I admit it: I have a serious love/hate relationship with The Law of Attraction. I get the physics behind it, that if we properly align our energies with the Universe, we can attract whatever we want into our life with a lot less sweat. That makes sense to me. That’s the “love” part.
Buuuuttt……then why hasn’t my Porsche shown up in the driveway? Am I a complete loser with the Law? Are my energies not operating at full capacity? That’s the “hate” part.
Like most of us, I’m still working on going fully operational with manifesting, but here are two things that have helped me so far.
1) START SMALL. REALLY SMALL. REALLY, REALLY SMALL.
The book, The Secret, suggests first trying to “manifest” a cup of coffee. See if someone offers you one, shows up with an extra mug, whatever.
You could also attract a great parking spot. Or finding a quarter. The point is, not to overwhelm yourself. It’s like learning to walk: you didn’t go from crawling to running the New York Marathon in one fell swoop. Baby steps, people.
2) LEAVE THE “HOW’S” TO THE UNIVERSE
This is by far the biggest obstacle to manifesting. We disperse our energies in trying to direct how things are gonna show up, rather than keeping an eye on the prize itself.
Look at it this way: say you’ve waited months to get a table at a five-star restaurant. You look at the menu and choose your meal, something sinfully delectable. The waiter takes your order and heads off into the kitchen. Would you get up from your chair, follow him, then proceed to tell the chef how to make your dinner? Granted, I was once a waittress and had a couple of obnoxious customers who came close to that – but seriously. Leave the chef alone to work his magic.
If you want to direct that control-freak energy somewhere, focus it on how you’ll feel when this goal arrives. Picture yourself as already having it. Bask in it. But dial back the need to shape the “when” and “how.” That just slows your power down.
By the way, finding your focus is something I wrote about here.
I read somewhere that just sixteen seconds of really soaking in the feeling of what you want puts as much juice towards making something happen, as doing 100 hours of actual labor towards that same goal. Mind. Blown.
So don’t beat yourself up if your manifesting powers aren’t working at full bore. Start small, take baby steps, and leave the details to that awesome Chef in the Sky. Because you might get a free dessert you weren’t expecting.