Signs and symbols are all around us. They represent the language of the subconscious (hello, Carl Jung). But frequently, they’re also a way for entities on the Other Side to speak with us.
When you have a question or an issue that you want guidance on, ask for a sign from your guides – then remain gently aware as you go through your day. Pay particular attention if you repeatedly see the same sign, or it pops up in a dream several times.
These signs may show up literally (like having a fender bender) — or as an image in an unusual place (like a pic of a baby in a store window). Trust that sense in the back of your brain that tells you there’s something different.
The following list are some of the more common ones I’ve run across. Got any favorites of your own? Add them in the comments section!
ACCIDENT: A wake-up call; pay attention!
ACORN: From small beginnings, great things grow. Good sign when you’re starting something new.
AIRPLANE: Soaring to new heights; having high ideals.
BABY: New beginnings; potential; new spiritual awareness; new ideas.
BELL: Can be a warning; be alert.
BOAT: An emotional journey; leaving the safety of land to “test the waters.”
BOOKS: Wisdom, knowledge, lessons to be learned.
BUTTERFLY: New beginnings on a higher plane; joy and bliss.
CAR: Represents the “vehicle” that you travel through life in; if there are problems in the car, how do they represent what’s happening in your body or your life?
CAT: Your deep, intuitive self; feelings of independence and power.
CLOCKS: What is your relationship to time? Is it running too fast, too slow?
CLOUDS: Clear clouds mean spiritual uplifting: storm clouds indicate trouble brewing followed by a period of “cleansing.”
CROSS: Infinite love; a ladder to the highest levels of God; protection.
DOG: Faithfulness, loyalty, truthfulness.
FEATHER: Presence of spirit; an important message from the Creator.
FIRE: The power of the life force; desire; energy.
HOUSE: Represents your physical and spiritual body; if there are leaks, clogs, problems, what parts of your life mirror that? What do you need to “clean up” or “fix”?
KEY: Doors are opening; solutions are at hand.
LIGHTNING: Indicates speed, strength and awakening the life force; a very powerful sign.
MONEY: If you keep finding money, your finances are improving; coins or small change indicate “changes” on the way.
OCEAN: Represents inner power. What is the state of the water? Calm or stormy?
PEN/PENCIL: Express yourself.
RAINBOW: Extremely favorable sign: a message that you’re going in the right direction; new hope after a period of difficulty.
STREET SIGNS and BILLBOARDS: Notice what they’re saying to you.
SNAKE: A symbol of healing, transformation.
STORM: Inner turmoil followed by a period of calm; the air is clearing.
TELEPHONE: Trying to get your attention; a subconscious message trying to come through.
TIDAL WAVE: Huge emotional upheaval.
One of the things I stress to my clients is, you don’t have to go it alone. Human life is hard, but between angels, spirit guides and our loved ones on the Other Side, there are plenty of folks ready to help guide us over the potholes and gaping sinkholes we encounter. All you need do is send up the Bat Signal. Then pay attention.
Here are some common signs that you’ve been heard:
1) Feathers: white feathers are commonly regarded as a sign of the angels. Sometimes you’ll find a big fat one; but small ones are no less potent. I was sitting outside the other day meditating when a tiny white feather drifted right down from nowhere. Sweet.
2) Butterflies. What a sign of transformation! You don’t necessarily have to see a live one; a photo or one on TV also counts.
3) Dragonflies. With their ability to “walk on water” (literally), dragonflies remind us to look beneath the surface. And, like the explanation above, an image will do.
4) Coins. Notice where and when you find them, if they’re especially shiny or have a significant date on them.
5) Music. Flip on the radio after sending up your request and notice what random lyrics have to say. Also, a particular artist may remind you of someone on the Other Side.
6) Rainbows. Judy Garland sang about ‘em for a reason. And they were a sign to Noah that the storm had passed.
7) Sparkles of light. When you catch them out of the corner of your eye, you can be sure it’s the presence of a helper.
The thing about these indicators is, they stand out. There’s something out of the ordinary about when, where and how you experience them.
I was once walking through Times Square with a colleague who was grieving the loss of his mother. Her nickname had been “Bird,” so every feather he encountered on the nasty, funky street, he just had to pick up. The gazillion pigeons in the area just gave him side-eye. Because, pigeons.
The point is, you’ll KNOW when it’s a sign. Trust it.
Also trust that help will come from spirit-side; but it may not show up in the way you expect. For example, you may be gently steered to overhear a conversation about a company that’s hiring, rather than get a promotion at your present job. Keep an open mind – our helpers know what they’re doing.
What signs of spirit presence have you experienced? Leave it in the comments.
I recently re-did my office to make it my “reading room” for clients. Put away are the corporate items that once dominated the room: files, binders with reports, back issues of trade magazines and biz-related books. Those now reside in a couple of big containers stashed elsewhere.
Instead, I’ve consciously reworked the space to give off a peaceful, healing and spiritual vibe. It helps me during the reading, but it also puts my client into a calm, positive space that they take with them afterwards.
Over the years, I’ve amassed a boatload of tools, tchotkes, potions, powders, Tarot decks, oracle decks, books and more related to the spiritual realms. I had fun dragging them all out and arranging them in my new room. But when it gets right down to it, there are four things that anyone can display in their home that will instantly pull in wonderful energies.
One of my friends had a living room that looked like a rock shop. Crystals everywhere. I haven’t gone that far, but I do keep some particular ones in my room: quartz, amethyst and rose quartz. Those are the go-to stones and cover a lot of ground, purpose-wise. Displaying even a single crystal in your home changes the energies. I wrote more about stones here and here.
The light from a candle isn’t just warm and peaceful, it serves as a beacon to helpful entities on the Other Side. They’re drawn to the gentle illumination. The ritual of lighting a candle instantly dials down the everyday drama and puts you in a more peaceful state.
There’s a reason churches and temples burn incense: it creates sacred space. In some traditions, incense “carries” our prayers to the heavens. Before my client arrives, I light the incense, then carry it around the room (in a dish of sand so no random embers drop onto the carpet). It’s the fastest way to “get in the zone.”
At last count, I had figures of Jesus, Mary, Buddha, Kuan Yin, Archangel Michael, St. Teresa, St. Anthony, St. Francis, random angels, a Native American shaman and some Hindu god whose name escapes me. Seeing this parade of enlightened beings from all traditions grounds me. It reminds me that there are entities available to help us as we navigate life’s ups and downs. But even a single image of a being meaningful to you instantly draws in powerful spiritual energy.
Got any favorite items of your own? How do you “make over” your space? Spill it in the comments!
One of the most valuable sources of spiritual information available to us comes through our dreams. This is where our minds are stilled from the distractions of the day, where our subconscious relaxes and opens up. The dream state is the meeting place where our spirit guides, angels and loved ones on the Other Side can get in touch more easily.
And its where we can access information and messages from these entities. Keeping a Dream Journal allows you to compile this rich source of info; simply trying to “remember” a powerful image or dream experience pretty much guarantees it will vanish by the time you’ve finished your breakfast. Besides, some messages may resonate days or even weeks later. So writing them down is just smart.
Because this can be such a moving, enlightening part of your life, pick out an extra-nice blank journal and a pretty pen. Scrawling your insights in lipstick on the take-out receipt just doesn’t have the same vibe.
The info that downloads from the spiritual realm may come as a simple word, a feeling, an image – or a whole, long dream where you’re jamming with Aerosmith while wearing a hoop skirt straight out of Gone With the Wind.
I’m pretty good at recalling my dreams, and when I write them down, I go back and highlight particular words or feelings that jump out from the whole scenario.
Dating your entries is also crucial: when you look back, you may spot an overall “thread” that has meaning. Or individual dates may align with important events in your life: the death-date of someone special, your birthday, anniversaries, etc.
When it comes to both getting messages from angels, loved ones or spirit in your dreams – and recalling them in general –your intention is everything. Before you go to sleep, ask for something to be sent your way – and the ability to remember it. When you first wake up from your dream, stay still for a moment or two to “capture” it. Then record it in your journal. This becomes a practice, so don’t be discouraged if it takes a little time. It wlll happen.
I also keep a couple of “dream encyclopedias” by my bedside to help decode various symbols: many times, spirit utilizes universal images like rainbows or birds to communicate with us. No need to reinvent the wheel.
You’ll recognize true messages for the impact they have on you: they stand out from ordinary dreams. Sleep is a great thing – but that time drooling on your pillow can be incredibly healing in more ways than one. Nighty night.
One of the most common things my clients say when they sit down with me is, “I feel….stuck.” It comes up over and over again. And again.
I know that feeling: you’re like one of those old vinyl records, and the needle keeps skipping. Yes, I’m dating myself, but whatever – where you’re at doesn’t fit in one or more ways. You’re bored with your job, but not sure what else is out there. Your relationship feels like it belongs to someone else. You’ve got a nagging feeling, “Is this all there is?” But at the same time, you can’t seem to make any significant moves.
This is where intuitive information can be especially useful:
1) Finding the much, MUCH bigger picture. When you’re deep in the weeds on something like a complicated relationship, its hard to see past your own nose. When I tune in, my intuitive radar pulls back to see other influences at work. Most clients are surprised at what else is going on; that larger perspective is enormously enlightening.
2) Decoding the karma and past life influences affecting you. I know, I know: some of you are rolling your eyes. But I’ve had too much evidence of multiple lives; its the way we learn and evolve. And there are plenty of things we “carry over” that impact our present life. A reading can shed some light.
3) Hooking you up with your spirit team. Frequently, I pick up on spirit guides, loved ones on the Other Side – even angels – who are available to help you. These powerful entities can see waaaay further down the road and provide not just a look ahead, but assistance to get you where you need to go.
There’s a reason humans have access to information from our sixth sense: it’s specifically there to help us live the life we came here to do. So if you’re feeling stuck, take a fresh look and see all the options you have to work with. They’re there. Promise.
I had a client here the other day who’s in a rough place. According to her, nothing is going right in her life. Zero, Zip. Bupkis. She was hunched over in the chair, hair in the face, and no matter what positive news I saw coming for her, it wasn’t enough. She was so caught up in her negative zone, that she couldn’t let anything hopeful in. And I don’t think she wanted to.
Check it: when I’d last seen her a few months before, she was freaked out because she’d been unemployed for awhile. She never thought she’d work again. I saw a job coming, and guess what, she DID get it. But now its not enough. She hates the job, it doesn’t pay enough, she doesn’t like the commute, yadda yadda yadda.
As a psychic, it wouldn’t much matter what I told her — she would never step up and accept anything good. She’d just let the bad roll on over her.
Look, I understand that, when tough things are being fired at you like one of those tennis ball machines, its hard to stay positive. These are precisely the times that call for summoning up your inner badass.
I wrote in my book, OK, So You’re Dead that souls on the Other Side vie for the chance to incarnate into human form. I know, I know – who would choose to deal with all the stuff we have to deal with down here? But the truth is, being human offers the fast track to our spiritual development. It’s serious boot camp.
So when you’re faced with a rough patch, you have a choice. Being a Debbie Downer may feel good because it completely absolves you of any responsibility, but it will change not one blessed thing. It does not serve you. In fact, that downer energy will just attract more icky stuff, like one nasty-ass magnet.
Now I’m not saying that you act like Mary Poppins On Nitrous Oxide, either. I just want you to recognize that we are all given positive energy to work with in our lives. It’s a law of nature: yin and yang, dark and light, up and down. There’s never any bad that doesn’t balance out with something good; you may have to look for it, but its ALWAYS there.
So here’s the challenge: every night before you go to sleep, tick off seven things going right in your world (seven is a power number).
Your list could be as simple as the fact that you’re sleeping in a comfy bed, your kids are healthy, you have a roof over your head, you got a smile from the coffee guy, you’re not your mother-in-law, etc. I want you to do this every night for two weeks.
Whenever you encounter a tough moment during the day, recall one of your seven blessings from the night before. It counteracts the “heaviness” of that initial moment.
NOTE: The suckier your life seems at the moment, the more you need to do this!!!
I think what you’ll find is that the rough edges in your world start to smooth out. The more you look for what’s good and right, the more things will start to go right.
This is not Pollyanna talk; there are real physical properties to our attitude. It’s strictly an energy thing. So when you’re challenged by the world, choose to stand up and claim the good stuff. It’s like a shot of antibiotics to negative funk.
Need me to kick you in the butt and help move you forward? Get in touch.
In my free time, I volunteer with an animal rescue group. The other day, I adopted out one of our older cats to a woman who had recently lost her beloved Charlie. She was eager to give another senior cat a loving home – always a wonderful situation.
Anyway, when I called to follow up, she mentioned that the new kitty, Molly, was staring at the places where Charlie once hung out, as if she could see him. She, too, swore that she’d seen Charlie out of the corner of her eye several times since his passing. But of course, that was impossible. Right?
Animal energy is very “sticky.” It attaches to the people and places the critter loved. So its no surprise that an animal who loved their human will want to keep an eye on them, even when they’re out of their physical body. [I wrote more about pet loss here and here.]
Living animals pick up on spirit animals very easily. They communicate back and forth, with the spirit version often giving the physical animal an assist in the home: “The lady will give you people food if you look at her like this….” “Watch out for that small kid – he pulls tails….” “The man is sad….he needs extra hand licks.” [These are actual messages I’ve gotten during some of my Animal Communication sessions.]
As for thinking you’ve seen your pet after they’ve gone, you have. One client wrote to me that he’d seen his dog going around the corner of the living room. Another saw her cat laying in the sun like she used to – just for a second. You may also see “sparkles” out of the corner of your eye just after thinking of them. You think you hear or smell them, feel them laying next to you on the bed or sitting in the car like they used to. Don’t dismiss these moments. They are gifts from your fur baby on the Other Side.
One of my favorite movies was on TCM the other night: A Hard Day’s Night is celebrating its 50th anniversary. Watching it again, I found myself smiling, laughing and dancing along to the Beatles music in my pajamas.
I started thinking about one of the reasons the Fab Four were such a break-out phenomenon: its widely thought that, after the horrifying death of JFK in 1963, America was in desperate need of joy. And they got it in the form of four cheeky, massively talented lads from Liverpool.
Joy is powerful stuff. It changes molecules. It shifts the energy. I mean, even the grumpiest soul is lifted out of the doldrums by the belly laugh of a baby. And look at the phenomenal success of Pharell Williams’ song, Happy. People crave joy to counteract the heavy times we live in.
I did a reading the other day with a young girl who was super-serious. I suppose she thought that was what was expected. Needless to say, she was surprised when I cracked jokes during the session. Being a wiseass is my personal style, but it happens to serve a very real purpose.
Joy amplifies the channel to the Other Side. It has a high energy frequency which makes tuning in to finer energies a lot easier. Think of how you feel when you’re dealing with something serious or sad: its heavy, slow-moving, thick. Blech.
On the flip side, when people are laughing or happy, things feel light and clear. That makes any intuitive work way easier. Not to mention life in general.
When I was studying in England, I attended a service by the National Spiritualist’s Union. This was where mediums would give messages from the Other Side to people in the audience. Before the service started, ABBA music was played in the church. Instead of stuffy old hyms, we were asked to sing along to Dancing Queen and Take A Chance On Me. The minister then entered, dressed in an outfit to rival the cover of Sgt. Pepper. We were all smiles, the energy felt great – and it made for a wonderful evening.
Don’t discount the power of joy in doing any psychic work. There’s no rule saying it has to be serious and solemn. In fact, that may be counterproductive, like swimming upstream.
Before I read, I crank up my iPod and spend a few minutes doing my own Soul Train line to the music of Earth Wind and Fire. It makes me happy. And it makes me a better reader.
What brings you ear-to-ear joy? Indulge in it right now.
So I was just at this weekend workshop for advanced mediumship training – always good to tune things up, learn some new skills, stretch a little. During a break, I was chatting with one of the other students about what we did, etc. I made a comment that I believe everyone has psychic ability. She jumped in “But not everyone’s a medium.”
On that, I have to disagree. Yes, there are some folks who are totally awesome at connecting with spirits on the Other Side. To them, the sensing of energy, images, feelings comes easily. They connect the dots, seemingly effortlessly.
Other mediums may need to work a little harder at making the link with a spirit person. But they make it.
I’ve been in enough classes over the years to know that everyone can discover and develop their own ability. I’ve seen someone go from straight beginner to being able to give a mediumistic message by the end of a course. It may not flow as smoothly as those with their channel more finely tuned, but its there. The rest comes from practice and building one’s confidence. That’s really it.
I believe that the ability to discern other energetic levels is inborn in each of us. It’s a tool we’ve been given to more fully realize our life’s goals. Over the centuries, humans have evolved to be more aware of this ability and less fearful of it, generally speaking. I’m thinking that a hundred years from now, connecting with spirit energy or psychic impressions will be just another thing we do when we need information. Like a spiritual Google.
Our inborn ability can be drowned out by the struggles of daily life. It’s a subtle organ, easily overwhelmed by grocery lists, car pools, deadlines, whatever. Opening and developing your own gift takes time, practice and commitment; simply put, those are the only things that separate you from a professional medium or psychic.
When people learn I’m a psychic-medium, they’re all like, “Ooooh….cool. I wish I could do what you do.” I’m here to tell you that you can. I would love it if we could get away from regarding mediums and psychics like they’re magical creatures from another planet; the same ability to pick up other energies is part of your DNA, too.
And personally, I think the world would be a much more peaceful place if we all tapped into it. So start tapping, bitches.
One of the biggest reasons that I wrote my book, OK, So You’re Dead: A Sassy Guide to the Afterlife was to provide comfort. Over the years, I’ve accumulated enough experiences and insights to provide some understanding of this major event in our lives. Death is a total game changer, and the manner in which we exit this life shapes the way in which those left behind go on. For example, with death after a long illness, there’s sadness, but a sense of relief. When someone dies suddenly in a car accident, the process of grieving is entirely different.
I’ve had several clients who’ve lost someone through suicide. Honestly, this is one of the toughest things ever. For the person who fell so far into despair, this seemed their only way to find peace. For the people left behind, they’re left to navigate al kinds of emotions, from anger to guilt and more.
There’s another aspect to grieving a suicide: wondering what their fate is on the Other Side. Many religions feel that suicide victims will be eternally punished – personally, I think that’s a pretty cruel idea. Didn’t they deal with enough already?
One school of metaphysical thought states that suicides boomerang right back into life without a break. To my mind, either option adds to the burden of worry shouldered by friends and family.
My take is a little different. I feel that, once they cross over, suicide victims are given some time to heal. Not only are they recovering from whatever drove them to take their own life, they’re also working through their regret at doing it. There are some survivors who recall having a big “Oh, shit, what am I doing?” flash as soon as they jumped or unsuccessfully attempted whatever. They realize its not the answer they hoped for. For those who succeed, they experience much the same thing.
I’ve had confirmation from spirit that suicides get a chance to heal and assess where it went off the rails. They’re put into a state where they can look back at their life and see it from a less emotional place. Then they’re told that whatever they didn’t take care of in that life will be presented to them again in the next. It may come in a different form, but the lessons must be faced. That’s just the way it works for all of us.
Two key things that never fail to come through when I’m connecting with the spirit of a suicide are 1)they’re unbelievably sorry for putting that weight on their loved ones and 2) they’re OK now. Seriously, I always, always hear this. If you’ve been touched by this tragedy, please take those messages for yourself as well, and find your peace.
I wrote about a technique to help your healing along here.