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I’ve often said that our gut instinct, our natural intuition, is something we must pay attention to. One of my favorite sayings is: “Intuition is wisdom in reverse” – meaning, we knew we should’ve done (or not done) such and such.

But we may have ignored that for the more cerebral aspect of the situation. And we live to smack ourselves in the head over our overthinking of the situation.

In theory, following our “gut” should be easy. But there’s one thing in particular that can really throw it off.

The other day, I read a client who admitted that her own “gut instinct” was being clouded over by Fear. Normally, she would know what to do – and feel good about it– but in this case, she was all over the map. No surprise there: Fear is unbelievably consuming. So she reached out to me as a neutral party to sort things out.

When you’re trying to deal with something in your life, and find that Fear is getting in the way of making a decision, I have a few suggestions:

-Take a moment to sense “where” your Fear lives in your body. Because Fear is a powerful visceral reaction. For me, I get a cold, sweaty feeling in my stomach.

Now, picture gentle “pink” light shining over and in that place. Many times, Fear feels overwhelming – this “pink” takes the fight out of it. It’s kind of like letting some air out of the balloon, shrinking its size.

Next, imagine this pink light “vacuuming” up the Fear energy. You can also visualize a meter showing how that energy is reducing. The idea is to clear as much of it away from your natural intuitive sense.

-Give your own version of Fear a name and image. Maybe it’s a naughty dwarf. Maybe it’s a giant, slimy green monster. Maybe it’s that awful kid from the “Twilight Zone,” who wishes people into the cornfield. Whatever comes to you.  When you can compartmentalize it, you can better control it. The next time that image shows up, call them out. Not to say they will go away entirely – but you can shrink them down to size: “You have no power over me.” “I won’t be held back by you.” “Go away – you’re not welcome here.” These are some suggestions, but you may come up with something better. Like a simple, “Get the F outta here” (sorry, I live in Jersey…)

The idea is to reclaim your own power over this destructive emotion.

-Fear is like a boat anchor, slowing us – even dragging us – down. So picture either a giant pair of scissors or maybe a pair of industrial-strength bolt cutters. Take a moment to get quiet, and picture them cutting the Fear away from you. Really see and feel it.

And at the end of the day, if nothing else works, let Fear inspire you. You KNOW that it’s designed to hold you back from your best life, so don’t let it. Tell Fear that it’s pushing you to choose better, to utilize your unique smarts and move forward.

Bottom line: cut that scary bitch down to size and tell her she’s working for YOU now.

I’ve been experimenting with the things that freak me out – and letting Fear be a partner of sorts. I tell it that I’m gonna take that funky energy and direct it into something positive, rather than letting it keep me afraid. Action – of any kind (even the small kind) – is a powerful antidote.

But of course, if after all of this – like the client I mentioned above—you need a neutral party to validate or calibrate your choices, get in touch! There’s no shame in a second opinion.

 

What You Should Know About A “Sign”

I got an email from a friend the other day about her mother. Mom was in the hospital, undergoing some tests, and was understandably a nervous wreck. In the past, my friend had told me that she wished her mom could be more “open” to the spiritual and metaphysical worlds – but nope, that’s just not how this woman rolled.

However, spirit can sneak up on you.

As Mom was laying there, waiting to be wheeled in, an attending nurse came in. Her nametag read “Carmela,” which happened to be the name of Mom’s grandmother.

Then another nurse came in with some paperwork for her to sign. Her nametag read the name of Mom’s mother. And she used that cute (and overused) phrase, “I just need your ‘John Hancock.’” Turns out that Mom’s father had worked for that company.

My friend tells me that Mom’s face relaxed considerably as she asked, “I think those were signs that they’re near me today.”

As Fonzie said back on Happy Days, “Exactamundo.”

Here’s the deal about signs. Many of us assume (or hope) that they will come in a very specific form of our determination, or that they’ll be done in skywriting. The truth is, signs are frequently much more subtle than that – but their timing is always impeccable. It’s just that we lunkheads often miss them. Because we put our own conditions on things. We need to let go of the reins and let them speak to us on their own terms and timing.

It would be helpful if it happened like this, but generally, it doesn’t.

What I want to stress is that, like my friend’s mother, you will KNOW a “sign” coming from your loved ones or guides on the Other Side when you experience it. There’s something slightly “different” – the timing, the place, that sort of thing. As I tell my psychic development students, “Trust what you get.” Don’t overthink or excuse these moments of magic; let your heart (and intuition) be the barometer by which you judge a sign.  Here are more of my thoughts about this topic.

And PS – my friend’s mother is just fine.

Lessons from Lily Dale

I recently stumbled across an article about the spiritual community of Lily Dale in upstate New York. It brought back a bunch of memories about a trip that I took there a few years back, which I feel like revisiting.

If you’re not familiar, here’s a quick refresher: Lily Dale was established well over a century ago as a community of spiritualist mediums. The area itself (north of Buffalo – and a long-ass drive from my home in New Jersey) has a long association with Native Americans and has great energy. This is one reason why it was chosen. It’s a favorite destination of anyone seeking spiritual growth.

Pretty, isn’t it? Yes. Yes, it is.

The community is tiny. You need to park your car outside of the neighborhood and walk in. While there, you can take classes, attend lectures or daily public “message services” where the mediums deliver words from loved ones on the Other Side.

More importantly, you can avail yourself of any of the dozens of mediums who live and work inside Lily Dale. In order to nab one of the cute little Victorian homes dotting the streets, mediums must go through some rigorous vetting. It’s reportedly like the world’s toughest hazing ceremony. So customers have pretty high hopes for the quality of the readings. Especially after said “long-ass drive.”

When my friend Janet and I finally got there, we felt the “energy” of the place immediately. We checked into their ancient hotel, then started poking around up and down the tiny streets

The resident mediums hang out a shingle, letting you know they’re available for a walk-in appointment (some of the more popular ones require advance bookings). Janet and I had agreed beforehand that if one of us went in first for a reading, we’d give a discreet “thumbs up” or “down” to let the other know if it was worth following on.

Over the weekend, we each did a few readings, some together, others independently. Most were perfectly fine – nothing mind-blowing, but nothing that especially sucked, either.

But there was one reading that DID stand out – and not in a good way. Janet went in to a young woman’s parlor while I waited on the porch. When she emerged 30 minutes later, her eyes were wild and she was subtly shaking her head in my direction. The medium had a smile on her face, like “Next?” – but I was up from the lawn chair and off the porch before she knew it.

Turns out, this reader did something I am vehemently against, as are most readers that I know of: she had told Janet that she was dying. Of cancer. I’m still mad, just writing that. SO irresponsible, and you know what? Not for her to put that in someone’s head. I spent the rest of our time talking my friend off the ledge – and came very close to writing a letter to whomever chooses the Lily Dale readers.

A psychic reading is very intimate, and the client is especially vulnerable at the time– they open themselves to the reader. Health issues are especially dodgy; when people ask me for that kind of information, I’ll do an energy scan, but I always, ALWAYS tell them that if they have specific concerns, go see a doctor, not a psychic. ‘Cause we are far from perfect.

And I’m always aware that you don’t want to put anything negative in their psyche.   Because we can easily create some bad “juju” if someone else tells us that’s what’s on the menu. This is essentially how voodoo works – or any other “mind control” method, for that matter.

Now, while I personally wasn’t overly impressed by Lily Dale’s readers (and hey, they’re entitled to having an ‘off’ day), I also feel for them: the history and standards about the place set up some insane expectations.

To balance it out, there were some positive things about my visit to Lily Dale: several “otherworldly” moments where I connected with spirits on the Other Side; many ghostly experiences in the woods around the place, learning about the earliest days of the spiritualist movement – and evidence of the interactions from those times (check out the onsite museum).  Plus, when I got home, I was “inspired” to adopt my kitty, Pyewacket (long story –but Lily Dale def had a hand in the decision).

My kittyboy lounging in the sun.

I think my main takeaway from my visit to Lily Dale is that one needs to maintain their own power; psychic-mediums can provide powerful insights, and that’s what most of us strive to do. For clients, it’s tempting to hand things over to an “expert.” But in the end, all of us are responsible for our own life. This is why each of us is here: to make the best of the lessons handed to us. Psychics can provide guidance, but you need to pull the trigger. Or not.

So my message to you is this: don’t be too dazzled by the reputation of any psychic, psychic place or spiritual summer camp. Keep it in perspective. Psychics are not magicians; we are human. So take what you get in a reading and use what rings true to move you forward – not freeze you in a place of fear and powerlessness. You should NEVER leave a reading feeling hopeless or scared. You should come away feeling ready to kick some ass.

How I want you to feel when you leave my office. “Rawr!!!!!”

 

PS — I just finished an interesting book about Lily Dale.  Find it here.

3 Things To Know About A Psychic Reading

I was at a Labor Day barbecue yesterday, and met up with an old semi-acquaintance. It had been years since we’d seen each other, and during our catch up, my work as a psychic came up. Apparently, she didn’t know this about me. Well, the look on her face was one I see a lot: a mixture of curiosity and fear. She shared that she’d never had a reading, was nervous about the prospect, afraid of hearing “something bad.” I get this stuff all the time.

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So I offered to give her a quick reading, as a way to show her what was what. She’d already had a glass of wine, and was game. We found a quiet spot on the patio, I tuned in to her and off we went. The end result was, that she now understands that a reading can be empowering and interesting. It was a real breakthrough moment – her face was glowing with the possibilities now in front of her.

This experience made me feel that it was worth going over a few points about readings for those who’ve been a bit gun-shy. Because they do not have to be scary—in fact, a reading shouldn’t be. Read on…

  • Psychics cannot predict death. I am not going to tell you when, where or how you will meet your maker. That is not for me or anyone else to know or see. If a reader tries to sell you on that, get out.
  • On that same note, psychics can neither place nor remove curses.   This is classic mind-screwing. Curses (which I don’t believe in) are simply a way to get in your head and make you surrender your own power. You think you’re “cursed,” so you start making janky choices (big and small) and the negative consequences pile up. See? The curse must’ve been the cause of [FILL IN THE BLANK].  And sadly, we’ve all heard about those fakes who promise to “remove a curse” in exchange for lots and lots and LOTS of dollars. They are utter money-grubbing frauds (and will get theirs in the end, promise. Karma is a big, sparkly, Disco Bitch). Please don’t surrender your common sense and personal power to anyone with a slick way with words.
  • As to “seeing anything bad,” most psychics I know (myself included) view tough times or situations as a lesson from the Universe. If we can get under the hood of that thing via psychic info, a look at past lives, etc., you can gain some valuable insights into how to better navigate the problem. You do NOT have to stay stuck. To me, that’s the point of psychic insight: to help the client find additional ways to improve their life. It’s not the only way and it should be combined with practical action -but this “out of the box” approach can be very helpful.

So if you’ve ever thought about having a reading, but are still on the fence, think about what I’ve said here. At the very least, you’ll have a new experience to talk about at your next barbecue. At the most, you could come away with a fresh new way to solve your problems – and a doorway into a brand new life.

I recently had a client here who told me that he was taking a psychic development class. But he quickly added that he had no intention of “turning pro” like Yours Truly. Another one of my blog followers posted something similar in a comment.

As if becoming a professional psychic, medium, animal communicator or whatever is the only goal. It most certainly is not. And it doesn’t mean you have to use whatever gifts you possess to read your cousin/sister/co-worker whenever they ask you to.

This does not have to be you.  It's definitely not me (at least in the wardrobe dept.)

This does not have to be you. It’s definitely not me (at least in the wardrobe dept.)

Learning to tap into the hidden ways that the Universe speaks to us every single day is something well worth your time. It can completely change the game, make you see things in a fresh new light, and give you unexpected tools to solve your problems.

My own journey started when a girlfriend told me about a psychic development course she was taking. It sounded fun, so I signed up, too. The first night blew my mind, and from that moment on, my whole life would be different. I dove right in, opting to further develop my abilities because it gave me a new way to do my life.

Reading professionally happened by accident when a New Age store opened by me. I wandered in to have a look, started a conversation with the owner and before I knew it, she asked if I’d like to do readings for customers. The rest is history.

I enjoy being a professional psychic; but there is absolutely no rule saying that you have to do the same. Psychic and metaphysical information is fundamentally meant to enrich life in ways you can’t even imagine.

Whether it’s a single book, an ongoing class or even just reading my blog (thank you!) – make some room in your life to explore the metaphysical world on a regular (OK, semi-regular) basis. Whatever speaks to you: Akashic Records, mediumship, angels, Reiki and energy healing, Wicca, Tarot, past-life regression – there’s an endless subject list, and it’s all fascinating.

If you’re like me, you may find that bits and pieces make the most sense. My library is a complete mash-up of topics. Some of those books really engage me; others make me roll my eyes (those are the ones I re-sell on Amazon!). I’ve taken some fascinating classes, and some that made me want to suck down an airplane bottle of gin in the ladies room during our breaks. All of it helped me find my own “psychic style” — which is more like a crazy quilt.

In case of ridiculous classes/teachers/co-students, break seal and drink.

In case of ridiculous classes/teachers/co-students, break seal and drink.

You may opt to delve deeply into a single subject and make that your primary focus. It doesn’t matter: all that information is out there to help us become better, stronger, wiser humans. You’ll find your groove.

Although you may be inspired to share what you’re discovering, remember: using what you learn to benefit others is not a pre-requisite. Let what you unearth transform you first. Then see where it takes you. Or doesn’t. Each of us has a unique path. That’s the beauty of it.

PS – if you want some fun ways to start opening your own channel, check out these posts. Here’s one….and another….and another.

Read This Before Your Next Psychic Reading

You know that TV show, The Long Island Medium? Besides her god-awful, freeze-dried hairdo, the thing that really annoys me is how she does readings just, oh, wherever. Waiting at the deli for fresh mozzarella? Read someone. On line for the bathroom at an AC/DC concert? Read. In a dentist’s waiting room? Read.

Wonder what gross tonnage of hairspray and gel goes into this creation?

Wonder what gross tonnage of hairspray and gel goes into this creation?

Yeah, yeah – I know these “on the fly” readings are done for the show. But you’d be surprised at how many psychics choose to read in the most inappropriate places. And that’s not good for them – or the person getting the reading.

I admit that I’ve done the odd quick reading for someone when we’re out to lunch or something. But over the years, I’ve learned that its really best to reserve psychic stuff for an assigned time and place.

Years ago, a girlfriend of mine (and a very gifted psychic) took a gig at a nightclub. She was a single mom and needed the money. But she admitted that the toll those readings took on her proved to be soooo not worth it. Not only was the space really loud (boom-chaka-laka), the clients were usually half in the bag/mad at someone who didn’t want to dance with them/desperate to dance with someone who didn’t want to dance with them.

Hardly conducive to a spiritual vibe....

Hardly conducive to a spiritual vibe….

She tried her best to protect herself from those janky vibes by loading herself down with crystals – but they could only do so much. That gig lasted only a few weeks before she gave up.

A similar place that is super-bad for giving/getting readings is in a bar. Oh sure, you’re having a few drinks with friends, and it comes up that you’re a psychic. All of a sudden, someone wants you to “tell their fortune.”   You might be feeling a bit loose, so you’re like, “sure.” But I’m here to tell you, you will pay a massive price afterwards.

I see AA in your future...

I see AA in your future…

When you open yourself up psychically, its like peeling off a layer or two of skin. You will feel everything – literally. So whatever downer vibes are in that bar – and let’s face it, many bar patrons have a lot of downer stuff going on at the moment – you’ll pick it up. And will pay with the Mother of All Hangovers (trust me,I know. Boy, do I know).

Some of my students, excited about what they’re learning, have felt compelled to read total strangers at the grocery store or car wash or wherever. They tell me, “I just started getting all this stuff….” But that does both themselves and the “target” a huge disservice. From an ethical standpoint, it’s rude to insert yourself into someone else’s private life without their permission. From a physical standpoint, a developing psychic risks serious burnout if they’re not properly grounded and prepared.

Does a spontaneous psychic reading make this 11 items instead of 10?

Does a spontaneous psychic reading make this 11 items instead of 10?

Psychic or mediumistic readings are extremely intense energetic events. The reader is opening him/herself to very sensitive energies and influences; to some extent, the client is, too. That deserves a sacred space, proper preparation and focused attention — not standing in an aisle at Wal-Mart.

And despite any seeming sense of “urgency,” the truth is that most spirit communication or any other psychic info can wait for the right time. They want the information to get through in the clearest way possible – so they’re willing to chill.

So, if you’re psychic – hold your readings in a place and time where all the sacred energies can work with and help you. If you’re a client, give yourself the gift of the right time and place to fully experience this powerful connection to the Other Side.

Fellow psychics, tell me: where’s the worst place you’ve ever read? What were the results? And clients, have you ever had someone come up to you unexpectedly with a message? How did you feel? Leave it in the comments!

 

Become More Psychic: Clairsentience

Intuition is a completely natural thing– like fingerprints, curly hair or the lack of a singing voice (oh wait, that’s me).  It’s simply hardwired into humans.

We all experience random psychic flashes (gut feelings, first impressions, etc.)  But you can develop your own psychic ability to the point where you can consciously work with it.  Trust me on this one — YOU are psychic.  For real.

Anyway, there are a number of ways in which psychic info comes in from the ether: you may be stronger in one versus the others, or you may have a mashup of all of them.  Let’s explore these channels one at a time.

First up: CLAIRSENTIENCE

“Clairsentience” literally means, “clear feeling.” The feelings can come as physical sensations or emotions.

Often when I’m working, I’ll feel stuff in my body to identify health issues: like a bad stomach or tension in my shoulders (fortunately, the manifestations pass). Or I may feel strong emotions as a way to ID what someone’s going through under their cool, calm surface. I may want to laugh, cry or yell – and yet, I know it’s not “me.”

Clairsentience comes in a lot if you’re tuning in to animals. That’s the most direct way they can reach us. The other day I did an Animal Communication session for a kitty who was off his food. I felt that the food had gone “bad” and had a bacteria or fungus in it that was causing the problem. I could “feel” the ickiness in kitty’s stomach and recommended nothing more than chicken broth, water and new food.

He got better. And thankfully, I didn’t hock up a hairball.

Here’s a way to test your own clairsentience.   Grab a piece of paper and a pen. Now relax, take some breaths and look at this picture of my cute cat. Just settle in and gently gaze at it….

 

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As you look at the picture, do you feel anything? Physical, emotional?   Even if it doesn’t make sense, but falls into the category of physical or emotional feelings, make a note of it. [FUN BONUS: If you’d like to test your responses, leave me a comment and I’ll tell you if your info matches up .]

One of the main things about psychic work is getting out of your own way, not trying to figure out the info. [NOTE: if by chance you either “hear” things in your mind’s ear or “see” things in your mind’s eye, jot that down as well. Those are two more channels we’ll be exploring.]

Stay lightly engaged during this process – don’t push it.   The point is to figure out what “percentage” of your intuition comes in via this channel.    No channel is “better” than any other, so if you’re not getting anything, relax.

You might want to try this experiment with other images; again, don’t push. Just play with this sense channel. We’ll be discussing more in the next weeks. Have fun!

3 Secrets Of A Psychic

I met a woman the other day who knew precisely zero about psychics. It was an interesting conversation, as I tried to explain what I do, how I do it, etc. Afterwards, I realized that her biggest questions are ones that I get all the damn time.

So here’s some truth about the seemingly mysterious world that I live in.

Psychics are not unicorns

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If you’ve ever had a hunch, first impression or a gut feeling, congratulations: you’ve had a psychic flash. And since everyone has experienced at least one of those things, that means everyone is psychic. See what I did there?

The intuitive channel is inborn in each of us. Like supermodels or star athletes, some are genetically blessed with a seemingly effortless gift. Psychic info rolls in from the ether loud and clear, and they never break a sweat.

But the rest of us can work to develop our own unique psychic ability. We may never be on the level of Derek Jeter, but we can at least get to the farm team and utilize our intuition to make life better.

I’ve written some other posts on how to become more psychic. Here’s another one.

No psychic is 100% right

Working psychically is a bit of a dance between where the info comes from and how it filters into the human brain – then out of the psychic’s mouth. The proof is what rings true for you, and also, whether that info makes you feel hopeful, empowered and strong.

If a psychic tries to scare you or makes you feel like they’re the only person who can fix your hot mess of a life, get the hell out of there. This is not the purpose of intuitive work.

I’ve had some snarky comments from haters who wonder why a psychic can’t be “put to the test” (newsflash: some have and done really well). The truth is, psychic energy is not a widget. It can’t always be measured empirically, simply because of the human delivery method (see above).

The concept of being open to something more fluid is a hard one for some folks to accept. Again, the evidence lies partly in the facts that will come out in a reading, but more importantly, what speaks to you in your gut.

Keep a reading in perspective; its one source of information – and bottom line, you must make your own decisions and choices.

I’m not “reading” you right now

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When I tell people I’m psychic, some of them clench up – they’re wondering if I’m reading them right then and there. No, I’m just standing here in the Express Lane, trying to pay for my Lean Cuisine and copy of Star magazine.

Psychics are real people, with “to do” lists, families and everyday worries. Seriously, if I tuned in to everyone I deal with in the course of a day, I would wind up in the corner, drooling and sucking my thumb.

As a working psychic, I must manage my energy, so I read you only when it’s “time.” That’s for my health. Secondly, its not ethical to poke into someone’s bidness without their OK. So go ahead and exhale – I don’t know what you did last summer. Or last night.

Got any more questions about psychics? Hit me up!

Your 8 Spirit Helpers

The last couple weeks have been pretty cool.  During my readings, I’ve been getting some very powerful connections with my client’s spirit guides.

Now, I’m used to linking in with a main guide – the one that stays with us from birth to death. But lately, I’ve had evidence of some of the 7 other guides that are available to each of us.

See, human life is hard. It kicks our ass on a regular basis. But we don’t go through it alone. Each of us has access to a robust “spirit team” that can offer inspiration, information, connections and help as we navigate our path. Unlike angels, spirit guides have been human. So they know what we’re dealing with and are ready to jump in with some help.

Here’s a quick breakdown of your team:

1) The Gatekeeper, Doorkeeper or Master guide. This is the guide who stays with us from the moment of birth to the moment of death. His/her job is to help us stay on track with the life plan we came up with ahead of incarnating. This is your go-to resource for any sort of guidance we need – just ask.

Kinda like this guy...

Kinda like this guy…

The Master guide also coordinates and monitors the other guides who are available:

2) Healer Guides: these can help with any kind of health issue, including emotional issues. Call on them to help you stick to a new diet or fitness routine. If you’re dealing with serious illness, the healer can direct you to information or practitioners that will assist you. Healer guides may have been doctors in their human life, or they may have been shamans, midwives, herbalists, anything related to caring for the body.

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3) Teacher Guides: call for a Teacher guide if you’re trying to master a new skill, taking a course or trying to improve any aspect of your life. Kids can call on their Teacher guide to help them with school issues; if you’re having difficulty in a relationship, a teacher guide will present situations as “lessons” to help you break through roadblocks, etc. You’ll have a whole bunch of “aha!” moments with these guys.

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Sorry, I still don’t understand algebra.

 

4) Helper Guide: this guide only shows up at moments of great stress in your life. They will step in to assist in a health crisis or a situation that requires a little extra spiritual muscle.   The energy is very potent, and they often show themselves as a medicine man or shaman.

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5) Protector Guide: like a Helper guide, the Protector comes around when the person is in a dangerous situation. They appear as a very large being with a ton of energy emanating from them. Call on them when you’re in a risky profession, for people in the military or any time when you’re in a dodgy place. This doesn’t give you license to step in front of a bus, but when you need some extra protective armor, this is the entity to request.

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6) Runner Guide: this guide connects us with the presence of loved ones in spirit or missing items that are especially meaningful to us. They literally “run” to fetch the spirit or information on the missing item – and for that reason, often appear as an animal. Runner guides tend to appear in our dreams, bringing you a link to the invisible dimensions.

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7) Warrior Guide: this one is tricky. Warrior guides are there to help us pump up the badass, and help us master fear and weakness. But the energy of the warrior guide is so bold, that it can often lead you into some dicey situations – like turning you into that loudmouth drunk who thinks they’re bulletproof and eggs on a fight. So call on your Warrior guide sparingly.

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Seriously. You don’t want this guy hanging around too much.

8) Joy guides: I love these. The Joy guide will make us laugh, will lighten the energy of a heavy situation. Joy guides will lift the spirits of someone in a tough place – like a breath of fresh air. They often appear as little children, and the energy is very fizzy and sparkly.

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One thing that I frequently stress in my sessions is that you don’t have to do your life alone. There are resources available to help you make better decisions and move forward in a meaningful way.   Ultimately, you’re responsible – but you have a loving team who will give you fresh input and root you on.  The only things you have to do are 1) ask for their help  2) pay attention to what they send you and 3) thank them.

I wrote about a meditation to help you meet your main spirit guide – but you can use the technique to meet your other team members.

Three Things About Your Life Purpose

At a certain point in our life, we may worry that we’ve missed the boat on why we’re here. I’ve had a ton of clients lately wondering what their “life purpose” is. That nagging sense of something unfulfilled, unmet – that’s the Universe nudging you to take another look at things.

Now before you start hypeventilating over what a big job that seems to be, take a second. Over the years, I’ve sussed out a few things about the whole “life purpose” thingy. Read on and relax….

1) The term “life purpose” is pretty overwhelming. Don’t know about you, but it used to make me think of folks like Mozart or Madame Curie or Madonna – they all did something big and huge and left a permanent mark on humanity’s radar. “Life Purpose” implies something major. But that’s more the exception than the rule.

Even SHE probably worries that she was supposed to be a Doctor.

Even SHE probably worries that she was supposed to be a Doctor.

I love the story of St. Therese of Liseux, AKA “The Little Flower.”  Her thing was all about honoring God in little ways. Small kindnesses done to a single fellow human versus the big show in the ginormous cathedral. She famously said, “I only love simplicity. I have a horror of pretence.”  Word, sister.

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I think this is how, for many of us, our Life Purpose shows up. What seems to come naturally, easily are all hints of what you’re here to contribute.

One of my friends at the diner makes it a habit to tell me a corny joke every time I see him. I inevitably laugh and it sets my day off to a great start. This is no big thing – just a laugh shared from a friend.  But to make others feel good, well, this is part of his Life Purpose.

So take your definition of “Life Purpose” down a notch. Or five. Not everyone will be Mozart – but each of us can contribute in small ways for the betterment of us all.  And in the big picture, that’s more important.

2) Believe it or not, your life purpose is frequently uncovered by the suckiest things in your life. I just read a gentleman who recently endured both cancer and a heart attack. I saw very clearly that his experience would be useful for other folks dealing with illness. I also saw that he could use his talent for art to create little “healing cards” to distribute at hospitals, etc. That would be one way to make his “theme” work on a practical level.

When you look at the challenges and struggles of your life, what common thread runs through them all?  This is very likely a key to what it is you came here to do.

3) Your Life Purpose doesn’t have to be the one and only thing you do. There’s this idea that, once you discover it, you quit your job, leave your home and family, and head off into the world to do it. For some people, that may be the case.

Clearly living the fantasy.

Clearly living the fantasy.

 

But for most of us, we learn to fold our purpose into our overall life.

Flip your thinking and see “purpose” more as a thread that runs through your life. Because that can be enough – giving you a compass by which to direct the rest of your actions.

Of course, if you discover that healing or helping others is what makes your heart sing, your job as a forensic accountant may not cut it.   You may find yourself making changes in order to spend more time doing what makes you happy. But that’s not an absolute; don’t let this myth overwhelm you. Finding small ways to address your purpose is likely to make the rest of your daily life much richer and satisfying, and stop those nagging 3 a.m. moments.

Remember St. Therese.   And if I can help you uncover your own Life Purpose by using the Tarot, past life readings and help from your guides and angels, get in touch.

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