“Is it OK to talk?” I get this question all the time during a reading. And the answer is, “Absolutely.”
A lot of people seem to think that a vow of silence on their part is required, that somehow, talking during a reading is “cheating.”
But let me stress something: psychics are here to help you. Not to impress you with their mad skillz.
If you ARE impressed that we pick up stuff before you tell us, that’s all good. The bottom line is that you’re there to get guidance and direction, a way to get unstuck. And a conversation with your reader is a good way to do that.
(This is one reason I don’t do parties anymore: I take what I do seriously and don’t want to be seen as some kind of cool party entertainment. But I will have a beer, thank you.)
Anyway, when I start a session, I begin by asking you what areas of your life you want some clarity on. This helps me focus in right away and give you information that will be practical and useful. It makes the most of our time together and gives you something you can use after you leave.
Personally, I hate those, “Oh, just tell me whatever you get…” sessions. To me, that’s like driving in circles around the parking lot. If you’ve decided to get a reading, clearly there’s something going on. Do yourself a favor and take some time to think about what it is.
It’s exciting and gratifying when I pick up information psychically or from the Other Side – but I live for those moments when my client sees a way forward out of his/her problems. How that happens is a technicality.
As a psychic, the subject of relationships is one of the Top Three questions I get (the other two being money and career, in case you were wondering). Love is a straight-up crazy ride, so no surprise that psychics get so much business.
Therapists are one way to sort out your love life; so are intuitives. We offer a different approach to issues of the heart, an unconventional source of information that can give you fresh insights.
Naturally, every client’s story is different, but these are the themes that come up repeatedly. Any of ‘em ring a bell?
1) “WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?”
Clearly, there are some practical issues. Like if you spend your time on the couch watching re-runs instead of putting yourself out into the world: just so you know, the Relationship Fairy will not be delivering someone by FedEx.
But outside of this, I often pick up on deep wounds that have yet to heal or unresolved fears. All that works like a big “STOP” sign to a relationship. What is it that you need to break down?
2) “WHY ISN’T/DIDN’T THE RELATIONSHIP WORK?”
Relationships come with issues as standard equipment. Learning to work through them advances our growth, but its no guarantee that we’ll grow at the same rate as our partner.
Many times people simply end their journey together. They’ve learned all they’re going to and its healthier to just move on. Its my job to pick up whether there are lessons still in the pipeline or if its time to let go. If that’s the case, I can also provide the “coming attractions” reel of what will fill that void. Because Nature abhors a vacuum.
3) “WHY DO I KEEP MEETING THE SAME LOSER?”
Because you’re not paying attention. Repeating a pattern means you haven’t learned something. So the same person/scenario keeps showing up, but in different guises. What is it you’re missing? What do you need to change?
No matter how much of a dirtbag that person might be, or if something is “all their fault,” you have a role to play in the situation. Yes, really. What is that role and how can you break free of it? As they say, “it takes two to tango” and a session with a good psychic may teach you some new steps in the dance of love.
Got questions about your own relationship(s)? I’m here.
The way I see it, you need these on speed-dial: a plumber, mechanic, lawyer, and in my house, a chicken place that delivers.
I would add to that, a good psychic.
I’m not talking about hitting up Madame Lasagna at the boardwalk. I’m talking about those of us who are truly, sharply tuned in to the intuitive side. That kind of information gives you a new (and sometimes better) way to deal with modern challenges.
Ever since the first human wondered if the person in the next cave over liked them or not, humans have sought ways to see what couldn’t be determined by other means. Psychic ability lets us pull back from what’s in front of us, and sense other things at play. The psychic’s brain downloads on a completely different channel and offers another source of information.
Intuition is a nice counterbalance to the super-tech, pointy-headed vibe of this 21st century life. It’s more organic. Your iPhone can do a lot of things, but picking up psychic info ain’t on the list.
Maybe that’s why I’ve seen such a huge increase in people coming for a reading whom you might not expect: a tough Irish cop, a psychoanalyst, a surgeon, for starters. They’re finding a new way around their problems, by tapping into this age-old data stream.
If you’re still kicking the idea around, here are my 3.5 reasons to consider a psychic.
Reason #1: WE SEE THE BIG PICTURE – THE REALLY BIIIIIG PICTURE
As a psychic, I’m focused on the particular issue you bring me, but I’m also “pulling back” to see what else is going on around its edges. It’s kind of like Google Earth. Many times, I pick up on things affecting it that you weren’t aware of: past-life influences, karma, what’s up with the other people involved. That kind of intel gives you a new perspective on why and where you’re stuck. (Even if you’re not sold on the idea of past lives or karma, admit it – it sounds interesting, doesn’t it?)
Reason #2 WE GIVE YOU A DETOUR AROUND THE ROADBLOCKS
When the same annoying situation/person keeps showing up in your life, there’s a reason. Yes, really. The Universe is trying to get your attention, or to provide a lesson. What is that lesson? An intuitive can give you the crib sheet and show you how to finally move forward.
Reason #3 A READING GETS YOU OUT OF YOURHEAD
Check the frownlines on your face: we spend so much time grinding our mental gears, trying to work out a solution to a problem.
Sometimes, you need to take the brain out of it – and see what instinct and the heart has to say. That’s the specialty of a psychic. Add that info to the intellectual mix, your own knowledge of the situation and you’ve got something you can really work with in solving a problem.
Reason #3.5 YOUR DEAD GRANNY WANTS TO SAY “’SUP?”
Not all psychics are mediums – meaning, possessing the ability to connect with those on the Other Side. But for those who do have that particular channel on their radio, it can be a powerful experience for the client. My motto is, “It’s not a reading ‘til someone’s crying.”
Connecting with someone you’ve lost is incredibly therapeutic. I’ve had clients finally be able to drop all kinds of baggage after getting a message from someone who’s crossed over. It’s not only intensely liberating, it’s a big comfort, as well. The right psychic-medium can hook you up on that channel.
When it comes to finding an intuitive, I strongly believe in personal recommendations. You want a good fit – and a truly professional intuitive won’t mind if he/she isn’t the right one for you.
Let me just add that a responsible psychic will only ask for his/her standard fee (and not hit you up for “extras,” like “removing curses”); and if someone’s issues are above their paygrade, they’ll suggest a qualified mental health professional.
At any rate, if you’ve ever rolled your eyes at the thought of consulting a psychic, open your mind. This ancient art is more 21st century than you think.
I’m a big believer that everyone – EVERYONE — is psychic. Whether it’s a hunch, first impression or gut feeling, intuition is hardwired into our system. It was a survival skill back in the day – and can still save you from a whole lot of aggravation, if you only trust it more. Admit it: there’s been at least one instance in your life where you “knew” something, right? Did you blow it off at the time? Many of us do, but I’m here to tell you that learning how to pay attention to those little “pings” is going to change everything.
So what distinguishes a professional psychic like me from plain old you? Not much, actually. I compare it to a radio: some people are born with their intuition “channel” locked in and turned waaaaay up. Others have to fiddle with the knobs a little to pick up what’s out there in the ether. But it’s totally do-able. Like anything, it just takes practice.
There are three basic ways psychic information shows up:
Clairvoyance: “clear seeing.” This is when you see images in your mind’s eye. There are some psychics who see things for real – but most of us see it in our head. I may see images of people involved in a person’s job, or a geographical place if I sense a move.
Clairaudience: “clear hearing.” This is “hearing” sounds, voices, words in your mind’s ear.
Clairsentience: “clear feeling.” You feel physical sensations, smell things – anything that engages your senses. For instance, I may feel a heaviness in my chest when I’m picking up someone who passed from lung or heart issues.
Very often, a psychic will get a mashup of the three. One channel may dominate, and it may vary from day to day. For me, I tend to predominantly hear and feel my info, with seeing images close behind. Like your fingerprint, your intuitive style is completely unique. And its fun to figure it out!
The experience of “getting” information often trips people up because they think they’re just “imagining” it. Here’s the thing – your imagination is the vehicle. It has to be – that’s how we process things in our lives.
Think about what you have to do after work. You’re probably seeing yourself running to the grocery store, picking up the kids after soccer and making dinner. That information shows up in your imagination, like images on a screen. And it’s the same way with psychic stuff.
The trick is to learn how to distinguish between the kind of imagination that has you seeing yourself in a hot air balloon with George Clooney (OK, that’s just me) – and the kind where you’re seeing a new job opportunity. That just comes with practice.
Before I share some fun exercises, let’s talk keeping yourself sane and healthy. Any kind of psychic work involves energy. It’s important to take some care before you dive in. Why? Well, think about one of those people – and you KNOW you know one – who just drains you. They have a talent for sucking you dry with their problems. After a night out, listening to their story (again), they say something like, “Wow – it was so great to see you. I feel soooo much better!” You, on the other hand, feel like you got hit in the face with a bat.
So energy is a real thing, and you need to know how to work with it. Before I do anything related to spiritual work, I envision an “egg” of protective white light around my whole body. This is something I learned years ago; it takes about 2 seconds and serves as a shield from whatever, good and bad. It keeps me from becoming completely knackered after a reading (PS — it’s a good thing to do when you’re about to meet that Energy Vampire for drinks. You’ll thank me in the morning).
If your ability to “see” this white light isn’t so hot, you can just say something like, “I surround myself with the white light of love and protection.” That’ll work, too.
So make it a point to do this super-quick ritual before practicing anything to do with your psychic side. It’s not a bad addition to your daily life in general — keeping a lot of random crap from sticking to you.
Now, let’s dive in.
NAME THAT HEADLINE
I first started teaching this little exercise back when old school newspapers were still big. Even if you get your daily news fix from an online site, it’ll still work.
Here’s what you do: start by putting yourself in that handy egg of white light. Then…
1) Set a notebook and pen aside to record what you get. Close your eyes, relax and take a few deep breaths.
2) Envision a blank movie screen or piece of paper in front of you. Keep breathing.
3) Now ask the Universe to send you a hint of tomorrow’s news. It may come as an image, a word, a feeling. Stay relaxed and let it unfold. Go with the first thing you get. I can’t stress this enough; oftentimes, our first impression is the RIGHT one. But we talk ourselves out of it.
4) As this is happening, stay gently engaged and observe how you’re getting the info: are you seeing it, feeling it, hearing it?
5) After a few minutes (really, keep this short so you don’t get too anxious), take a few more breaths and return to the “here and now.” Jot down what you got. Check it tomorrow and see how you did.
You may need to do this a few times before you get a “hit.” But it’s fun!
For this, you’ll need something like a piece of jewelry, from someone you don’t know the backstory on all that well. Maybe ask a friend to bring you their mother-in-law’s earring (yes, you’ll give it back. Unless its really nice….). You can try it on anything where you can get some confirmation afterwards.
Once more, put yourself in that white-light-egg thingy. Then…
1) Set a notebook and pen aside to record what you get. Close your eyes, relax and take a few deep breaths.
2) Hold the object in your non-dominant hand (meaning, the one you don’t write with). That allows you to tap more easily into the subconscious. Relax and keep breathing.
3) What information is coming off the object? It may come as an image, a word, a feeling. Stay relaxed and let it unfold. Go with the first thing you get. And, this is important, tell your friend what you’re getting (so they can verify). Don’t try to understand it. Just say what you’re getting. This may take some time, since we tend to want to be “right.” Learning to just flow with the information is one of the hardest parts of psychic development.
4) Again, stay gently engaged and observe how you’re getting the info: are you seeing it, feeling it, hearing it? Does one dominate more than the others?
5) After a few minutes, take a few more breaths and return to the “here and now.”
As your friend tells you what was a “hit,” recall how you got that piece of info. Seeing, hearing, feeling….The more you do this, the more clearly defined will be that line between your everyday imagination and the particular way your psychic info comes in.
These are two simple exercises that train your psychic muscle, but you can work it all day long: as in, “who’s calling?” (don’t cheat and look at your phone). Is a particular person going to reach out to you today? What song will come up next on the radio? You could sit with a deck of cards while you watch Real Housewives and try to guess their color, suit or number as you pull each from the deck. The idea is to let the part of you that doesn’t work off intellect to be in the driver’s seat more often.
And the one thing I can’t emphasize enough? Follow your gut. When something comes up in your life that you’re not sure of, what does your gut tell you?
Paying attention — and acting on the feelings your gut inspires — is the easiest way to tune up your psychic muscle. I’ve heard that “intuition is wisdom in reverse.” So start working that channel and save yourself a lot of grief. You’ll thank me (and I love gift cards to Target!).
So what times did your intuition tell you something? Spill it in the comments section!