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Lessons from Lily Dale

I recently stumbled across an article about the spiritual community of Lily Dale in upstate New York. It brought back a bunch of memories about a trip that I took there a few years back, which I feel like revisiting.

If you’re not familiar, here’s a quick refresher: Lily Dale was established well over a century ago as a community of spiritualist mediums. The area itself (north of Buffalo – and a long-ass drive from my home in New Jersey) has a long association with Native Americans and has great energy. This is one reason why it was chosen. It’s a favorite destination of anyone seeking spiritual growth.

Pretty, isn’t it? Yes. Yes, it is.

The community is tiny. You need to park your car outside of the neighborhood and walk in. While there, you can take classes, attend lectures or daily public “message services” where the mediums deliver words from loved ones on the Other Side.

More importantly, you can avail yourself of any of the dozens of mediums who live and work inside Lily Dale. In order to nab one of the cute little Victorian homes dotting the streets, mediums must go through some rigorous vetting. It’s reportedly like the world’s toughest hazing ceremony. So customers have pretty high hopes for the quality of the readings. Especially after said “long-ass drive.”

When my friend Janet and I finally got there, we felt the “energy” of the place immediately. We checked into their ancient hotel, then started poking around up and down the tiny streets

The resident mediums hang out a shingle, letting you know they’re available for a walk-in appointment (some of the more popular ones require advance bookings). Janet and I had agreed beforehand that if one of us went in first for a reading, we’d give a discreet “thumbs up” or “down” to let the other know if it was worth following on.

Over the weekend, we each did a few readings, some together, others independently. Most were perfectly fine – nothing mind-blowing, but nothing that especially sucked, either.

But there was one reading that DID stand out – and not in a good way. Janet went in to a young woman’s parlor while I waited on the porch. When she emerged 30 minutes later, her eyes were wild and she was subtly shaking her head in my direction. The medium had a smile on her face, like “Next?” – but I was up from the lawn chair and off the porch before she knew it.

Turns out, this reader did something I am vehemently against, as are most readers that I know of: she had told Janet that she was dying. Of cancer. I’m still mad, just writing that. SO irresponsible, and you know what? Not for her to put that in someone’s head. I spent the rest of our time talking my friend off the ledge – and came very close to writing a letter to whomever chooses the Lily Dale readers.

A psychic reading is very intimate, and the client is especially vulnerable at the time– they open themselves to the reader. Health issues are especially dodgy; when people ask me for that kind of information, I’ll do an energy scan, but I always, ALWAYS tell them that if they have specific concerns, go see a doctor, not a psychic. ‘Cause we are far from perfect.

And I’m always aware that you don’t want to put anything negative in their psyche.   Because we can easily create some bad “juju” if someone else tells us that’s what’s on the menu. This is essentially how voodoo works – or any other “mind control” method, for that matter.

Now, while I personally wasn’t overly impressed by Lily Dale’s readers (and hey, they’re entitled to having an ‘off’ day), I also feel for them: the history and standards about the place set up some insane expectations.

To balance it out, there were some positive things about my visit to Lily Dale: several “otherworldly” moments where I connected with spirits on the Other Side; many ghostly experiences in the woods around the place, learning about the earliest days of the spiritualist movement – and evidence of the interactions from those times (check out the onsite museum).  Plus, when I got home, I was “inspired” to adopt my kitty, Pyewacket (long story –but Lily Dale def had a hand in the decision).

My kittyboy lounging in the sun.

I think my main takeaway from my visit to Lily Dale is that one needs to maintain their own power; psychic-mediums can provide powerful insights, and that’s what most of us strive to do. For clients, it’s tempting to hand things over to an “expert.” But in the end, all of us are responsible for our own life. This is why each of us is here: to make the best of the lessons handed to us. Psychics can provide guidance, but you need to pull the trigger. Or not.

So my message to you is this: don’t be too dazzled by the reputation of any psychic, psychic place or spiritual summer camp. Keep it in perspective. Psychics are not magicians; we are human. So take what you get in a reading and use what rings true to move you forward – not freeze you in a place of fear and powerlessness. You should NEVER leave a reading feeling hopeless or scared. You should come away feeling ready to kick some ass.

How I want you to feel when you leave my office. “Rawr!!!!!”

 

PS — I just finished an interesting book about Lily Dale.  Find it here.

3 Things To Know About A Psychic Reading

I was at a Labor Day barbecue yesterday, and met up with an old semi-acquaintance. It had been years since we’d seen each other, and during our catch up, my work as a psychic came up. Apparently, she didn’t know this about me. Well, the look on her face was one I see a lot: a mixture of curiosity and fear. She shared that she’d never had a reading, was nervous about the prospect, afraid of hearing “something bad.” I get this stuff all the time.

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So I offered to give her a quick reading, as a way to show her what was what. She’d already had a glass of wine, and was game. We found a quiet spot on the patio, I tuned in to her and off we went. The end result was, that she now understands that a reading can be empowering and interesting. It was a real breakthrough moment – her face was glowing with the possibilities now in front of her.

This experience made me feel that it was worth going over a few points about readings for those who’ve been a bit gun-shy. Because they do not have to be scary—in fact, a reading shouldn’t be. Read on…

  • Psychics cannot predict death. I am not going to tell you when, where or how you will meet your maker. That is not for me or anyone else to know or see. If a reader tries to sell you on that, get out.
  • On that same note, psychics can neither place nor remove curses.   This is classic mind-screwing. Curses (which I don’t believe in) are simply a way to get in your head and make you surrender your own power. You think you’re “cursed,” so you start making janky choices (big and small) and the negative consequences pile up. See? The curse must’ve been the cause of [FILL IN THE BLANK].  And sadly, we’ve all heard about those fakes who promise to “remove a curse” in exchange for lots and lots and LOTS of dollars. They are utter money-grubbing frauds (and will get theirs in the end, promise. Karma is a big, sparkly, Disco Bitch). Please don’t surrender your common sense and personal power to anyone with a slick way with words.
  • As to “seeing anything bad,” most psychics I know (myself included) view tough times or situations as a lesson from the Universe. If we can get under the hood of that thing via psychic info, a look at past lives, etc., you can gain some valuable insights into how to better navigate the problem. You do NOT have to stay stuck. To me, that’s the point of psychic insight: to help the client find additional ways to improve their life. It’s not the only way and it should be combined with practical action -but this “out of the box” approach can be very helpful.

So if you’ve ever thought about having a reading, but are still on the fence, think about what I’ve said here. At the very least, you’ll have a new experience to talk about at your next barbecue. At the most, you could come away with a fresh new way to solve your problems – and a doorway into a brand new life.

Psychics and Religion

A few years ago, I used to read at a local New Age shop. And you could pretty much count on getting some nasty piece of literature shoved under the door each week, claiming that what we were doing was “evil,” “of the devil,” we were going to Hell, blah blah blah.

Sooooo Over the HellFire threat....

Sooooo Over the HellFire threat….

I’ve gotten similar comments on Facebook or at my website. And, although I’ve been patient over the years, I’m here to tell you, I’VE OFFICIALLY HAD IT.

So here’s the deal. I respect people’s religious beliefs. But what I can’t stomach is medieval fear-mongering. As a psychic, what I do aligns with all great teachings, namely, helping someone evolve to something higher. And I would at least like the super-religious types to respect MY “religion.”

Psychics and mediums are tapped into a higher spiritual vibe. We are very aware that there is something greater than us, and we honor that. I think where it goes sideways for some folks is that an ethical psychic will always emphasize your free will in a situation. Anything that comes up is dependent on you taking action. This is where psychics and religion tend to part company.

For centuries, many religious leaders put the emphasis on that great spirit in the sky. “He” – and by default, “they”—were in charge. They could dispense praise and punishment, they ran the show. Conversely, the metaphysical world puts YOU in charge. And -no shocker- the establishment does NOT like that.

I’ve been reading Tarot for years, and discovered something interesting in my studies. The cards depict our journey, from being a straight-up dumbass (The Fool) to a more enlightened being (The World). Along the way, there are many tests and challenges (the minor cards), but ultimately, the individual is in charge of the choices they make (or don’t). I once read that this wisdom was put into “card” form so that the reader could scoop them up and be on their way in case the religious po-po showed up. Much less dangerous than a book, or a street sermon – which might’ve gotten them burned at the stake. Because “they” feared the power of the individual and how psychics emphasized that.

This is not Guantanamo.

This is not Guantanomo.

This, to me, is why so many religious believers freak out over psychics. But we are not here to replace or diss your God, rather to give you a different way to experience that kind of spiritual power. So stop already with the “devil” talk. We are not down with Satan.

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Not my friend….just sayin.

 

And stop throwing shade at those of us who deal with the spiritual life in a different way. Like I said, I am OVER it.  Just had to rant.  Thanks for letting me off-gas my rage.

Karma’s Not Always A Bitch – But When It Is…

I admit it – I love the Real Housewives of New Jersey. And I’ve been fascinated by the saga of Teresa and Joe’s criminal activity. They really had no clue that having a TV camera pointed at their extravagance might raise some red flags with government officials? (By contrast, nobody at the IRS would be interested in my cat-hair covered couch.)

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Anyway, that new ‘ho, Terresssssa, made a comment in an earlier episode that “karma’s a bitch” and that Teresa is reaping the whirlwind from her generally skanky behavior. That got me to thinking about karma, payback and “what goes around, comes around.”

Karma is a weighty subject; its the idea that we carry unresolved issues from one life into the next until they’re sorted out.   But there’s a simpler aspect: the actions we take right now, good or bad, have a more immediate impact.

There’s an energetic component: if you have a positive or benign intention, good karma goes out into the ether. If you do things that are underhanded or have a sketchy angle, the negative goes out there, too.

And like a giant cosmic boomerang, those energies return in your direction – but with an added punch. (Having had a boomerang once hit me in the head, I can attest to the “ouch” factor.)

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Wiccans have a saying that “whatever you put out comes back to you, three times three” (you do the math – but suffice to say, it’s a lot). That’s why no intelligent witch will work on the dark side; the initial payoff of a negative spell might be just fine. But watch out for later. Hoo boy, its gonna get ugly.

To me, karma is a physical law.   Our actions have a ripple effect, like throwing a stone into a pond. Most of us do more good than bad stuff, which balances things out. But I think its wise to weigh our big decisions by the impact they may have. Because that energy will return to you, three times three. Right, Teresa?

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PS – Remember, if there’s something in your life that has you tied up in knots, a reading can help untangle things. Get in touch.

Getting Unstuck

One of the most common things my clients say when they sit down with me is, “I feel….stuck.”  It comes up over and over again. And again.

I know that feeling: you’re like one of those old vinyl records, and the needle keeps skipping. Yes, I’m dating myself, but whatever – where you’re at doesn’t fit in one or more ways. You’re bored with your job, but not sure what else is out there. Your relationship feels like it belongs to someone else.   You’ve got a nagging feeling, “Is this all there is?”   But at the same time, you can’t seem to make any significant moves.

Super-annoying.  Especially if the album is by Captain and Tennille.

Super-annoying. Especially if the album is by Captain and Tennille.

This is where intuitive information can be especially useful:

1) Finding the much, MUCH bigger picture. When you’re deep in the weeds on something like a complicated relationship, its hard to see past your own nose. When I tune in, my intuitive radar pulls back to see other influences at work. Most clients are surprised at what else is going on; that larger perspective is enormously enlightening.

When your issues can be seen...from space!

When your issues can be seen…from space!

2) Decoding the karma and past life influences affecting you. I know, I know: some of you are rolling your eyes. But I’ve had too much evidence of multiple lives; its the way we learn and evolve. And there are plenty of things we “carry over” that impact our present life. A reading can shed some light.

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3) Hooking you up with your spirit team. Frequently, I pick up on spirit guides, loved ones on the Other Side – even angels – who are available to help you.   These powerful entities can see waaaay further down the road and provide not just a look ahead, but assistance to get you where you need to go.

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There’s a reason humans have access to information from our sixth sense: it’s specifically there to help us live the life we came here to do. So if you’re feeling stuck, take a fresh look and see all the options you have to work with. They’re there. Promise.

The Blessings Challenge

I had a client here the other day who’s in a rough place. According to her, nothing is going right in her life. Zero, Zip. Bupkis. She was hunched over in the chair, hair in the face, and no matter what positive news I saw coming for her, it wasn’t enough. She was so caught up in her negative zone, that she couldn’t let anything hopeful in.  And I don’t think she wanted to.

She makes Grumpy Cat look like a kid on Red Bull and Pixie Stix.

She makes Grumpy Cat look like a kid on Red Bull and Pixie Stix.

Check it: when I’d last seen her a few months before, she was freaked out because she’d been unemployed for awhile. She never thought she’d work again.  I saw a job coming, and guess what,  she DID get it.  But now its not enough. She hates the job, it doesn’t pay enough, she doesn’t like the commute, yadda yadda yadda.

As a psychic, it wouldn’t much matter what I told her — she would never step up and accept anything good.   She’d just let the bad roll on over her.

Look, I understand that, when tough things are being fired at you like one of those tennis ball machines, its hard to stay positive.  These are precisely the times that call for summoning up your inner badass.

I wrote in my book, OK, So You’re Dead that souls on the Other Side vie for the chance to incarnate into human form.  I know, I know – who would choose to deal with all the stuff we have to deal with down here? But the truth is, being human offers the fast track to our spiritual development.   It’s serious boot camp.

So when you’re faced with a rough patch, you have a choice. Being a Debbie Downer may feel good because it completely absolves you of any responsibility, but it will change not one blessed thing.  It does not serve you.  In fact, that downer energy will just attract more icky stuff, like one nasty-ass magnet.

Now I’m not saying that you act like Mary Poppins On Nitrous Oxide, either.  I just want you to recognize that we are all given positive energy to work with in our lives. It’s a law of nature: yin and yang, dark and light, up and down. There’s never any bad that doesn’t balance out with something good; you may have to look for it, but its ALWAYS there.

So here’s the challenge: every night before you go to sleep, tick off seven things going right in your world (seven is a power number).

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Your list could be as simple as the fact that you’re sleeping in a comfy bed, your kids are healthy, you have a roof over your head, you got a smile from the coffee guy, you’re not your mother-in-law, etc. I want you to do this every night for two weeks.

Whenever you encounter a tough moment during the day, recall one of your seven blessings from the night before. It counteracts the “heaviness” of that initial moment.

NOTE: The suckier your life seems at the moment, the more you need to do this!!!

I think what you’ll find is that the rough edges in your world start to smooth out. The more you look for what’s good and right, the more things will start to go right.

This is not Pollyanna talk; there are real physical properties to our attitude. It’s strictly an energy thing.  So when you’re challenged by the world, choose to stand up and claim the good stuff.  It’s like a shot of antibiotics to negative funk.

Need me to kick you in the butt and help move you forward?  Get in touch.

 

Connecting with Spirit Guides

I was recently asked, “How can I better connect with my guides and channel my higher self?”  Or something like that.

Quick refresher course:  each of us has a spirit guide, there to help us stay on track with the life plan the two of you designed before we incarnated.  You both set certain goals together to help you with your spiritual growth.  Unfortunately, the minute we’re born, that plan gets fuzzy in our human brain.  It’s like trying to recall a dream.

But your guide stays clear, and if you learn to connect with him/her, they can help you get back on track.  I shared a meditation to meet your guide here.

Working with your guide involves regular meditation.  That’s the space between the worlds where the two of you can meet.  Meditation helps you become aware of your guide’s unique presence.  The energy changes; you may “feel” them, or hear their voice.

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By regularly connecting with your guide, you make it easier to sense them in everyday life.  It’s like when you call up a trusted friend to talk over a problem; you need to know their number first.

So make it a point to meditate on a regular basis, and to invite your guide to connect with you, just to hang out together.

This is also just common courtesy; don’t you hate those friends that only talk to you when they need something?  Don’t be that person.

Your guide’s job is not to make troubles magically disappear; but they will give you the tools and inspiration to navigate them more effectively.  They are a great resource when you’re struggling with a decision or problem.

Your guide’s help comes in the form of new ideas, helpful people, little intuitive “nudges,”  information that you run across online, a dream.  Your job is to pay attention and act on this wisdom.   The more you do this, the easier it becomes to access this wonderful source of help.  And the smoother your journey becomes.

The process of regularly connecting to your guide also strengthens your awareness of what lies beyond our everyday headaches.  It provides an uber-reality check that puts it all in perspective and reminds us that we are all just souls having a human experience.

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3.5 Reasons You Need A Psychic

The way I see it, you need these on speed-dial: a plumber, mechanic, lawyer, and in my house, a chicken place that delivers.

I would add to that, a good psychic.

I’m not talking about hitting up Madame Lasagna at the boardwalk. I’m talking about those of us who are truly, sharply tuned in to the intuitive side.  That kind of information gives you a new (and sometimes better) way to deal with modern challenges.

For the record, this is NOT me.

For the record, this is NOT me.

Ever since the first human wondered if the person in the next cave over liked them or not, humans have sought ways to see what couldn’t be determined by other means.   Psychic ability lets us pull back from what’s in front of us, and sense other things at play.  The psychic’s brain downloads on a completely different channel and offers another source of information.

Intuition is a nice counterbalance to the super-tech, pointy-headed vibe of this 21st century life.  It’s more organic. Your iPhone can do a lot of things, but picking up psychic info ain’t on the list.

Can find you a restaurant, can't solve your relationship crisis.

Can find you a restaurant, can’t solve your relationship crisis.

Maybe that’s why I’ve seen such a huge increase in people coming for a reading whom you might not expect: a tough Irish cop, a psychoanalyst, a surgeon, for starters.  They’re finding a new way around their problems, by tapping into this age-old data stream.

If you’re still kicking the idea around, here are my 3.5 reasons to consider a psychic.

Reason #1:  WE SEE THE BIG PICTURE – THE REALLY BIIIIIG PICTURE

As a psychic, I’m focused on the particular issue you bring me, but I’m also “pulling back” to see what else is going on around its edges.  It’s kind of like Google Earth.  Many times, I pick up on things affecting it that you weren’t aware of:  past-life influences, karma, what’s up with the other people involved.  That kind of intel gives you a new perspective on why and where you’re stuck.  (Even if you’re not sold on the idea of past lives or karma, admit it – it sounds interesting, doesn’t it?)

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Can this help me find where I parked at the mall?

Reason #2 WE GIVE YOU A DETOUR AROUND THE ROADBLOCKS

When the same annoying situation/person keeps showing up in your life, there’s a reason.  Yes, really.   The Universe is trying to get your attention, or to provide a lesson.  What is that lesson?  An intuitive can give you the crib sheet and show you how to finally move forward.

Even around this....

Even around this….

Reason #3   A READING GETS YOU OUT OF YOUR HEAD

Check the frownlines on your face: we spend so much time grinding our mental gears, trying to work out a solution to a problem.

A reading might save you on some Botox. Just sayin.

A reading might save you on some Botox. Just sayin.

Sometimes, you need to take the brain out of it – and see what instinct and the heart has to say.  That’s the specialty of a psychic.  Add that info to the intellectual mix, your own knowledge of the situation and you’ve got something you can really work with in solving a problem.

Reason #3.5  YOUR DEAD GRANNY WANTS TO SAY “’SUP?”

Not all psychics are mediums – meaning, possessing the ability to connect with those on the Other Side.  But for those who do have that particular channel on their radio, it can be a powerful experience for the client.  My motto is, “It’s not a reading ‘til someone’s crying.”

Tools of the trade.

Tools of the trade.

Connecting with someone you’ve lost  is incredibly therapeutic.  I’ve had clients finally be able to drop all kinds of baggage after getting a message from someone who’s crossed over.  It’s not only intensely liberating, it’s a big comfort, as well.   The right psychic-medium can hook you up on that channel.

When it comes to finding an intuitive, I strongly believe in personal recommendations.  You want a good fit – and a truly professional intuitive won’t mind if he/she isn’t the right one for you.

Let me just add that a responsible psychic will only ask for his/her standard fee (and not hit you up for “extras,” like “removing curses”); and if someone’s issues are above their paygrade, they’ll suggest a qualified mental health professional.

At any rate, if you’ve ever rolled your eyes at the thought of consulting a psychic, open your mind.  This ancient art is more 21st century than you think.

Grow Some Magic: Planting A Spiritual Garden

Winter has had a white-knuckled grip on us this year, hasn’t it?  My sister in Minneapolis reports more snow….in mid-April.  But here in New Jersey, I can FINALLY see things starting to pop up  and I’m making my list of magical plants to add to my garden this year.

Lavender is one of my favorite perennials.  It smells wonderful and is good for helping you chill out.  But it’s also good for attracting love; rub some of it on your clothes to send out the vibe.

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Rosemary has protective properties, so I keep a pot of it near my front door.  I also make a bundle of rosemary and hang it on the front door to attract prosperity.

Sunflowers.  I sooooo love these flowers.  They are pretty magnificent in all their Shaq-sized glory.  When I read and sunflowers appear in my mind’s eye, I take it as a sign of spirit. They are a seriously lucky flower; let them keep watch over your yard, then bring them inside to lighten the heart.

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Marigolds are easy to grow, and they are a good flower for anyone who wants to further their career.  They bring prosperity and success, but they also help keep negative energy away.  Traditions says they’ll also repel pain in the ass neighbors or visitors (hear that, Guy-Who-Keeps-Placing-Chinese-Menus-In-My Door?)

Morning Glory draws happiness and tranquility and Hibiscus draws love.  And of course, I have Catnip for the boys to roll around in.

I have a couple of Holly around my front door, mainly because they’re so beautiful.  But they also serve as protection.  I’ve heard that putting a few holly leaves under your bed will ensure a good night’s sleep.

Dandelions usually fall victim to the weed spray, but I’m learning to make peace with them.   They’ve been used for centuries for purification and healing, and planting them in the northwest corner of your property will help bring about positive change.  I don’t plan to actually plant the little buggers, but will let them co-exist with the grass this year.

My father and grandfather had a green thumb when it came to roses.  Me?  Not so much.  But I keep trying.  Roses raise the love vibration (no wonder we give them for Valentine’s Day) but they are also welcoming to the nature spirits.  If you place some random rose petals around your home, it will take down any janky vibes.  Will it make your teenager less sulky?  Um, can anything do that?

Speaking of roses, I have a metal archway and plan to train them over it.  Legend goes that walking beneath a bramble-covered archway will cure just about any ailment.  Except maybe hangovers.

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Making a garden inviting to the nature spirits will bring a wonderfully peaceful energy.  I keep one small corner of my yard a little “wild.”  No weeding or lawnmowing allowed.  This is where those little guys can hang out.  Every so often I leave a little fruit or some crumbled cookies out for them.  Whether its the fairies or raccoons snarfing them down, no matter — the point is to let those entities know they’re welcome.

"Just leave the Fed X package....I'm in the shower."

“Just leave the Fed X package….I’m in the shower.”

For this same reason, don’t get too cheesed off if the birds eat some of your fruit plants.  Sharing your harvest is good karma.

Some of the other elements of my magical garden this year will include a simple do-it-yourself fountain (sounds nice and the birds like the water), plenty of windchimes and birdfeeders.  But the most important of them all?  A hammock, where I can take it allllll in. Preferably with a glass of wine in hand.

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Reincarnation 101

Recently, I read a woman who lost her son a few years ago.    I can’t even imagine that kind of pain.  So I was not at all surprised when she asked if there was a chance that he might reincarnate while she was still alive, and they might connect again.  Let’s discuss.

Reincarnation fascinates me.  And it makes total sense to my hyper-logical brain.  I just can’t believe that everything that makes a person who they are just goes away when they die.  The force of personality is not organic, like a piece of old bread.  It’s much more than that.

We are not THIS....

We are not THIS….

Physics tells us that energy cannot die, it can only turn into something (or someone) else.  So I believe that when we pass, our spirit-energy goes to the Summerland to take stock and reassess.  It’s like the Mother of all Debriefings.

Let me break it down: you spend some time there, looking over what you learned in your time on Earth.  You hang with your ancestors.  You get really good at badminton or origami (even if you couldn’t fold a newspaper to save your life, when you HAD a life). Then you decide to return to Planet Earth, bringing back some memory of what you learned the last go-round.

"...just think: I couldn't even walk and chew gum in my last life..."

“…just think: I couldn’t even walk and chew gum in my last life…”

You hope to move the needle on your soul’s evolution, by being smarter, wiser and more loving in this new life. It’s your chance to move up a grade, as it were.  Eventually, you “graduate” and can decide to permanently hang on the sweet side, although many evolved souls are opting to return to help the rest of our sorry asses out.

That, to me, is how I understand reincarnation.

I’ve read that we used to come back every 200 years or so.  But as our civilization has “sped up,” the process is much more frequent.  So does that mean someone you love will return in your lifetime?  Sometimes.  But that doesn’t mean that they will necessarily show up in your neighborhood.  They could be running a pedi-cab in Sri Lanka.

"Nana?  Is that you?"

“Nana? Is that you?”

The other thing is, that when we reincarnate, we do bring some of the knowledge of our past lives with us.  But we have a hard time remembering it – and the people that were there with us (another reason for not waiting around for them).  I’m going to reference one of my favorite movies, Made In Heaven  with Timothy Hutton and Kelly McGillis.  It’s a great romantic film, but the way it depicts Heaven and returning to Earth is spot on.  Check it out.

Anyway, we’re back to take on new experiences; to be burdened with the entire memory of our past lives would make our heads explode (not to mention, make it really hard to decide what to put on in the morning). So while there’s a certain spiritual “overlay” of what we’ve been through, as with all our lives, we have free will to use it moving forward.  Or to completely forget it and go off the rails.

Here’s an example.  Early in my spiritual development, I met a guy I was cah-razy for. Naturally, after I got home from our date at the bar, I used one of my new skills and did his numerology chart.  Now, according to numerology, each of us has up to 11 Karmic Lessons to learn.  In some lifetimes, we may only have one or two; in others, a boatload of them.

Anyway, I was stunned to see that  Mr. Yummy had NO Karmic Lessons.  Zero, zip, nada.  This was a curious thing, because he turned out to be the biggest tool on the planet.

Thought he was this guy.  Not even close.

Thought he was this guy. Not even close.

You would think someone with no Karmic Lessons in their chart would be really spiritual like Ghandi or Jesus.  But you would be wrong. I was completely stumped, until I learned that, just because you come into this life with a clean slate doesn’t mean you exit with one.

There’s that pesky “free will” thing again. My hunk may have reincarnated after years of deep study in various medieval monasteries.  But in this life, he clearly had abandoned any vows of celibacy and sobriety.  And reading.   If he was someone’s long lost sweet grandma that they hoped to see again, they were gonna be waaaaay disappointed.

One thing to keep in mind is, the experience of losing someone is part of our growth as humans.  Grief is a powerful teacher. The understanding that we can and will connect with them in the spiritual realm is another lesson.  To hang on to the hope that you’ll see someone again in the flesh keeps you from moving forward.    Don’t put your life on hold for them.