Kinda excited this morning. I got up, fed the kitties, grabbed some coffee and logged on to see that my new book was uploaded to Amazon overnight!
This was one of those “aha” moments; over my time as a reader, I’ve gotten the same 25-30 questions hundreds of times. Each. So I decided to share my take on the whole afterlife thang in one place.
Among the questions I tackle:
-What happens at the exact moment of death? What does it feel like?
-“Where” is the Other Side?
-Will I have to deal with people I couldn’t stand in life?
-What happens in a seance?
-Are spirits watching me….in a creepy way?
-How does a medium work? (Bonus info: the one thing a medium might say that should make you run….)
-Are pets with us, or in a different locale?
-What happens to suicides?
That’s just a taste. Frankly, as I started to write, the book took on a whole life of its own. No pun intended.
At any rate, I think this is just the ticket for anyone who’s grieving…who has grieved…who will grieve. Anyone who’s curious or maybe a wee bit freaked out over the thought of shuffling off this mortal coil one day. I’ve found that, during an actual reading, the info has brought a lot of comfort to my clients. I hope the vibe continues.
In the last few weeks, several friends and clients have been hit hard. The sudden loss of a sister who was far too young. Major surgery which a father did not survive. Job loss and financial panic. January has well and truly sucked, let’s just say it.
I ran into one of these people at the store the other day, and the pain emanating from her was palpable. She admitted she was just staggering through her days, frustrated at not being able to function – but not ready to function, either. She was broken.
When you’ve gone through something painful, there’s a huge shock to your body, mind and spirit. Part of you is thinking there are things you need to do, that you need to get back up and back into the game. But there’s another part that just can’t think straight and wants nothing more than to stay in bed with a stack of tabloids and a bag of M&Ms.
The thing is, be gentle with yourself. Give yourself that time. And when you don’t know what to do or where to start, keep it small. Tiny, even.
One client was frustrated that she was having no luck in her job search. She was overwhelmed and fearful that she would never find work. Things looked bleak and she was going further down that rabbit hole of negativity. She couldn’t stop crying.
I told her to find just three things every day that made her feel happy, secure and blessed. Those things could be as small as the fact that she was breathing, or that she had a warm bed to sleep in or that the sun was shining. By focusing on even tiny things, she would begin to get her power back. And those miniscule things eventually gain traction, and will help pull her out of the pit.
When you’re feeling punched in the gut, stick to the physical basics. Eat. Sleep. Brush your teeth. Taking care of your body grounds all that crazy energy that seems to be swirling around you. It gives you a foundation to build back on. So even if you do nothing else that day, having a piece of fruit, a short walk, a nap or a little massage is doing something valuable.
Archangel Raphael is the big daddy of healing, so ask him to work on you as you sleep. He can buff out any rough spots in your energetic body, fill in any of the holes and restore some peace of mind, as well as physical balance. I’m also all for a short course of therapy and/or anti-depressants, if necessary.
We’ve all been broken at some point, and will be again. Know that these are tests being brought to you. And know that they wouldn’t be brought to you if the Powers That Be didn’t know that you could pass them. Be gentle. Keep it small. Take your time. But don’t give up.
You’re not the only one who digs having a new phone or iPad. Spirits looovvvve anything electronic. I’m not sure why this is, except that gadgets of the electric kind make it easier for spirit to let us know they’re around.
Throughout the ages, spirit has used human “stuff” to give us a sense of their presence; there’s a house in Greenwich Village that Thomas Jefferson once lived in. The residents say his ghost loves to flush the toilets. But there’s something about electrical current that meshes even more nicely with the vibration of the spirit plane.
Professional ghosthunters have all kinds of high-tech doohickeys to measure the presence of spirit, but I had a chance to interact with the Other Side simply using my iPhone.
It’s called “EVP” – “electronic voice phenomenon.” Ghosthunters have been known to leave recording devices running in an area that’s purported to be haunted. Upon playback, they’ll hear voices, noises and other things that weren’t witnessed at the time. The digital sensitivity of the machine picks up on other dimensions.
I was with a friend recently who suspected that her late father was hanging around her house. We started our session by first invoking the white light of protection in the space. This is critical whenever you work with the spirit dimension, because, let’s face it: we don’t know everything and you never know who might decide to use the open channel. So invoking the white light is just good practice, like putting on your seat belt.
We lit a candle (which helps spirit focus in on our presence) and invited her father to join us in our sacred space. Then I turned on my phone’s Voice Memo function.
I asked several questions, leaving a space for him to “answer.”
After a few minutes, we closed the sacred space, blew out the candle – then played back the recording.
Amazingly, we heard “answers” to our questions. They came in short one or two word bursts (yeah, don’t expect a full-on conversation or the Gettysburg Address; its not so easy for spirit to mesh their energy with ours to the degree that we can talk like we do with our friends). Plus, we heard a knocking sound that we hadn’t heard during the session.
I had a similar experience when I was studying at the Arthur Findlay College in the UK. We set up a tape recorder in one of the rooms most used for spirit work, asked questions — then played back the answers, which featured two distinctly different male voices and one female voice. Wowza.
Needless to say, EVP can be pretty cool. And its nice to know that your phone can be used to “make a call” as it were to loved ones on the Other Side.
Let me know your own results with EVP by leaving it in the Comments. And if you have questions, hit me up at the website.
I love deer. My neighbors may complain that they eat everything in the yard, but I don’t care. No matter how often I see them nibbling in the dusk light, I hold my breath with wonder. The other night, I was blessed to have them respond to my invitation to eat the corn I placed gently on the ground. It was magical.
I’m not alone in my love of deer: every culture has its tradition related to this beautiful animal. In China, deer are associated with abundance. The Celts believed that fairies trailed behind them, as they cut a path through the forest. Native Americans prayed to deer to ensure a good hunt.
Animals cross our path for a reason. When you see a deer (even in a picture), it’s a reminder to tune into your gentler side. Nudge rather than push. It also encourages you to step away from the noise and busyness of civilization, and go deeper into the “forest” of your own intuition. Expand your awareness of what’s going on around you. Do more listening than talking, and you’ll find a new path through whatever blocks you.
Honor your deer sighting with a solemn nod in their direction, and a “thank you.” And maybe some corn!
I love Facebook, mainly for the way it helps us reconnect with people from our past – like my college roommate. She posted something today that made me recall how frikkin’ smart she always was – even if most of the time, we couldn’t see it through all the pot smoke and Southern Comfort haze polluting the dorm.
Here’s what she had to say about the upcoming holiday shopping frenzy:
“Just had a radical thought. Apologies to all the retailers out there, but who among us needs more stuff? Hmmmm? What if this year, instead of giving ANY gifts, we funded people’s dreams? What if we asked the people on our gift list, “What do you dream about doing/becoming?” And then, what if we took whatever we were going to spend on whatever THING they probably don’t need (even if they think they want it) and spent that on making something less tangible, but likely more valuable, come true? Wouldn’t that be amazing? “
Yes. Yes, it would. But it put me in mind of something that comes up with many of my clients: they don’t know what their dream is anymore. Or they’re afraid to express it. The litany I hear is a mashup of, “It’s too late/I have too many responsibilities/it’s stupid…” But the thing is, it’s your DUTY to recapture some part of that dream and make it happen to whatever extent you can.
Choosing to get on the wild ride that is human life is a big deal. The souls that agree to step back into human form are opting for a major opportunity to not only grow themselves, but to help other souls grow by their influence. It’s like throwing a pebble into a pond: the ripples move outward.
The dream(s) you came into this life with are part of your homework as a soul. If you can’t quite recall them, think back to the things you liked to do as a child. I was insane for ballet, and bugged my parents for lessons. Hips and boobs and being 5’9” kinda killed the goal of being a professional, but my love for the art form has continued. I’ve shared my knowledge and love of various ballets and dancers with younger enthusiasts, and like to think I’m sort of paying it forward.
So while becoming a pro singer, football star or veterinarian may be out of the cards, there are always ways to dabble. Drill down to the core of what you love: if you can’t go to vet school, you could do animal rescue work. If you never made it to the major leagues, you can coach Little League. Ask your spirit guides to give you some direction. They live for this stuff.
The dreams you have are the carry-on bags from your journey from the Other Side. They hold the seeds to your happiness and spiritual evolution. And the people who are also touched by those dreams grow in ways you can’t even imagine.
So this season, give thanks for the impossible notions you came into this life with. Take a moment to dust them off, look at them — then dare to make them happen.
“If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.” — awesome quote I just heard on a TV commercial
I was saddened to see that Sylvia Browne passed away. Although I got the feeling that she had been sick for awhile – she didn’t look good in some recent pictures. So I’m glad she’s at peace and romping on the Other Side. That must be some party.
Anyway, as I was scanning the news stories about her, I was pretty p’o’d to see a snarky link to a YouTube clip entitled, “Sylvia Browne, World’s Worst Psychic.”
Like many people, I first came upon Sylvia when she was on The Montel Williams Show. She gave messages to audience members and answered questions. On one of her televised appearances, she announced that Amanda Berry was dead. Amanda was one of the women kidnapped and held hostage for years by that monster in Ohio. Fortunately, she was found alive recently. And Sylvia was pilloried for putting Berry’s mother through that agony.
She later posted a message stating how happy she was that Amanda was alive and regarding her TV appearance, that “Only God is 100% right.”
I’m sure that wasn’t the first time she was wrong about something, but this was certainly the most public example. And it gave skeptics all the ammo they needed to discredit any of the good work she’d done through her career.
This is a point that needs to be discussed. No psychic or medium, no matter how gifted they are, is always right. But a lot of people expect us to be. I had one potential client ask me if I was “100 percent accurate…or close.” I laughed. There’s something about psychics that inspires magical thinking – like we’re elves or hobbits.
John Edwards was also touched with a little scandal when he had his regular TV show Apparently, it was discovered that producers had the audience miked ahead of taping, eavesdropping on conversations and then ‘feeding’ some of that info to John.
I don’t think that John needed feeding, but clearly, the producers were trying to impress the audience by having him appear to be 100 percent right, all the time. Which is bullshit. And by trying to make the impossible seem real, it tainted John’s very real gifts.
For some, there seems to be an “all or nothing” mentality when it comes to psychics. You’re either totally amazing or you suck. But being sensitive to the spirit world is just that – being sensitive. And real life has its impact. We psychics know what affects us, positively and negatively, and live each day accordingly. But sometimes you wake up from a bad night’s sleep and step in cat vomit. Stuff happens.
Human foibles and challenges allow the psychic to better empathize with their client. Our spirit guides “use” our experiences to translate higher knowledge into something useable and understandable. It’s the equivalent of “Been there, done that, got the spiritual t-shirt.” Expecting perfection from any intuitive is unrealistic.
As psychic-mediums, we do our best to be of service. But in the end, its up to you to consider the information you’re getting, apply it or discard it. I remind my clients to take what resonates with them, and leave the rest.
And that goes for Sylvia Browne. In her life, she provided more good, healing, hopeful information than she did goofs. And that’s what she should be remembered for. RIP, girlfriend.
I was recently asked, “How can I better connect with my guides and channel my higher self?” Or something like that.
Quick refresher course: each of us has a spirit guide, there to help us stay on track with the life plan the two of you designed before we incarnated. You both set certain goals together to help you with your spiritual growth. Unfortunately, the minute we’re born, that plan gets fuzzy in our human brain. It’s like trying to recall a dream.
Working with your guide involves regular meditation. That’s the space between the worlds where the two of you can meet. Meditation helps you become aware of your guide’s unique presence. The energy changes; you may “feel” them, or hear their voice.
By regularly connecting with your guide, you make it easier to sense them in everyday life. It’s like when you call up a trusted friend to talk over a problem; you need to know their number first.
So make it a point to meditate on a regular basis, and to invite your guide to connect with you, just to hang out together.
This is also just common courtesy; don’t you hate those friends that only talk to you when they need something? Don’t be that person.
Your guide’s job is not to make troubles magically disappear; but they will give you the tools and inspiration to navigate them more effectively. They are a great resource when you’re struggling with a decision or problem.
Your guide’s help comes in the form of new ideas, helpful people, little intuitive “nudges,” information that you run across online, a dream. Your job is to pay attention and act on this wisdom. The more you do this, the easier it becomes to access this wonderful source of help. And the smoother your journey becomes.
The process of regularly connecting to your guide also strengthens your awareness of what lies beyond our everyday headaches. It provides an uber-reality check that puts it all in perspective and reminds us that we are all just souls having a human experience.
I live just outside of New York City, so September 11th is always a somber day. Everyone has their memories of where they were or they know someone who lost someone. I have those, too. But it’s something that happened in the aftermath that has most stayed with me.
Shortly after that awful day, I was doing some mediumship training with a guest teacher from the UK. It was before Ground Zero was cordoned off to spectators; several of my fellow students went down there to see if they could assist the spirits of any of those who’d lost their lives. This is because, many times when someone dies so suddenly and tragically, they’re sort of like “What just happened?” and aren’t sure what to do next. So, like so many volunteers, my friends were there to help any confused souls cross over.
But what they reported back to the class was interesting: namely, they felt nothing. There was no presence of spirit. Nothing. One woman described it to the rest of us as, “They were just….gone.” It was a particularly odd sort of emptiness, which none of us had ever experienced when working with the Other Side,
Our teacher, who’d been at this her whole, long life, shared something that was both fascinating and strangely comforting: those souls who were on the planes or in the buildings were released from their bodies ahead of their physical death. They were spared that pain and suffering, pulled into the warmth and peace of the Other Side before the worst happened.
She explained that, in many tragedies, the Wise Ones release the soul ahead of the death of the body. The person finds themself in a beautiful, healing place where any memory of pain or fear is soothed away. It makes me think of a child being woken from a nightmare by the gentle reassurance of a loving parent.
This idea was confirmed to me years later when I did a sitting with a 9/11 widow. Her husband came through and described his passing as painless. He said he saw himself with other souls rising to a Heaven-like dimension, as if they were floating up from underwater. The image he showed me was beautiful, and I hold it in my heart whenever I meet with anyone who’s suffered the kind of loss we did on 9/11.
“Is my dead grandmother/father/beagle my guardian angel?” I get this question a lot during a session. And the answer is…
Basically, we have three kinds of spirit entities around us: spirit guides, angels and those who’ve crossed over. At different times, and in different ways, they are there for us. Let me break it down:
A spirit guide is someone who has been in human form at least once. They are assigned to us before we incarnate, sort of as a spiritual bodyguard. We sit with them, drawing on a big whiteboard all the things we hope to accomplish or experience in the upcoming life. Their role is to remain on the other side of the veil, helping us to stick to our plan.
Of course, once we’re physically born, we have a hard time remembering The Plan. We get distracted and diverted, but our guide is always there. We just need to ask them to help set us back on the right road. They will put a helpful person in our way, make us notice a particular job listing or an article about a new medical treatment. They want us to succeed; I think of them kind of as the Ultimate Life Coach.
Throughout our time on Earth, we have different guides who help us with many specific things – our health, our parenting skills, our job search. Those guides come and go, but there’s always one main guide who sticks with us from our slap-on-the-butt-and-bawling entry point to our return over the veil. Here’s a way to meet yours.
While spirit guides have had the human experience, a guardian angel hasn’t. Angels are a different breed altogether and possess some truly bad ass energies and powers.
In the Christian tradition, there are nine categories of angels. Seraphim are those closest to God, followed by Cherubim, Thrones, Dominions, Virtues, Powers, Principalities, Archangels and finally, Angels.
It’s a little like the military, with each category having specific purposes and roles. For the sake of this discussion, we’ll stick to garden variety angels.
Your basic Angel is the closest to humankind. Their role is to protect, guide and inspire us. The powers of a guardian angel are truly wondrous; they’re the ones you hear of showing up at crash scenes or natural disasters. So unless your grandma has super-powers, she’s not technically your guardian angel.
Grandma CAN, however, assist you, sort of like a spirit guide, by sending you information, people or other forms of assistance. Unlike a spirit guide, she’s not waiting around, filing her nails and waiting for your call; our loved ones are busy living their spirit life; they hear you when you need them, but aren’t investing all their time in what’s happening over here. I mean, when Nana was alive and moved to Florida, she spent her days playing canasta and working in her yard; she looked forward to your weekly call, but didn’t build her life around it, right? Well, hopefully not. Same with life on the Other Side.
Outside of serious danger, where a guardian angel will step in to help in whatever way they can, the one thing all invisible helpers generally require is…a request. As humans, we’ve been granted free will. If we need help, we need to ask for it. They can’t just butt in, uninvited.
And in that regard, that’s one thing that’s different from most living people we know, amIright?
I’d love to hear your experiences with angels, guides or someone on the Other Side. Share in the Comments. And head over to my website, whenevs.
Being a psychic is humbling, exciting, eye-opening, cool and inspiring. It can also kick your ass.
They don’t call us “sensitives” for nothing: psychic or mediumistic work requires a shift in your personal energy that leaves you “open” to both the good vibes and the bad. When I read, I can feel my client’s joy, angst and heartbreak. It’s a fascinating experience, and it’s a huge lesson in empathy – but it can take its toll on the physical body.
Over the years, I’ve learned a few things for taking care of my psychic self and preventing burnout.
1) White Light. Before I read, I make a practice of visualizing an “egg” of protective white light around both my reading space and myself. Because I’m about to open myself up, this keeps any janky energies or entities from getting in.
Here’s what I say before starting a session: “I surround myself with the white light of love and protection. I ask that only positive energies be present as I do this work, and help me to be a clear channel for the information which my client seeks. I ask that they help me receive, discern and relay that information in the kindest and gentlest of ways, for the highest good and the good of all. I accept nothing less.”
I don’t recall where I learned this prayer, and it’s evolved over the years, but it sets up a safe, healthy space to work in.
2) Washing hands. I do this both before and after a session, visualizing any stale energies leaving my body (in the TMI category, I also pee beforehand just in case – so I def need to hand wash!). It’s also a sign of respect and honor for the tools I’m about to handle (cards, crystals, etc.). Washing my hands after a session also brings me back to earth.
3) Food. I try to eat something light about 45 minutes before reading. I need the energy. After reading, I also have a snack. Food helps ground me. In that same vein, many psychics are vegetarian. Good for them, but this girl needs her Big Mac.
4) Where I read. Early in my development, one of my teachers warned that psychics should never read in bars. Besides the noise and the random assholes, you’re dealing with some crazy energy. People go to bars for a reason, and their problems or pain is amplified. I made the mistake of doing a few quickie reads when I was out with some friends one night; they went fine, but the next morning, yours truly was absolutely knackered. And it wasn’t from the chardonnay. I felt like I had holes punched in me, and it took days for me to feel normal again. So now when I go to a bar – white light or not – my shingle reads “Closed.”
5) A Process. Intuitive energy or the energy surrounding a mediumistic session kind of has a life of its own. Learning to control it is a little like learning how to ride a bucking bronco; there’s a rhythm and unpredictabiltity. A routine for opening up and closing down puts a framework around that energy and makes it easier to handle. The bronco may still buck, but at least its in the corral versus hauling ass across the painted desert.
When I begin, I’ve put the white light around myself; when I complete a session, I envision a little curtain being pulled across my crown chakra, as a way to terminate the link.
Then I wash my hands and eat, and I feel like I’ve come back to earth. Doing something grounding – gardening, petting my cat, taking a shower – also works.
Having a process for your psychic work is vital. I’ve seen too many of my students go a little nuts with their blossoming abilities. They walk around with their channel wide open, reading anyone and anything that comes across their path. I think they like the attention. One woman was thrilled to tell me about the two people she’d read while standing in the Express Checkout Line; no mention of how her unwitting subjects felt about it.
Not only is that just crazy intrusive, its not healthy for the reader. When your energy isn’t controlled, its like an ungrounded power line. Sooner or later, you will get burned but good.
So use these tips to stay healthy and focused both in and out of the intuitive realm. And I’d love to hear what you do for yourself to stay sane and centered. Hit me up in the comments.