At a certain point in our life, we may worry that we’ve missed the boat on why we’re here. I’ve had a ton of clients lately wondering what their “life purpose” is. That nagging sense of something unfulfilled, unmet – that’s the Universe nudging you to take another look at things.
Now before you start hypeventilating over what a big job that seems to be, take a second. Over the years, I’ve sussed out a few things about the whole “life purpose” thingy. Read on and relax….
1) The term “life purpose” is pretty overwhelming. Don’t know about you, but it used to make me think of folks like Mozart or Madame Curie or Madonna – they all did something big and huge and left a permanent mark on humanity’s radar. “Life Purpose” implies something major. But that’s more the exception than the rule.
I love the story of St. Therese of Liseux, AKA “The Little Flower.” Her thing was all about honoring God in little ways. Small kindnesses done to a single fellow human versus the big show in the ginormous cathedral. She famously said, “I only love simplicity. I have a horror of pretence.” Word, sister.
I think this is how, for many of us, our Life Purpose shows up. What seems to come naturally, easily are all hints of what you’re here to contribute.
One of my friends at the diner makes it a habit to tell me a corny joke every time I see him. I inevitably laugh and it sets my day off to a great start. This is no big thing – just a laugh shared from a friend. But to make others feel good, well, this is part of his Life Purpose.
So take your definition of “Life Purpose” down a notch. Or five. Not everyone will be Mozart – but each of us can contribute in small ways for the betterment of us all. And in the big picture, that’s more important.
2) Believe it or not, your life purpose is frequently uncovered by the suckiest things in your life. I just read a gentleman who recently endured both cancer and a heart attack. I saw very clearly that his experience would be useful for other folks dealing with illness. I also saw that he could use his talent for art to create little “healing cards” to distribute at hospitals, etc. That would be one way to make his “theme” work on a practical level.
When you look at the challenges and struggles of your life, what common thread runs through them all? This is very likely a key to what it is you came here to do.
3) Your Life Purpose doesn’t have to be the one and only thing you do. There’s this idea that, once you discover it, you quit your job, leave your home and family, and head off into the world to do it. For some people, that may be the case.
But for most of us, we learn to fold our purpose into our overall life.
Flip your thinking and see “purpose” more as a thread that runs through your life. Because that can be enough – giving you a compass by which to direct the rest of your actions.
Of course, if you discover that healing or helping others is what makes your heart sing, your job as a forensic accountant may not cut it. You may find yourself making changes in order to spend more time doing what makes you happy. But that’s not an absolute; don’t let this myth overwhelm you. Finding small ways to address your purpose is likely to make the rest of your daily life much richer and satisfying, and stop those nagging 3 a.m. moments.
Remember St. Therese. And if I can help you uncover your own Life Purpose by using the Tarot, past life readings and help from your guides and angels, get in touch.
Her email was all in caps: HELP! I’M TRYING TO CHANGE, BUT DON’T SEE ANYTHING HAPPENING!!!! (Yeah, that made my head hurt, too.)
This client is not alone. Lately, I’ve had a run on folks coming by who are trying their damndest to make a shift – but the results don’t seem to be following. It’s super-frustrating.
Most of us think “change” is like a vending machine: we put our intention in, so we should get an instant payoff. Wouldn’t that be great? But the reality is, we feel like our intention is a stuck bag of potato chips. Hate when that happens.
What I frequently see is that the payoff is closer than we realize. We just have to keep on truckin’. That’s what the Universe asks us to do: keep walking. Have some faith. Because with each step we take, the Powers That Be take one towards us.
I’ve seen this happen time and again: we think that we have to do it all, but the truth is, we have partners. And when we show the tiniest bit of willingness to move ahead on our path, we get an assist. Our spirit guides, the angels, loved ones on the Other Side….these are just a few of the entities available to us to help us fulfill our mission here [the rule is, though, you have to ask them for help. Even if you’re not sure what kind of “help” you need, just send out a generic 911 call. Then watch for signs that you’ve been heard.]
I also think our idea of “results” needs to shift. Our society encourages the notion of “overnight success,” “instant this” and “instant that.” But successful change is a process. It’s not one moment, but a bunch of them. If Jeannie could blink and make it happen all at once, that would be cheating (remember how many problems her “help” caused for Major Nelson? Am I dating myself?)
The Moon card in the Tarot is all about this. You can’t see a foot in front of you in the dark. It’s all kinds of scary (hence, the yapping dogs). But in order to get out of that spooky forest you need to keep pushing through. If you just sit down and curl up in a ball, that’s how you’ll stay.
Be brave. Even when you can’t see the results yet, keep working it. Keep the finishing line in mind. All of a sudden, you’ll come around the corner – and there it will be.
If I can help you push past some obstacles and stay on the path, get in touch. In the meantime, sing us out, Bono.
Have you heard about this thing where you host the Archangels? It’s been going around, sort of like a chain letter. Some say you need to pass it on to three people when you’re done; personally, I don’t think you need to. I think they’re happy to help you out, all on your own.
I hosted them once – and it was a pretty interesting experience. If you’d like to give it a go, here’s the breakdown on how to do it.
You’re going to be hosting the Archangels Michael, Gabriel, Uriel, Raphael and Metatron. They’ll be staying with you for five days.
Start by preparing your space. Clean and tidy the house. Then make a little altar (I used the mantle over my fireplace) and place the following items on it:
-A white flower.
-A candle that will stay lit the whole time. I used one of the battery-powered kind, rather than stressing over safety issues.
-An envelope with a letter containing three wishes: one for Earth, one for your family and one for you. Keep it simple.
-An apple, which will sit atop the envelope for the five days.
On the night of your choosing, the angels will arrive at your home at 10:30 pm.. At 10:30, open your front door and read the following out loud:
“Hello, and welcome to our home. I’m grateful you are purifying and bringing peace to this place and to those beings who live in it. I’m grateful to you for bringing harmony, joy and serenity to all of us. I’m very grateful to you for granting me my wishes. Welcome.“
So now, you’ve got five archangels hanging with you. Take advantage of their presence by asking them questions – then stay open to whatever “answers” you get. For some reason, this works best if you do this around 10:30 at night. If you’re not up that late (like me), no worries –spend some time sitting quietly and allow the information to flow whenever’s convenient.
You may also find yourself being woken up between 3 and 5 in the morning with sudden insights or messages. Don’t they know that some of us have to work the next day????
Anyway, the angels can travel (obviously), so invite them to come with you wherever you go. They don’t take up any room in the car.
During the five days, stay aware for any changes in energy, any coincidences, dreams or other “hmmm” moments. After their five day visit, open your front door again, thank them for their help and wish them a safe trip. [If you do decide to send them along to three people, know that the angels rest for five days in between destinations. Give the angels the names of their next three people as you bid them farewell.]
Now, carefully burn the envelope. This releases the energy of the three wishes inside. Eat the apple, which has absorbed powerful positive energy during the visit. Place the flower outside so that it recycles back into Mother Earth.
Ever hosted the angels before? Let me know how it worked for you!
Last night, I was still in a food coma from Thanksgiving and all its leftovers, so I found myself on the couch watching a marathon of one of those ghost/haunting shows. Things flying through the air, funky smells, noises, apparitions, lots of screaming people. Made me happy for my quiet little un-haunted house.
But it got me to thinking about ghosts. As a psychic-medium, I deal with spirits. But I have yet to encounter one of those spooky, home-wrecking ghosts (and if I did, I’d probably need a change of underwear. I’m not ashamed to admit it.) Anyway, I have some thoughts on the subject.
First off, ghosts are spirits who have yet to go to the Light. They hang around for lots of reasons. I think the biggest one is a fear of going to the Light; they’re afraid of having to face up to any bad behavior, real or exaggerated. So they hang out between the worlds. I mean, we’re given free will in this life, and to some extent, that includes our choices after we die.
Many ghosts will just sort of “pace” between the worlds. They stay in an area that seems comforting and familiar, even as it changes around them. In their eyes, their home is the same as it was back in the day, even if now, there’s a freeway runnin’ through the yard (apologies to Tom Petty).
Some ghosts may get noisy, and I think its their way of letting people know they’re still around. I mean, considering we live in an age where we update our social media every 5 minutes, can’t blame a lost soul for ratttling some plates to make their presence known.
Sometimes a ghost is actually just an energetic imprint. Something intense happened and punched its mark into the atmosphere – like the appearance of Civil War soldiers on the battlefield. I hate to think those poor guys are still having to relive their trauma; I think that what gets “seen” on those ghost walks is almost like a movie playing out long after the actors have left the set.
For spirits who are indeed stuck here – for whatever reason – there’s something called “Soul Rescue.” This is a specialized form of mediumship, where the medium works with certain spirit guides to help convince the hangers-on to move on to the Light.
But I mean, when you think of how many people die in a year – and how comparitively few ghosts there are in the world, hauntings are pretty rare.
The thing they all have in common though, is to scare the bejeepers out of most anyone who encounters them.
Fear is a very powerful energy; for some disembodied spirits, it can literally feed them. If you can dial back the fear, you can also dial down the influence – or frequency in appearance – of a ghost. Whether they’re benign like Casper or scary like Freddie makes no difference; that initial “Holy crap!” reaction is like a shot of 5-Hour Energy to spirits.
When it comes to dealing with ghosts, anything that makes you feel more powerful and less fearful – prayer, holy medallions, lucky talismans, tequila – will help. Archangel Michael is a great ally to call on when you’re feeling anxious (ghosts or not). The Catholic Chuch believes he did battle with Lucifer, so he can take on your jittery nerves or garden-variety spook without breaking a sweat.
One of my bedtime rituals is to ask Michael to stand guard around my home as I sleep. It makes for sweet dreams.
Just for fun, other cultures have some interesting other “ghostbusting” traditions:
-Put salt across the threshold of your door. This is good for keeping any janky energies in general from entering (like your pain-in-the-ass neighbor). My friend Joanne says that, in Greece, they put sugar under the doormat for similar reasons.
-In the Far East, priests purified and protected their temples with cinnamon sticks. Place a bundle by your door or over the windows.
-Wind chimes began as a way to scare off negative energies. And they sound awesome!
-Wear anything made of silver or obsidian as protection.
-Garlic over an entry way keeps anything troublesome away.
I love Facebook, mainly for the way it helps us reconnect with people from our past – like my college roommate. She posted something today that made me recall how frikkin’ smart she always was – even if most of the time, we couldn’t see it through all the pot smoke and Southern Comfort haze polluting the dorm.
Here’s what she had to say about the upcoming holiday shopping frenzy:
“Just had a radical thought. Apologies to all the retailers out there, but who among us needs more stuff? Hmmmm? What if this year, instead of giving ANY gifts, we funded people’s dreams? What if we asked the people on our gift list, “What do you dream about doing/becoming?” And then, what if we took whatever we were going to spend on whatever THING they probably don’t need (even if they think they want it) and spent that on making something less tangible, but likely more valuable, come true? Wouldn’t that be amazing? “
Yes. Yes, it would. But it put me in mind of something that comes up with many of my clients: they don’t know what their dream is anymore. Or they’re afraid to express it. The litany I hear is a mashup of, “It’s too late/I have too many responsibilities/it’s stupid…” But the thing is, it’s your DUTY to recapture some part of that dream and make it happen to whatever extent you can.
Choosing to get on the wild ride that is human life is a big deal. The souls that agree to step back into human form are opting for a major opportunity to not only grow themselves, but to help other souls grow by their influence. It’s like throwing a pebble into a pond: the ripples move outward.
The dream(s) you came into this life with are part of your homework as a soul. If you can’t quite recall them, think back to the things you liked to do as a child. I was insane for ballet, and bugged my parents for lessons. Hips and boobs and being 5’9” kinda killed the goal of being a professional, but my love for the art form has continued. I’ve shared my knowledge and love of various ballets and dancers with younger enthusiasts, and like to think I’m sort of paying it forward.
So while becoming a pro singer, football star or veterinarian may be out of the cards, there are always ways to dabble. Drill down to the core of what you love: if you can’t go to vet school, you could do animal rescue work. If you never made it to the major leagues, you can coach Little League. Ask your spirit guides to give you some direction. They live for this stuff.
The dreams you have are the carry-on bags from your journey from the Other Side. They hold the seeds to your happiness and spiritual evolution. And the people who are also touched by those dreams grow in ways you can’t even imagine.
So this season, give thanks for the impossible notions you came into this life with. Take a moment to dust them off, look at them — then dare to make them happen.
“If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.” — awesome quote I just heard on a TV commercial
I was saddened to see that Sylvia Browne passed away. Although I got the feeling that she had been sick for awhile – she didn’t look good in some recent pictures. So I’m glad she’s at peace and romping on the Other Side. That must be some party.
Anyway, as I was scanning the news stories about her, I was pretty p’o’d to see a snarky link to a YouTube clip entitled, “Sylvia Browne, World’s Worst Psychic.”
Like many people, I first came upon Sylvia when she was on The Montel Williams Show. She gave messages to audience members and answered questions. On one of her televised appearances, she announced that Amanda Berry was dead. Amanda was one of the women kidnapped and held hostage for years by that monster in Ohio. Fortunately, she was found alive recently. And Sylvia was pilloried for putting Berry’s mother through that agony.
She later posted a message stating how happy she was that Amanda was alive and regarding her TV appearance, that “Only God is 100% right.”
I’m sure that wasn’t the first time she was wrong about something, but this was certainly the most public example. And it gave skeptics all the ammo they needed to discredit any of the good work she’d done through her career.
This is a point that needs to be discussed. No psychic or medium, no matter how gifted they are, is always right. But a lot of people expect us to be. I had one potential client ask me if I was “100 percent accurate…or close.” I laughed. There’s something about psychics that inspires magical thinking – like we’re elves or hobbits.
John Edwards was also touched with a little scandal when he had his regular TV show Apparently, it was discovered that producers had the audience miked ahead of taping, eavesdropping on conversations and then ‘feeding’ some of that info to John.
I don’t think that John needed feeding, but clearly, the producers were trying to impress the audience by having him appear to be 100 percent right, all the time. Which is bullshit. And by trying to make the impossible seem real, it tainted John’s very real gifts.
For some, there seems to be an “all or nothing” mentality when it comes to psychics. You’re either totally amazing or you suck. But being sensitive to the spirit world is just that – being sensitive. And real life has its impact. We psychics know what affects us, positively and negatively, and live each day accordingly. But sometimes you wake up from a bad night’s sleep and step in cat vomit. Stuff happens.
Human foibles and challenges allow the psychic to better empathize with their client. Our spirit guides “use” our experiences to translate higher knowledge into something useable and understandable. It’s the equivalent of “Been there, done that, got the spiritual t-shirt.” Expecting perfection from any intuitive is unrealistic.
As psychic-mediums, we do our best to be of service. But in the end, its up to you to consider the information you’re getting, apply it or discard it. I remind my clients to take what resonates with them, and leave the rest.
And that goes for Sylvia Browne. In her life, she provided more good, healing, hopeful information than she did goofs. And that’s what she should be remembered for. RIP, girlfriend.
I was recently asked, “How can I better connect with my guides and channel my higher self?” Or something like that.
Quick refresher course: each of us has a spirit guide, there to help us stay on track with the life plan the two of you designed before we incarnated. You both set certain goals together to help you with your spiritual growth. Unfortunately, the minute we’re born, that plan gets fuzzy in our human brain. It’s like trying to recall a dream.
But your guide stays clear, and if you learn to connect with him/her, they can help you get back on track. I shared a meditation to meet your guide here.
Working with your guide involves regular meditation. That’s the space between the worlds where the two of you can meet. Meditation helps you become aware of your guide’s unique presence. The energy changes; you may “feel” them, or hear their voice.
By regularly connecting with your guide, you make it easier to sense them in everyday life. It’s like when you call up a trusted friend to talk over a problem; you need to know their number first.
So make it a point to meditate on a regular basis, and to invite your guide to connect with you, just to hang out together.
This is also just common courtesy; don’t you hate those friends that only talk to you when they need something? Don’t be that person.
Your guide’s job is not to make troubles magically disappear; but they will give you the tools and inspiration to navigate them more effectively. They are a great resource when you’re struggling with a decision or problem.
Your guide’s help comes in the form of new ideas, helpful people, little intuitive “nudges,” information that you run across online, a dream. Your job is to pay attention and act on this wisdom. The more you do this, the easier it becomes to access this wonderful source of help. And the smoother your journey becomes.
The process of regularly connecting to your guide also strengthens your awareness of what lies beyond our everyday headaches. It provides an uber-reality check that puts it all in perspective and reminds us that we are all just souls having a human experience.
“Is my dead grandmother/father/beagle my guardian angel?” I get this question a lot during a session. And the answer is…
Basically, we have three kinds of spirit entities around us: spirit guides, angels and those who’ve crossed over. At different times, and in different ways, they are there for us. Let me break it down:
A spirit guide is someone who has been in human form at least once. They are assigned to us before we incarnate, sort of as a spiritual bodyguard. We sit with them, drawing on a big whiteboard all the things we hope to accomplish or experience in the upcoming life. Their role is to remain on the other side of the veil, helping us to stick to our plan.
Of course, once we’re physically born, we have a hard time remembering The Plan. We get distracted and diverted, but our guide is always there. We just need to ask them to help set us back on the right road. They will put a helpful person in our way, make us notice a particular job listing or an article about a new medical treatment. They want us to succeed; I think of them kind of as the Ultimate Life Coach.
Throughout our time on Earth, we have different guides who help us with many specific things – our health, our parenting skills, our job search. Those guides come and go, but there’s always one main guide who sticks with us from our slap-on-the-butt-and-bawling entry point to our return over the veil. Here’s a way to meet yours.
While spirit guides have had the human experience, a guardian angel hasn’t. Angels are a different breed altogether and possess some truly bad ass energies and powers.
In the Christian tradition, there are nine categories of angels. Seraphim are those closest to God, followed by Cherubim, Thrones, Dominions, Virtues, Powers, Principalities, Archangels and finally, Angels.
It’s a little like the military, with each category having specific purposes and roles. For the sake of this discussion, we’ll stick to garden variety angels.
Your basic Angel is the closest to humankind. Their role is to protect, guide and inspire us. The powers of a guardian angel are truly wondrous; they’re the ones you hear of showing up at crash scenes or natural disasters. So unless your grandma has super-powers, she’s not technically your guardian angel.
Grandma CAN, however, assist you, sort of like a spirit guide, by sending you information, people or other forms of assistance. Unlike a spirit guide, she’s not waiting around, filing her nails and waiting for your call; our loved ones are busy living their spirit life; they hear you when you need them, but aren’t investing all their time in what’s happening over here. I mean, when Nana was alive and moved to Florida, she spent her days playing canasta and working in her yard; she looked forward to your weekly call, but didn’t build her life around it, right? Well, hopefully not. Same with life on the Other Side.
Outside of serious danger, where a guardian angel will step in to help in whatever way they can, the one thing all invisible helpers generally require is…a request. As humans, we’ve been granted free will. If we need help, we need to ask for it. They can’t just butt in, uninvited.
And in that regard, that’s one thing that’s different from most living people we know, amIright?
I’d love to hear your experiences with angels, guides or someone on the Other Side. Share in the Comments. And head over to my website, whenevs.
The other night I dreamt I was about to go on stage in front of thousands of people, to play bass with the Stones. Only I don’t know how to play. And unlike flying or breathing underwater, I didn’t know how to do it in the dream, either. Here I was gonna be standing next to Charlie Watts, a frikkin’ awesome drummer and one of my heroes. And I’m clueless. Clue. Less. It still gives me the willies when I recall it.
I know where that particular dream came from: reading an article about the band in Rolling Stone earlier. But there are other dreams that offer up more than just a psychedelic rehash of the day.
Like those wonderful ones where you encounter someone you’ve lost and they look wonderful. They practically shine. And you know – you just know –that they’ve visited you from the Other Side. Or the one where you get a “preview” of something that’s about to happen. This is where dreams serve a really useful purpose, to “download” info from other dimensions. Our conscious brain is in “sleep” mode – literally – so we can access different channels.
You may not think you dream, but you do. It’s a vital physical function; in fact, I think I read somewhere that, when test subjects were prevented from dreaming (as in, being woken up repeatedly), they got really sick. Umm, for the record? I would cut a bitch if someone did that to me. Anyway, the point is you do indeed dream — you just aren’t so hot on remembering them.
Dreaming is where we work stuff out on the physical plane, but more importantly, its where we access higher dimensions. Training yourself to remember what you learn in Dreamland is not as hard as you might think.
First, keep a notebook and pen by your bed. Second, set your intention to start remembering your dreams As you drift off, tell yourself that you WILL recall what you’ve experienced in the dream state. If you wake up in the middle of the night from a dream, jot down what you remember. Do NOT tell yourself that you’ll do it in the morning. Trust me, you probably won’t. So roll over, turn on the light for 10 seconds and scrawl it down. Just like Jerry Seinfeld with his awesome idea for a joke…..which he then couldn’t read.
When you first wake up from a dream, try not to move. This will keep you in that state between the worlds where it will be easier to consciously recall what you’ve experienced. Once you’ve captured a theme, image, whatever jot it in your notebook.
If something really stands out, ask yourself what it means – then go with the first impression or thought that you get. Don’t overthink it. Stay in that muted place where things flow without a lot of intellect behind them. Dreams reach us on a very subtle level; use more of your gut to interpret them, and less your brain.
There are some great dream interpretation books ( I like Mary Summer Rain’s Guide to Dream Symbols) and sites out there, but don’t discount what your own bad self tells you.
Once you’ve built up your recall muscle, you can direct your dreams towards something specific. For example, you can invite a deceased loved one to visit you in the dream state. Don’t force this; they have things going on on the Other Side. They don’t sit around, flipping through Us magazine, waiting for your call. Make the invitation, then let it go. Trying too hard blocks the energy.
You can also ask your Spirit Guides to provide an answer to a question by way of your dreams. Even if you don’t know who your guide(s) is, simply throw up a request for information. You can assign them a name if you want, or just say, “Yo, Guides – I need some help here with (fill in the blank).” They don’t stand on formality. Then see what they send you. And don’t be surprised if the answer/info you get is different than what you expect. Receive it with grace and say “thank you.”
One note – don’t get frustrated if you don’t get anywhere in remembering your dreams. Keep setting the intention, and eventually you will.
There’s an old folk trick to help the dream recall process along. Place a glass of water by your bed. When you first wake up, drink it down to help remember. Or to get the stank morning breath out of your mouth. In the meantime, enjoy a blast from my 80s past. And the exquisite Annie Lennox. In my dreams, I have her voice. In real life, my singing voice is closer to Linda McCartney’s.
I was having breakfast at my local diner yesterday. It’s the kind of place where everyone pretty much knows everyone — and the hostess, “L,” knows I’m an intuitive. So as I worked on a short stack, she sat with me and asked why she’s all of a sudden started seeing the spirits of her dead loved ones.
They’ve been in her kitchen, by her bed at 3 in the morning, even in her car. She’s pretty freaked out, seeing Gramps who died 30 years ago. Yeah, it sounds all cool til its YOUR dead aunt riding shotgun on your way to pick up the dry cleaning. So why is this happening?
Well, L has had a rough couple of years, culminating in some serious surgery a few months back. I suspected her new ability was connected to this time period and she realized that it was. My take on it is that her beloved relatives are letting her know–in no uncertain terms — that they’re supporting her during this phase. Her troubles have made her focus on what’s key in her life, and the rest of the noise has dropped away. I like to think she’s been “cracked open” a little bit, and is now able to physically see who’s always been around her.
Some of you may know from my recent Facebook posts that I was out in Minnesota recently, after my sister entered the hospital. Something similar happened ; the urgency of her illness made me hyper-focused. I wasn’t cluttering my pointed little head with thoughts of cleaning litter boxes or my next deadline. And as I sat in that hospital room, I heard our mother’s voice more than once. Like she was right there (and still telling me to comb my hair off my face).
I think it has something to do with our energy frequency. During a tough moment, our focus is sharpened on the Now. Think about the aftermath of any tragedy, where people describe having seen angels around them, or perhaps deceased loved ones. They’re always there, but because we’re “clear,” we can physically see them, even as they vibrate at higher speeds. These are glimpses into the other dimensions all around us. Beautiful.
Meditation can help to make a space where we can more easily experience these higher-vibration experiences. Know that those we miss are always there, riding shotgun as we go to pick up the drycleaning. And surrounding us with their love.