How — and When–Change Really Happens
Her email was all in caps: HELP! I’M TRYING TO CHANGE, BUT DON’T SEE ANYTHING HAPPENING!!!! (Yeah, that made my head hurt, too.)
This client is not alone. Lately, I’ve had a run on folks coming by who are trying their damndest to make a shift – but the results don’t seem to be following. It’s super-frustrating.
Most of us think “change” is like a vending machine: we put our intention in, so we should get an instant payoff. Wouldn’t that be great? But the reality is, we feel like our intention is a stuck bag of potato chips. Hate when that happens.
What I frequently see is that the payoff is closer than we realize. We just have to keep on truckin’. That’s what the Universe asks us to do: keep walking. Have some faith. Because with each step we take, the Powers That Be take one towards us.
I’ve seen this happen time and again: we think that we have to do it all, but the truth is, we have partners. And when we show the tiniest bit of willingness to move ahead on our path, we get an assist. Our spirit guides, the angels, loved ones on the Other Side….these are just a few of the entities available to us to help us fulfill our mission here [the rule is, though, you have to ask them for help. Even if you’re not sure what kind of “help” you need, just send out a generic 911 call. Then watch for signs that you’ve been heard.]
I also think our idea of “results” needs to shift. Our society encourages the notion of “overnight success,” “instant this” and “instant that.” But successful change is a process. It’s not one moment, but a bunch of them. If Jeannie could blink and make it happen all at once, that would be cheating (remember how many problems her “help” caused for Major Nelson? Am I dating myself?)
The Moon card in the Tarot is all about this. You can’t see a foot in front of you in the dark. It’s all kinds of scary (hence, the yapping dogs). But in order to get out of that spooky forest you need to keep pushing through. If you just sit down and curl up in a ball, that’s how you’ll stay.
Be brave. Even when you can’t see the results yet, keep working it. Keep the finishing line in mind. All of a sudden, you’ll come around the corner – and there it will be.
If I can help you push past some obstacles and stay on the path, get in touch. In the meantime, sing us out, Bono.