.

My friend tells me that Mom’s face relaxed considerably as she asked, “I think those were signs that they’re near me today.”

As Fonzie said back on Happy Days, “Exactamundo.”

Here’s the deal about signs. Many of us assume (or hope) that they will come in a very specific form of our determination, or that they’ll be done in skywriting. The truth is, signs are frequently much more subtle than that – but their timing is always impeccable. It’s just that we lunkheads often miss them. Because we put our own conditions on things. We need to let go of the reins and let them speak to us on their own terms and timing.

It would be helpful if it happened like this, but generally, it doesn’t.

What I want to stress is that, like my friend’s mother, you will KNOW a “sign” coming from your loved ones or guides on the Other Side when you experience it. There’s something slightly “different” – the timing, the place, that sort of thing. As I tell my psychic development students, “Trust what you get.” Don’t overthink or excuse these moments of magic; let your heart (and intuition) be the barometer by which you judge a sign.  Here are more of my thoughts about this topic.

And PS – my friend’s mother is just fine.

I recently had a client here who told me that he was taking a psychic development class. But he quickly added that he had no intention of “turning pro” like Yours Truly. Another one of my blog followers posted something similar in a comment.

As if becoming a professional psychic, medium, animal communicator or whatever is the only goal. It most certainly is not. And it doesn’t mean you have to use whatever gifts you possess to read your cousin/sister/co-worker whenever they ask you to.

This does not have to be you.  It's definitely not me (at least in the wardrobe dept.)

This does not have to be you. It’s definitely not me (at least in the wardrobe dept.)

Learning to tap into the hidden ways that the Universe speaks to us every single day is something well worth your time. It can completely change the game, make you see things in a fresh new light, and give you unexpected tools to solve your problems.

My own journey started when a girlfriend told me about a psychic development course she was taking. It sounded fun, so I signed up, too. The first night blew my mind, and from that moment on, my whole life would be different. I dove right in, opting to further develop my abilities because it gave me a new way to do my life.

Reading professionally happened by accident when a New Age store opened by me. I wandered in to have a look, started a conversation with the owner and before I knew it, she asked if I’d like to do readings for customers. The rest is history.

I enjoy being a professional psychic; but there is absolutely no rule saying that you have to do the same. Psychic and metaphysical information is fundamentally meant to enrich life in ways you can’t even imagine.

Whether it’s a single book, an ongoing class or even just reading my blog (thank you!) – make some room in your life to explore the metaphysical world on a regular (OK, semi-regular) basis. Whatever speaks to you: Akashic Records, mediumship, angels, Reiki and energy healing, Wicca, Tarot, past-life regression – there’s an endless subject list, and it’s all fascinating.

If you’re like me, you may find that bits and pieces make the most sense. My library is a complete mash-up of topics. Some of those books really engage me; others make me roll my eyes (those are the ones I re-sell on Amazon!). I’ve taken some fascinating classes, and some that made me want to suck down an airplane bottle of gin in the ladies room during our breaks. All of it helped me find my own “psychic style” — which is more like a crazy quilt.

In case of ridiculous classes/teachers/co-students, break seal and drink.

In case of ridiculous classes/teachers/co-students, break seal and drink.

You may opt to delve deeply into a single subject and make that your primary focus. It doesn’t matter: all that information is out there to help us become better, stronger, wiser humans. You’ll find your groove.

Although you may be inspired to share what you’re discovering, remember: using what you learn to benefit others is not a pre-requisite. Let what you unearth transform you first. Then see where it takes you. Or doesn’t. Each of us has a unique path. That’s the beauty of it.

PS – if you want some fun ways to start opening your own channel, check out these posts. Here’s one….and another….and another.

Become More Psychic: Clairvoyance

I’ve written a few posts recently about how each and every one of us has psychic ability, how its hardwired into our being but how most of us need to consciously bring it on line. Yes, there are those people who just walk around all “psychic-y” – but don’t let that intimidate you.

As I wrote before, some of you may find yourself more “clairaudient.” Others, more “clairsentient.” The last part of the Psychic Trifecta is “clairvoyance,” which means “clear seeing.”

With clairvoyance, you see images in your mind’s eye. There are some intuitives who actually see things like you do in the real world, but that’s comparitively rare.

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Clairvoyant images tend to just drop in to your mind. There may be no rhyme or reason to them, just as the psychic information that comes by way of your inner feeling or hearing ability.   And here’s the tricky part: you may want to dismiss them. Our logical mind tends to not “believe” things we haven’t thought up ourselves.

It takes practice to suss out the difference – and practice starts with trusting what you “get.” Make a point of jotting down what you suspect are clairvoyant moments. Then look back and see if anything you saw in your mind’s eye lines up with an actual incident or person.

For instance, if an image of someone you know just pops into your head, see if they call you later that day or show up at your house. With time, you’ll strengthen the channel and know the difference between your own thoughts and those coming in psychically.

You can also see if you can predict an image on the front page of tomorrow’s newspaper, or try to guess playing cards before turning them up; or set up a time with a friend and ask them to do a simple task at their home (they don’t tell you what it is). At your pre-arranged time, try and sense what they’re doing.

Hopefully, they're not doing this....

Hopefully, they’re not doing this….

Pay attention to whether you “see” it – or if you hear something or feel something. Many psychics, myself included, tend to get their information as a mashup. And one sense may dominate on one day over another. The process is fluid.

As you work to open up your own psychic ability, keep it light and fun. Celebrate every little win; frustration is completely counter-productive. This is not a race. The more you can enjoy the process, the easier it will flow.

 

Become More Psychic: Clairaudience

OK, so I’ve written about how each and every one of us has psychic ability; to my mind, it’s a spiritual “chip” in our head that just needs to be activated.

Activating the chip is a matter of practice. Psychic development requires using your inborn skills on a regular basis. The more you do it, the stronger it gets – just like muscles.

How one receives psychic information is different for each of us. There are three primary ways it happens (I wrote about clairsentience here). Discovering your own psychic fingerprint is fascinating and fun. So here’s one more to explore: clairaudience.

Clairaudience means “clear hearing.” When you’re working psychically, you may “hear” someone speaking inside your head (hopefully, not Charles Manson), or maybe something significant to the issue. One time when I was working, I heard that disco song, “Ring My Bell.” Turns out, that was a favorite song of the person who had passed whom I was connecting with. Their friend confirmed it.

But nooooo... I couldn't hear "Ramble On," it HAD to be disco.

But nooooo… I couldn’t hear “Ramble On,” it HAD to be disco.

 

Very few people hear things the same way we hear a car horn, your dog barking or way-too-close neighbors getting’ freaky. Clairaudience is about hearing things in your mind’s ear. For example, think of a dog barking; that experience is similar to clairaudience.

Occasionally, you MAY hear something externally. But for most of us, its internal. The best way to “test” what you’re getting psychically is to do something that can give you confirmation.

Here’s something you can do with a friend. At an assigned time, have your friend do a simple activity. Maybe they’ll make themselves a cup of tea, put a load of wash in or pet their dog. They are not to tell you what they’re doing.

Now relax, take a few breaths and imagine your friend in your mind’s eye. Just picture their face. Imagine the two of you hanging out together, happy and enjoying each other’s company.

Now, gently see if you “hear” anything. What impressions come to mind? Make a note of them. [On the same note, if you “feel” anything or see anything in your head, jot it down.]

When you’re done, call your friend and see what they were up to. Did any of what you got apply? For example, if they were making tea, did you hear a kettle? If they were petting a dog, did you hear a bark or a happy panting sound?

Good thing you can't smell the stank dog breath....

Good thing you can’t smell the stank dog breath….

 

If you didn’t hear so much as “see” or “feel” information, don’t sweat it. Some people may be very strong in the clairaudience department, others (like me) have it pop up only on occasion (like my disco moment).

The point of this exercise is to see how open that particular channel is for you; none are any better than the others. And many people will have a combination of channels by which they receive psychic information.

Experiment with your own clairaudience facility on a regular basis. The goal is to see how much your “inner ear” is working. If it seems stone-deaf, not to worry: I’ll share info on “clairvoyance” next. Eventually, you’ll find your own psychic style.

 

Become More Psychic: Clairsentience

Intuition is a completely natural thing– like fingerprints, curly hair or the lack of a singing voice (oh wait, that’s me).  It’s simply hardwired into humans.

We all experience random psychic flashes (gut feelings, first impressions, etc.)  But you can develop your own psychic ability to the point where you can consciously work with it.  Trust me on this one — YOU are psychic.  For real.

Anyway, there are a number of ways in which psychic info comes in from the ether: you may be stronger in one versus the others, or you may have a mashup of all of them.  Let’s explore these channels one at a time.

First up: CLAIRSENTIENCE

“Clairsentience” literally means, “clear feeling.” The feelings can come as physical sensations or emotions.

Often when I’m working, I’ll feel stuff in my body to identify health issues: like a bad stomach or tension in my shoulders (fortunately, the manifestations pass). Or I may feel strong emotions as a way to ID what someone’s going through under their cool, calm surface. I may want to laugh, cry or yell – and yet, I know it’s not “me.”

Clairsentience comes in a lot if you’re tuning in to animals. That’s the most direct way they can reach us. The other day I did an Animal Communication session for a kitty who was off his food. I felt that the food had gone “bad” and had a bacteria or fungus in it that was causing the problem. I could “feel” the ickiness in kitty’s stomach and recommended nothing more than chicken broth, water and new food.

He got better. And thankfully, I didn’t hock up a hairball.

Here’s a way to test your own clairsentience.   Grab a piece of paper and a pen. Now relax, take some breaths and look at this picture of my cute cat. Just settle in and gently gaze at it….

 

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As you look at the picture, do you feel anything? Physical, emotional?   Even if it doesn’t make sense, but falls into the category of physical or emotional feelings, make a note of it. [FUN BONUS: If you’d like to test your responses, leave me a comment and I’ll tell you if your info matches up .]

One of the main things about psychic work is getting out of your own way, not trying to figure out the info. [NOTE: if by chance you either “hear” things in your mind’s ear or “see” things in your mind’s eye, jot that down as well. Those are two more channels we’ll be exploring.]

Stay lightly engaged during this process – don’t push it.   The point is to figure out what “percentage” of your intuition comes in via this channel.    No channel is “better” than any other, so if you’re not getting anything, relax.

You might want to try this experiment with other images; again, don’t push. Just play with this sense channel. We’ll be discussing more in the next weeks. Have fun!

3 Secrets Of A Psychic

I met a woman the other day who knew precisely zero about psychics. It was an interesting conversation, as I tried to explain what I do, how I do it, etc. Afterwards, I realized that her biggest questions are ones that I get all the damn time.

So here’s some truth about the seemingly mysterious world that I live in.

Psychics are not unicorns

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If you’ve ever had a hunch, first impression or a gut feeling, congratulations: you’ve had a psychic flash. And since everyone has experienced at least one of those things, that means everyone is psychic. See what I did there?

The intuitive channel is inborn in each of us. Like supermodels or star athletes, some are genetically blessed with a seemingly effortless gift. Psychic info rolls in from the ether loud and clear, and they never break a sweat.

But the rest of us can work to develop our own unique psychic ability. We may never be on the level of Derek Jeter, but we can at least get to the farm team and utilize our intuition to make life better.

I’ve written some other posts on how to become more psychic. Here’s another one.

No psychic is 100% right

Working psychically is a bit of a dance between where the info comes from and how it filters into the human brain – then out of the psychic’s mouth. The proof is what rings true for you, and also, whether that info makes you feel hopeful, empowered and strong.

If a psychic tries to scare you or makes you feel like they’re the only person who can fix your hot mess of a life, get the hell out of there. This is not the purpose of intuitive work.

I’ve had some snarky comments from haters who wonder why a psychic can’t be “put to the test” (newsflash: some have and done really well). The truth is, psychic energy is not a widget. It can’t always be measured empirically, simply because of the human delivery method (see above).

The concept of being open to something more fluid is a hard one for some folks to accept. Again, the evidence lies partly in the facts that will come out in a reading, but more importantly, what speaks to you in your gut.

Keep a reading in perspective; its one source of information – and bottom line, you must make your own decisions and choices.

I’m not “reading” you right now

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When I tell people I’m psychic, some of them clench up – they’re wondering if I’m reading them right then and there. No, I’m just standing here in the Express Lane, trying to pay for my Lean Cuisine and copy of Star magazine.

Psychics are real people, with “to do” lists, families and everyday worries. Seriously, if I tuned in to everyone I deal with in the course of a day, I would wind up in the corner, drooling and sucking my thumb.

As a working psychic, I must manage my energy, so I read you only when it’s “time.” That’s for my health. Secondly, its not ethical to poke into someone’s bidness without their OK. So go ahead and exhale – I don’t know what you did last summer. Or last night.

Got any more questions about psychics? Hit me up!

On Psychic Accuracy

I got a really nice email from someone I just read, happily announcing that she’s pregnant. During our session, the question had come up. I saw some minor issues conceiving, but with a healthy pregnancy by November.

Turns out, that’s when she’s due to give birth. She did have a few fertility problems in the past, but felt they had been resolved (clearly, they were!). In her email, she asked about the timing around this question, and why it was sort of “reversed” during our reading.

That’s a good one. The psychic process is not an exact science. For me, the information that I get sort of flows over and under itself; I’m along for the ride, trying to pick out the mile markers and identifying people and points in time. But its not an atomic clock.

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Psychics are not Hal 5000

I think most psychics will tell you that they “let go” during a reading; we surrender our conscious, logical mind to something a bit more fluid. It’s the nature of the thing. Intuition is far more organic, and has its own language. By trying to be too precise, it can choke off the flow. At least, that’s how it feels to me.

Sometimes it can feel like this....

Sometimes it can feel like this….

Being the super-organized, somewhat controlling person that I am in my daily life, the psychic process is challenging. But I’ve found it to be a good counterweight to my own growth. As I read, I avoid trying to be too exact, because once I go there, it’s more “me” talking and less spirit.

If you’re looking for 100%, time-and-date specific, bet-the-farm-on-it information, there’s always Wikipedia. Know that intuitive information is a little squishier. The edges around a message may be blurry, but the core is what you need to consider. Take what resonates from a reading, and leave the rest.

Your Psychic Health

Whenever I  teach a Psychic Development class, I know I’ll have at least one student who’ll show up after a few weeks looking a little fried.  They have bags under their eyes, they seem kinda spent or frazzled, and they tend to just talkandtalkandtalk.   It’s exhausting to be around them, bless their pointed little head.

And I can tell immediately: they’ve been operating their newly-developed psychic abilities without a permit.

I get it:  its exciting when you start actively working with your intuition.  A whole new world opens up – literally.  But without some healthy habits, you run the risk of feeling like you got run over by a monster truck.  Or three.

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Working psychically changes your physical makeup.  There’s an electrical dimension to our bodies; when we dial up our intuitive senses, we’re upping the wattage.   And like loose wires, that energy needs to be grounded to prevent burnout or that general spacey feeling.

You've been warned.

You’ve been warned.

Regular meditation is a good place to start.  It helps develop a sense of control over your breath, and lets you navigate the subtle changes in your energetic body.

Then there’s preparation.  Before I read, I first surround both myself and the space with a protective white light.  I’m dealing with energy, so I want anything heavy or difficult to be kept at bay.

I do a short meditation (in addition to the one I do daily), then envision a window opening in the back of my head.  This is my personal technique that “tells” my conscious mind to shift into a different gear.   Once I’m through, I reverse it and “close” the window.   It’s like working out:  a warm up and cool down are essential to keep from getting injured.

Also, take it a little at a time.  If you try to open up your channels too quickly,  you’ll feel sort of fried.  Gradually build up how long you stay in the psychic flow.

Nice try, Hercules....

Nice try, Hercules….

 

Because that side of our brain generates fine, fast-moving energy, it’s a good idea to counterbalance it with something slower and more grounded.  After a session, I always eat something, put my hands on the ground or pet my cats.  Anything “earth” related will bring you back into your body and offset that spacey feeling.

The other thing is to be careful where you read.  Working in the same spot builds up the positive vibrations, which not only helps your connection, but also protects you.   The “reading rooms” at the shop I used to work at had a great, juicy feel to them because of all the positive work that was done there.

I learned very early on to not read in bars or random public places.  The energy can be  very hard or heavy, and you’ll feel it for days after.  A lot of newbies will try and “read” people just wherever – and they pay the price.  As tempting as it may be, stick to appropriate times and places  to do intuitive work.  Put a process in place to better direct your energy, so its not just sparking all over the damn place.

For those who are naturally extra-sensitive, I wrote about a technique to add an extra layer of protection and smooth out that jagged feeling.  Wearing dark clothes or carrying dark colored crystals like smoky quartz or obsidian can ground you, as well.  Here are some other stones that are helpful for psychic work.

The thing is, providing a framework and a system to your psychic work will make it more effective – and make your daily life as a whole more comfortable.

What do you do to stay healthy and grounded in the spirit realm?  Hit me up in the comments.

A Super-Easy Tarot Spread for Non-Readers

The Tarot is a rich, deep, complex way to get some rich, deep, complex insights into your life.    It’s been around for centuries  — and sometimes, it can feel like it takes that long to really know the cards.    That puts a lot of people off learning them.

Personally, I think spending some time exploring  the Tarot is really worth it.  But if the thought of that kinda makes your head explode, there’s a really fast way to use Tarot cards to get an answer to a “Yes/No” question, even if you’ve never used them before.  This was one of the very first spreads I learned and I still use it; it gives you an answer faster than it takes to nuke a burrito.

Ummmm....burritos.

Ummmm….burritos.

First, make sure the deck is thoroughly shuffled.  Your cards take on your energy, so really mix them good.

As you handle the cards, think about your question (remember, this spread is for a “yes/no” issue).  Frame it like, “Will I [fill in the blank]?”  “Is he/she going to call?”  “Is the check in the mail?”  You get the idea.

Once you feel ready, cut the cards with your non-dominant hand (the one you don’t write with, in case you were wondering).  Now put the cards back together and pull three cards, laying them down just as they appear:  in other words,  if its upside down, don’t flip it right side up.

Lay the first one to the left, the next in the middle and the last on the right, like this:

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Notice which ones are reversed.

Right-side up cards indicate a “Yes” answer.  The card in the center counts twice (don’t ask me why).  Whatever the majority is, that’s your answer.  In this case, we have 3 “yes” and one “no.”  So the answer is “Yes.”

If you have two “yes” and two “no” answers, it means things are still unclear.

You can get more insight into your answer by just gazing at the cards and seeing what jumps out at you:  colors, symbols, numbers.  How do they make you feel?  Let them “talk” to you.  The images on the cards are specifically designed to trigger your intuition.  Relax and just go with it; note down your insights.  You might be surprised at how “right” you are.  But the most important thing is not to stress  — just have fun with this super-fast spread.   Learning the Tarot — even a little bit — doesn’t have to give you a migraine.

Got questions about the cards?  Or maybe want a full-on reading?  Reach out via my website.

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