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What You Should Know About A “Sign”

I got an email from a friend the other day about her mother. Mom was in the hospital, undergoing some tests, and was understandably a nervous wreck. In the past, my friend had told me that she wished her mom could be more “open” to the spiritual and metaphysical worlds – but nope, that’s just not how this woman rolled.

However, spirit can sneak up on you.

As Mom was laying there, waiting to be wheeled in, an attending nurse came in. Her nametag read “Carmela,” which happened to be the name of Mom’s grandmother.

Then another nurse came in with some paperwork for her to sign. Her nametag read the name of Mom’s mother. And she used that cute (and overused) phrase, “I just need your ‘John Hancock.’” Turns out that Mom’s father had worked for that company.

My friend tells me that Mom’s face relaxed considerably as she asked, “I think those were signs that they’re near me today.”

As Fonzie said back on Happy Days, “Exactamundo.”

Here’s the deal about signs. Many of us assume (or hope) that they will come in a very specific form of our determination, or that they’ll be done in skywriting. The truth is, signs are frequently much more subtle than that – but their timing is always impeccable. It’s just that we lunkheads often miss them. Because we put our own conditions on things. We need to let go of the reins and let them speak to us on their own terms and timing.

It would be helpful if it happened like this, but generally, it doesn’t.

What I want to stress is that, like my friend’s mother, you will KNOW a “sign” coming from your loved ones or guides on the Other Side when you experience it. There’s something slightly “different” – the timing, the place, that sort of thing. As I tell my psychic development students, “Trust what you get.” Don’t overthink or excuse these moments of magic; let your heart (and intuition) be the barometer by which you judge a sign.  Here are more of my thoughts about this topic.

And PS – my friend’s mother is just fine.

Spirit Guides and Angels: A Cheat Sheet

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A new client was here the other day.  During the reading, I picked up some pretty specific information about one of her spirit guides, but when I relayed it, she admitted that she was a little confused about “guides” versus “angels” -which was which, who does what, etc. No shocker: the subject can be very detailed and dense, so I gave her this handy quick breakdown.  Consider it your spiritual “cheat sheet.”

 

SPIRIT GUIDES: our allies on “the Other Side.” They are most often human, but can also show up as animal or elemental (fairies, nature spirit) entities.   Generally, guides are a spirit who was human at one point.  They help us because they’ve “been there, done that.”  We’re each assigned one “main” guide at birth, who stays with us until we cross back over.

Although they’re always around, actually meeting a guide occurs during regular meditation.  This is the “quiet space” where they can reach you more easily.  If you only meditate for a few minutes each day, you will go a long way towards being able to sense their presence.

-Our main guide is with us from birth to death. Throughout life, other guides come and go as we need them. Ask for an appropriate guide to be sent to you when you require help with something special — like a job, family or health issue.  I wrote more about 8 specific guides here.

You may be given their name during prayer or meditation — maybe not.  You can call them whatever feels “right” to you — they don’t care!

ANGELS: Angels assist us on a more powerful, divine level. Angels have never been human; they are pure, divine energy.  There are many “ranks” of angels; whether you know these ranks or not doesn’t matter.  Simply asking for angelic assistance gets the message across.

-Guides are especially useful when dealing with human “issues.”  Because they understand what we go through, they can send us information, insight, etc. to help us deal with these earthly problems.

Angels, on the other hand, are for when you need to call in the really big guns. Their divine influence really kicks it up a notch or three.  There are no special rules for choosing a spirit guide’s help over an angel’s, or vice versa.  Ask for what will best serve you and leave it up to them.

-While we may actually “see” our spirit guide at some point (usually in our mind’s eye), it’s unlikely that we’ll see our angels (except in super-extreme circumstances – i.e. if they push us out of the path of a car, etc.).

-Guides and angels observe our FREE WILL; therefore, you need to ask them for help.

-The influence of guides and angels is subtle ; look for coincidences, signs, help or info that comes “out of the blue” or just pops into your head.  “Imagination” is the bridge between worlds, so TRUST what you get…and BELIEVE.   Don’t “overthink” — but remember, that whatever signs or information come from a guide or an angel will ALWAYS be positive.  They don’t deal in the negative, so be discerning with what you receive.

-Build a relationship with your guides and angels, as you would any other friend; acknowledge them regularly (say “hello” in the morning, count your blessings at night). Don’t always ask them for stuff – just be with them.

-You can ask for specific assistance (a big wad of money to drop in your lap when you need it) – but be open to the other ways in which their help may show up to address your problem ( a new job offer vs. winning the lottery).

-Track your encounters and experiences with a journal and check back to see how guides and angels have helped you.  And always remember to thank them!  It’s only decent.

PS — Remember, I’m here to help, so feel free to reach out for a reading.

 

7 Ways The Dead Reach Out

My neighbor, Harry, just passed away. It was sudden and sad, during a beach vacation with his family. At the wake, his widow hugged me, and told me that he had brought my book to read while hanging out under the umbrella. I was touched.

She also mentioned how weird it was that 1) her butterfly bush was loaded with the critters the day after he passed and 2) when their assistant walked into the office, the only computer that was on was his. Even though all the equipment had been turned off beforehand.  (Spirit people do love their electronics).

I take these as comforting signs that he’s still around. Yes, he’s moved on to the next plane of existence, but he’s still very much able to touch in with his loved ones to let them know he’s cool. And better than OK.

This is one of the reasons I wrote my book, OK, So You’re Dead: A Sassy Guide to the Afterlife. I get sooooo many questions about people who’ve crossed over – and how to carry on once they’ve made that jump. Face it, death kicks you in the teeth. Whether it’s a person or a beloved pet, the experience is a gamechanger.

Having said that, here are my 7 favorite signs that someone who’s passed is nearby:

1) Feathers: white feathers are commonly regarded as a sign from spirit. Sometimes you’ll find a big fat one; but small ones are no less potent. I was sitting outside the other day meditating when a tiny white feather drifted right down from nowhere. Sweet.

2) Butterflies. What a sign of transformation! You don’t necessarily have to see a live one; a photo or one on TV also counts.

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3) Dragonflies. With their ability to “walk on water” (literally), dragonflies remind us to look beneath the surface. And, like the explanation above, an image will do.

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4) Coins. Notice where and when you find them, if they’re especially shiny or have a significant date on them.

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5) Music. Flip on the radio after thinking of someone and notice what random lyrics have to say. Also, a particular artist may remind you of someone on the Other Side.

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6) Rainbows. Judy Garland sang about ‘em for a reason. And they were a sign to Noah that the storm had passed.

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7) Sparkles of light. When you catch them out of the corner of your eye, you can be sure it’s the presence of spirit.

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The thing about these indicators is, they stand out. There’s something out of the ordinary about when, where and how you experience them. Let them bring you reassurance that your loved ones are just fine — and watching over you.

If you’d like to further explore the subject of the Other Side, hope you’ll check out the book. It’s available in paperback, for Kindle of Nook.

OK, off to raise a glass to Harry.

PS — And I’d love to hear your own stories of contact with loved ones on the Other Side…leave it in the comments!

Getting A Sign From The Dead

I was at a demonstration of mediumship last week, a gallery demo where the mediums would present messages from spirit-side to the audience. Because I was working the door, I had a unique perspective as I sat in the back.

As the audience members engaged with the mediums, I was made super-aware of how we Living types have Very Specific Ideas of what we want to hear from spirit. Some of the audience were dismissing messages right from the jump, because they didn’t exactly line up with what they expected. A few minutes later, of course, the message would suddenly come clear and they would be like, “Oh…..now it makes sense!”

It’s not unusual for us to set up conditions for messages from the Other Side: “If you’re really around, ring the bell in the kitchen…” “If you’re really OK, let me smell your perfume again….” “If life does go on, let me see a red cardinal tomorrow.” But those conditions are all on OUR terms – we completely ignore the other half of the equation.

Forget your checklist.  You'll never get anywhere with that mindset.

Forget your checklist. You’ll never get anywhere with that mindset.

The thing is, our loved ones in spirit are working on a whole ‘nother level. They are not our trained monkeys.   They tend to send signs when we’re not so invested – that “surprise” factor has a better chance of getting through, because our screens are down.  I wrote about some other common “signs” here.

They also tend to work with what’s right in front of us. One of my friends just told me a story of an old woman from his church who used to end their phone conversations with, “Have a blessed day.” After she passed, he wanted a sign to know that she was OK – and he got it, in the form of a flat-bed truck in front of him, with a mudflap that read, “Have a blessed day.”

He turned himself inside out over the idea of a message appearing on a flat-bed. Why a truck? But why not? It was right in front of him, where he was sure to see it. So there’s that.

We need to trust that spirit will let us know about their life beyond the veil in times – and terms – that we can really “get.” If we set up parameters and conditions, we might miss it. Like a sailor so focused on the horizon in front of him that he misses the magnificence of a whale breaching right beside him.

 

Don't miss the magic...

Don’t miss the magic…

So please – release your expectations. Trust and believe. But set no conditions for hearing from them. Just know that you will.

Remember, if you’d like to connect with a loved one, get in touch regarding my mediumship services.  Happy to help you reach across the veil.

Some Common Signs and Their Meanings

Signs and symbols are all around us.  They represent the language of the subconscious (hello, Carl Jung).  But frequently, they’re also a way for entities on the Other Side to speak with us.

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When you have a question or an issue that you want guidance on, ask for a sign from your guides – then remain gently aware as you go through your day. Pay particular attention if you repeatedly see the same sign, or it pops up in a dream several times.

These signs may show up literally (like having a fender bender) — or as an image in an unusual place (like a pic of a baby in a store window).  Trust that sense in the back of your brain that tells you there’s something different.

The following list are some of the more common ones I’ve run across.  Got any favorites of your own?  Add them in the comments section!

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ACCIDENT: A wake-up call; pay attention!

ACORN: From small beginnings, great things grow. Good sign when you’re starting something new.

AIRPLANE: Soaring to new heights; having high ideals.

BABY: New beginnings; potential; new spiritual awareness; new ideas.

BELL: Can be a warning; be alert.

BOAT: An emotional journey; leaving the safety of land to “test the waters.”

BOOKS: Wisdom, knowledge, lessons to be learned.

BUTTERFLY: New beginnings on a higher plane; joy and bliss.

CAR: Represents the “vehicle” that you travel through life in; if there are problems in the car, how do they represent what’s happening in your body or your life?

CAT: Your deep, intuitive self; feelings of independence and power.

CLOCKS: What is your relationship to time? Is it running too fast, too slow?

CLOUDS: Clear clouds mean spiritual uplifting: storm clouds indicate trouble brewing followed by a period of “cleansing.”

CROSS: Infinite love; a ladder to the highest levels of God; protection.

DOG: Faithfulness, loyalty, truthfulness.

FEATHER: Presence of spirit; an important message from the Creator.

FIRE: The power of the life force; desire; energy.

HOUSE: Represents your physical and spiritual body; if there are leaks, clogs, problems, what parts of your life mirror that? What do you need to “clean up” or “fix”?

KEY: Doors are opening; solutions are at hand.

LIGHTNING: Indicates speed, strength and awakening the life force; a very powerful sign.

MONEY: If you keep finding money, your finances are improving; coins or small change indicate “changes” on the way.

OCEAN: Represents inner power. What is the state of the water?   Calm or stormy?

PEN/PENCIL: Express yourself.

RAINBOW: Extremely favorable sign: a message that you’re going in the right direction; new hope after a period of difficulty.

STREET SIGNS and BILLBOARDS: Notice what they’re saying to you.

SNAKE: A symbol of healing, transformation.

STORM: Inner turmoil followed by a period of calm; the air is clearing.

TELEPHONE: Trying to get your attention; a subconscious message trying to come through.

TIDAL WAVE: Huge emotional upheaval.

 

7 Signs of Angels

One of the things I stress to my clients is, you don’t have to go it alone. Human life is hard, but between angels, spirit guides and our loved ones on the Other Side, there are plenty of folks ready to help guide us over the potholes and gaping sinkholes we encounter. All you need do is send up the Bat Signal. Then pay attention.

Here are some common signs that you’ve been heard:

1) Feathers: white feathers are commonly regarded as a sign of the angels. Sometimes you’ll find a big fat one; but small ones are no less potent. I was sitting outside the other day meditating when a tiny white feather drifted right down from nowhere. Sweet.

2) Butterflies. What a sign of transformation! You don’t necessarily have to see a live one; a photo or one on TV also counts.

3) Dragonflies. With their ability to “walk on water” (literally), dragonflies remind us to look beneath the surface. And, like the explanation above, an image will do.

4) Coins. Notice where and when you find them, if they’re especially shiny or have a significant date on them.

5) Music. Flip on the radio after sending up your request and notice what random lyrics have to say. Also, a particular artist may remind you of someone on the Other Side.

6) Rainbows. Judy Garland sang about ‘em for a reason. And they were a sign to Noah that the storm had passed.

7) Sparkles of light. When you catch them out of the corner of your eye, you can be sure it’s the presence of a helper.

The thing about these indicators is, they stand out. There’s something out of the ordinary about when, where and how you experience them.

I was once walking through Times Square with a colleague who was grieving the loss of his mother. Her nickname had been “Bird,” so every feather he encountered on the nasty, funky street, he just had to pick up. The gazillion pigeons in the area just gave him side-eye. Because, pigeons.

The point is, you’ll KNOW when it’s a sign. Trust it.

Also trust that help will come from spirit-side; but it may not show up in the way you expect. For example, you may be gently steered to overhear a conversation about a company that’s hiring, rather than get a promotion at your present job. Keep an open mind – our helpers know what they’re doing.

What signs of spirit presence have you experienced?  Leave it in the comments.

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How — and When–Change Really Happens

Her email was all in caps: HELP! I’M TRYING TO CHANGE, BUT DON’T SEE ANYTHING HAPPENING!!!! (Yeah, that made my head hurt, too.)

This client is not alone. Lately, I’ve had a run on folks coming by who are trying their damndest to make a shift – but the results don’t seem to be following. It’s super-frustrating.

Most of us think “change” is like a vending machine: we put our intention in, so we should get an instant payoff. Wouldn’t that be great? But the reality is, we feel like our intention is a stuck bag of potato chips. Hate when that happens.

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What I frequently see is that the payoff is closer than we realize. We just have to keep on truckin’. That’s what the Universe asks us to do: keep walking.   Have some faith. Because with each step we take, the Powers That Be take one towards us.

I’ve seen this happen time and again: we think that we have to do it all, but the truth is, we have partners. And when we show the tiniest bit of willingness to move ahead on our path, we get an assist. Our spirit guides, the angels, loved ones on the Other Side….these are just a few of the entities available to us to help us fulfill our mission here  [the rule is, though, you have to ask them for help. Even if you’re not sure what kind of “help” you need,  just send out a generic 911 call.  Then watch for signs that you’ve been heard.]

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I also think our idea of “results” needs to shift. Our society encourages the notion of “overnight success,” “instant this” and “instant that.” But successful change is a process. It’s not one moment, but a bunch of them.   If Jeannie could blink and make it happen all at once, that would be cheating (remember how many problems her “help” caused for Major Nelson?  Am I dating myself?)

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The Moon card in the Tarot is all about this. You can’t see a foot in front of you in the dark. It’s all kinds of scary (hence, the yapping dogs). But in order to get out of that spooky forest you need to keep pushing through. If you just sit down and curl up in a ball, that’s how you’ll stay.

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Be brave. Even when you can’t see the results yet, keep working it.   Keep the finishing line in mind. All of a sudden, you’ll come around the corner – and there it will be.

If I can help you push past some obstacles and stay on the path, get in touch.  In the meantime, sing us out, Bono.

 

Build Your Psychic Power

Intuition is a completely natural function.  And like other functions (except, perhaps, my inner thigh muscles), it can be strengthened.

The thing with your natural psychic gifts is that you have dozens of chances each day to give them a little work out.  Hunches, first impressions and gut feelings are all signs that your intuition is pinging.   Pay attention.

Also, pay attention to HOW you’re getting that information.  Are you feeling sensations or emotions?  Seeing images in your mind’s eye?  Hearing words, music, etc. in your mind’s ear?  A combination of the three?  Psychic “style” is unique to each of us.  Once you have an idea of how you “get” your information, it will become easier to tune it in on demand.

Outside of those everyday opportunities, here are some fun exercises to build that muscle.

PLAYING CARDS:  Next time you’re hanging on the couch, grab a deck of playing cards.  Give them a good shuffle.  Pull a card with your non-dominant hand; don’t look at it.  Concentrate and see if you can pick up the number, color or suit.  Keep track of how many “hits” you get.

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NEXT DAY’S NEWSPAPER:  As you lay in bed, pretend that you’re lifting out of your body and astrally-travelling to your nearest newstand.  See it clearly.  Now look down at tomorrow’s newspaper.  What do you see?  Headline, word, photo?  Take a moment to jot it down, then check the next day to see how you did.

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WHAT AM I DOING?  This is a fun one to do with a friend.  Have your friend make a list of five simple actions:  jumping up and down, standing on one foot, washing a dish, etc.   They don’t share the list with you.  At a set time, they perform one of the actions.  You tune in at that time and see if you can pick it up. Do this every day for five days.   You could also do this with your kids.

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Hopefully your friend isn’t doing THIS….

Tarot is a great way to ignite your own psychic skills; the images really “speak” to that part of your brain.  Here’s a quick way to get started.

One thing to keep in mind with any form of psychic development is to keep things light and fun (and to stay healthy).  When you’re trying too hard, it chokes off the flow.  Imagine my surprise when, during a demonstration at a UK spiritualist church, they played ABBA songs beforehand.  Personally, I would’ve chosen Parliament Funkadelic, but that’s just me.  Anyway, the music raised the energy, made people smile and dance and really set a great mood.

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So have fun as you open up your skills.  And like vitamins or a quick set of pushups, do something psychic every day.