Very often, when someone comes to me for a reading, they sit down and proceed to dump a whole lot of crap. I mean, a WHOLE lot. That’s OK – I get it and I understand that they need to “offload.” They’re in a super-tough spot and need some clarity. And I love helping them with that (I’m a freak like that).
I had a client the other day who’s had quite the “pile-on” in the last four years: the loss of her father, diagnosis of an illness and – worst of all – the sudden loss of her son in a tragic accident. She sat across from me, wondering why all this horrendous stuff has happened to her.
This is why I always keep a well-stocked box of tissues on the table.
Over the years, there are a few things I’ve learned about “crap.” And let’s be honest – each and every one of us has had (or is having) their share of it.
Look, I am the least Pollyanna/Maria Von Trapp type you will meet. I generally stay positive, but I’m also aware that bad (and sometimes very bad) stuff happens. Many times, it seems to be so random, and it’s easy to say “Why me?” (right after you utter, “WTF??!”) So, as a psychic, here are a few things I’ve learned about challenges. Take it for what it’s worth.
-Challenges are not “personal” – don’t waste time in beating up on anyone or anything (including yourself). Just deal with what’s in front of you. It’s like that classic line from The Godfather: “Its not personal, its business.” No matter how painful the situation, know that the Universe is NOT necessarily trying to come for you. [See the next point.]
-It’s a lesson – and when its really loud and obnoxious, pay attention. I passionately believe that tough times are put in our path to teach us something. And when something is really, REALLY making a ruckus, the more you need to stop whining and take a hard look at what that might be.
Not saying that it’s easy, but it puts a context around it. For example, if there’s a really crappy person that just won’t go away, what’s YOUR part in that? Trust me, I’ve had many clients who say they just can’t shake a toxic relationship; but on some level, they don’t want to. It takes bravery to admit your role in a problem – but when you do, you’ll be free. Or free-er. NOTE: there are some problems (like the client who lost a child) in which you don’t have a big hand. But you can still find something to learn from. Don’t give up. [See next point].
-The worse your situation, the braver you are. I know (and have had confirmation during many sessions) that we choose to deal with really hard stuff before we come into this life. Our souls understand that we need to grow, so we tee up experiences that will get the job done. If you’re dealing with a total crap-storm of tough times, consider yourself a true Warrior. Fight on.
-It will make you stronger and better – if you let it. Challenges are aerobics for the soul. If you can face them, and see how they are re-shuffling the deck in your life, you will be better for it. I’m not saying it’s fun, but it DOES give you the chance to grow. And I believe that’s why we are here. You will be wiser on the back end.
-Challenges are a reminder of how truly badass you are. As I mentioned, we outline the experiences and challenges we will have before we take human form. And taking that form, otherwise known as “incarnation,” is seriously gnarly. Choosing to walk in human shoes is exceptionally tough stuff, and on spirit-side, it’s understood that the truly cool souls are those who choose to put those human shoes on — despite how badly-fitting or tacky-ass they may be.
-Your crap situation can help other people. Yes, really. Going through something dreadful can fine-tune your empathy vibe. You’ve been somewhere unique, and now have the capacity to truly understand someone who’s going through something similar. You’re now closer to “the right words “– and that can be invaluable to someone who is lost. Personally, I had a terrible 2016. And once pulling out of the darkness (and frankly, there are days that I know that I’m still pulling out of it), I realized that what was left was a super-clear realization of what others going through a similar time were experiencing. My sensitivity increased; my snarkiness decreased. And that has made all the difference. I can help on a level I couldn’t have before.
-“The troubles,” as my Irish grandmother would’ve called them, are not permanent; change is possible – and even ordained. The sea can teach us here: waves come in, waves go out. Change is the currency of nature. Seasons, the way night turns into day, the phases of the moon…. examples are all around you. So please, do not get locked into a fake idea that your crap is destined to hang on forever and ever and ever. Embrace that this is a moment in the present space and time. Also, embrace the idea that the moment will pass — and things will turn for the better.