One of my long-time clients has a problem with patience. That message comes up frequently in her readings – to the point that we both laugh about it. She’s a woman in a hurry and has lots of things she wants to make better in her life.
Her problem is, when they don’t occur on her timetable, she gets frustrated. Raise your hand if you know how she feels. I’ll wait…..
We want things, and as Veruca Salt sang in Willy Wonka, “I want it NOW.” It doesn’t make it any easier that we live in an age of ATMs, drive-thru windows, microwaves and instant downloads. Our ability to hang in for the long haul has atrophied.
But what we have to keep in mind is that the Universe has its own timetable. And I believe there’s a reason for that. By aligning ourselves more with the process than the result, we gain far more than the “thing” itself.
This is not to say that we just sit and wait and do nothing. We continue to put some effort towads our goals. We keep them in mind. But we’re not super-attached to the “when.” It’s a partnership with powers greater than ours.
The 7 of Pentacles in the Tarot shows a farmer looking at the results of his patience. These things have grown in accordance with nature’s clock – not his. In that time, he’s tended them, watered and weeded – but let Nature do its thing.
When something hasn’t manifested in your life just yet, the Universe may be telling you that you’re not quite ready for it. You’re still in the process. And there’s a ton of value in that.
Before she was twerking and sticking her tongue out at every photo op, Miley Cyrus did a song that is applicable to what I’m talking about. When you’re struggling with patience, take a look around at what “the climb” is teaching you. That will make reaching the peak that much richer.
I got a really nice email from someone I just read, happily announcing that she’s pregnant. During our session, the question had come up. I saw some minor issues conceiving, but with a healthy pregnancy by November.
Turns out, that’s when she’s due to give birth. She did have a few fertility problems in the past, but felt they had been resolved (clearly, they were!). In her email, she asked about the timing around this question, and why it was sort of “reversed” during our reading.
That’s a good one. The psychic process is not an exact science. For me, the information that I get sort of flows over and under itself; I’m along for the ride, trying to pick out the mile markers and identifying people and points in time. But its not an atomic clock.
I think most psychics will tell you that they “let go” during a reading; we surrender our conscious, logical mind to something a bit more fluid. It’s the nature of the thing. Intuition is far more organic, and has its own language. By trying to be too precise, it can choke off the flow. At least, that’s how it feels to me.
Being the super-organized, somewhat controlling person that I am in my daily life, the psychic process is challenging. But I’ve found it to be a good counterweight to my own growth. As I read, I avoid trying to be too exact, because once I go there, it’s more “me” talking and less spirit.
If you’re looking for 100%, time-and-date specific, bet-the-farm-on-it information, there’s always Wikipedia. Know that intuitive information is a little squishier. The edges around a message may be blurry, but the core is what you need to consider. Take what resonates from a reading, and leave the rest.
Whenever I teach a Psychic Development class, I know I’ll have at least one student who’ll show up after a few weeks looking a little fried. They have bags under their eyes, they seem kinda spent or frazzled, and they tend to just talkandtalkandtalk. It’s exhausting to be around them, bless their pointed little head.
And I can tell immediately: they’ve been operating their newly-developed psychic abilities without a permit.
I get it: its exciting when you start actively working with your intuition. A whole new world opens up – literally. But without some healthy habits, you run the risk of feeling like you got run over by a monster truck. Or three.
Working psychically changes your physical makeup. There’s an electrical dimension to our bodies; when we dial up our intuitive senses, we’re upping the wattage. And like loose wires, that energy needs to be grounded to prevent burnout or that general spacey feeling.
Regular meditation is a good place to start. It helps develop a sense of control over your breath, and lets you navigate the subtle changes in your energetic body.
Then there’s preparation. Before I read, I first surround both myself and the space with a protective white light. I’m dealing with energy, so I want anything heavy or difficult to be kept at bay.
I do a short meditation (in addition to the one I do daily), then envision a window opening in the back of my head. This is my personal technique that “tells” my conscious mind to shift into a different gear. Once I’m through, I reverse it and “close” the window. It’s like working out: a warm up and cool down are essential to keep from getting injured.
Also, take it a little at a time. If you try to open up your channels too quickly, you’ll feel sort of fried. Gradually build up how long you stay in the psychic flow.
Because that side of our brain generates fine, fast-moving energy, it’s a good idea to counterbalance it with something slower and more grounded. After a session, I always eat something, put my hands on the ground or pet my cats. Anything “earth” related will bring you back into your body and offset that spacey feeling.
The other thing is to be careful where you read. Working in the same spot builds up the positive vibrations, which not only helps your connection, but also protects you. The “reading rooms” at the shop I used to work at had a great, juicy feel to them because of all the positive work that was done there.
I learned very early on to not read in bars or random public places. The energy can be very hard or heavy, and you’ll feel it for days after. A lot of newbies will try and “read” people just wherever – and they pay the price. As tempting as it may be, stick to appropriate times and places to do intuitive work. Put a process in place to better direct your energy, so its not just sparking all over the damn place.
For those who are naturally extra-sensitive, I wrote about a technique to add an extra layer of protection and smooth out that jagged feeling. Wearing dark clothes or carrying dark colored crystals like smoky quartz or obsidian can ground you, as well. Here are some other stones that are helpful for psychic work.
The thing is, providing a framework and a system to your psychic work will make it more effective – and make your daily life as a whole more comfortable.
What do you do to stay healthy and grounded in the spirit realm? Hit me up in the comments.
The Tarot is a rich, deep, complex way to get some rich, deep, complex insights into your life. It’s been around for centuries — and sometimes, it can feel like it takes that long to really know the cards. That puts a lot of people off learning them.
Personally, I think spending some time exploring the Tarot is really worth it. But if the thought of that kinda makes your head explode, there’s a really fast way to use Tarot cards to get an answer to a “Yes/No” question, even if you’ve never used them before. This was one of the very first spreads I learned and I still use it; it gives you an answer faster than it takes to nuke a burrito.
First, make sure the deck is thoroughly shuffled. Your cards take on your energy, so really mix them good.
As you handle the cards, think about your question (remember, this spread is for a “yes/no” issue). Frame it like, “Will I [fill in the blank]?” “Is he/she going to call?” “Is the check in the mail?” You get the idea.
Once you feel ready, cut the cards with your non-dominant hand (the one you don’t write with, in case you were wondering). Now put the cards back together and pull three cards, laying them down just as they appear: in other words, if its upside down, don’t flip it right side up.
Lay the first one to the left, the next in the middle and the last on the right, like this:
Notice which ones are reversed.
Right-side up cards indicate a “Yes” answer. The card in the center counts twice (don’t ask me why). Whatever the majority is, that’s your answer. In this case, we have 3 “yes” and one “no.” So the answer is “Yes.”
If you have two “yes” and two “no” answers, it means things are still unclear.
You can get more insight into your answer by just gazing at the cards and seeing what jumps out at you: colors, symbols, numbers. How do they make you feel? Let them “talk” to you. The images on the cards are specifically designed to trigger your intuition. Relax and just go with it; note down your insights. You might be surprised at how “right” you are. But the most important thing is not to stress — just have fun with this super-fast spread. Learning the Tarot — even a little bit — doesn’t have to give you a migraine.
Got questions about the cards? Or maybe want a full-on reading? Reach out via my website.
I love deer. My neighbors may complain that they eat everything in the yard, but I don’t care. No matter how often I see them nibbling in the dusk light, I hold my breath with wonder. The other night, I was blessed to have them respond to my invitation to eat the corn I placed gently on the ground. It was magical.
I’m not alone in my love of deer: every culture has its tradition related to this beautiful animal. In China, deer are associated with abundance. The Celts believed that fairies trailed behind them, as they cut a path through the forest. Native Americans prayed to deer to ensure a good hunt.
Animals cross our path for a reason. When you see a deer (even in a picture), it’s a reminder to tune into your gentler side. Nudge rather than push. It also encourages you to step away from the noise and busyness of civilization, and go deeper into the “forest” of your own intuition. Expand your awareness of what’s going on around you. Do more listening than talking, and you’ll find a new path through whatever blocks you.
Honor your deer sighting with a solemn nod in their direction, and a “thank you.” And maybe some corn!
Got questions about your own critters? Reach out to me for an Animal Communication session.
Intuition is a completely natural function. And like other functions (except, perhaps, my inner thigh muscles), it can be strengthened.
The thing with your natural psychic gifts is that you have dozens of chances each day to give them a little work out. Hunches, first impressions and gut feelings are all signs that your intuition is pinging. Pay attention.
Also, pay attention to HOW you’re getting that information. Are you feeling sensations or emotions? Seeing images in your mind’s eye? Hearing words, music, etc. in your mind’s ear? A combination of the three? Psychic “style” is unique to each of us. Once you have an idea of how you “get” your information, it will become easier to tune it in on demand.
Outside of those everyday opportunities, here are some fun exercises to build that muscle.
PLAYING CARDS: Next time you’re hanging on the couch, grab a deck of playing cards. Give them a good shuffle. Pull a card with your non-dominant hand; don’t look at it. Concentrate and see if you can pick up the number, color or suit. Keep track of how many “hits” you get.
NEXT DAY’S NEWSPAPER: As you lay in bed, pretend that you’re lifting out of your body and astrally-travelling to your nearest newstand. See it clearly. Now look down at tomorrow’s newspaper. What do you see? Headline, word, photo? Take a moment to jot it down, then check the next day to see how you did.
WHAT AM I DOING? This is a fun one to do with a friend. Have your friend make a list of five simple actions: jumping up and down, standing on one foot, washing a dish, etc. They don’t share the list with you. At a set time, they perform one of the actions. You tune in at that time and see if you can pick it up. Do this every day for five days. You could also do this with your kids.
Tarot is a great way to ignite your own psychic skills; the images really “speak” to that part of your brain. Here’s a quick way to get started.
One thing to keep in mind with any form of psychic development is to keep things light and fun (and to stay healthy). When you’re trying too hard, it chokes off the flow. Imagine my surprise when, during a demonstration at a UK spiritualist church, they played ABBA songs beforehand. Personally, I would’ve chosen Parliament Funkadelic, but that’s just me. Anyway, the music raised the energy, made people smile and dance and really set a great mood.
So have fun as you open up your skills. And like vitamins or a quick set of pushups, do something psychic every day.
My given name is “Cynthia.” Which I’ve always hated. The family story goes that my sister picked it out of a baby name book ‘cause she thought it “sounded funny” (bitch). But my parents liked it and I was stuck with it. That’s what sucks about being a newborn – no say in anything.
Anyhoo, I’ve since done some research and found that the name means “Of the moon” which, given my metaphysical bent, seems appropriate. I’m fascinated by the ancient, timeless passage of this glowing orb through the night sky. It has its own rhythm and definitely its own power. Anyone who’s worked with the public can attest to the effects of the “full moon” – people get crazy, irritable, a little nuttier than usual, amiright? So Moon Energy is a real thing.
Wiccans and pagans drill way down into the subject of moon cycles. But for the rest of us, a simple working knowledge of the energy that’s right over our heads is enough. Check the weather report for the current moon phase. Let it help you with the daily workings of life. And you get a do over every 28 days!
THE NEW MOON
The dark of the moon is the perfect time for planting the seeds of something new. It’s that empty space where a project, plan, dream can begin to take root. The New Moon gives a little “oomph” to anything that’s just beginning. It’s a good time for planning a project, making a move or learning something new.
Here’s a little ritual to try. On the night of a new moon, write out your goal on a piece of paper. Light a candle and visualize it coming true. Look up at the moon and ask that it be granted, then burn the paper in the candle flame (be careful!). Repeat this over 12 nights (if you miss one, you have to start over).
THE WAXING MOON
As the moon “grows,” so does the energy of anything you want to “increase.” This is a great time to try to get pregnant, look for a new lover (or start counseling with your existing one) or ask for a raise.
To “grow” more money, cut out a picture of a frog, tell it what you need, then keep it in your wallet.
THE FULL MOON
The moon is at its most potent, so when you need extra power, this is the time. The full moon helps with legal issues, looking for work or healing. Because the light of the moon is so bright, this is also the time to focus on anything spiritually-related (like developing your intuition or praying for world peace).
To help someone (or even you) heal from an illness, take a white candle, a sprig of rosemary and a photo of the person. Light the candle and envision its healing light streaming into that person’s body.
THE WANING MOON
As the moon begins its journey back to the dark, use this dissipating energy to let go of something. I once timed a surgery to the waning moon to help the doctor rid my body of an unneeded tumor. This cycle will help you gracefully wrap up any relationship that’s run its course, or a part of your life that no longer works.
I like this little ritual for ending a bad habit: take a piece of black string and tie four knots. The first is the mental aspects of the habit, why you keep it. The second represents the actions around this habit. The third is the emotions around the habit, how you feel about it – and about giving it up. Finally, the fourth knot represents the practical aspects of the habit – like how much it cots for those cigarettes. During a waning moon, untie one knot each day, symbollically ‘releasing’ the habit. Then destroy the string when you’re done.
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Now to sing us out, Karl Wallenberg and the Waterboys with one of my faves.
One of my clients asked me the other day about working with the Tarot. She had taken a class once, but admitted that she felt overwhelmed with the deck she had been given to use and wondered if she should try another.
The answer is “yes.” Tarot is a very deep subject, but letting the imagery help you along is key, no matter what stage of development you’re at. There are literally thousands of different decks out there. One (or more) will really talk to you.
A friend of mine is a Tarot junkie, collecting hundreds of them over the years. She has an artistic eye and says the different images really trigger her intuition. And that’s the point. For a beginner, letting the pictures “speak” to you can help you enjoy the cards right off the bat.
I began with the Rider-Waite deck, and its still my favorite. This is sort of the gold standard of Tarot decks. It was first published back in 1909 and remains one of the most popular decks ever. This is the deck I teach on, because once you learn it, it makes learning others easier.
Another deck I like is the Robin Wood Tarot. Her imagery is very bold and really jumps out at me.
I was given the Celtic Spiral deck as a gift. Ick. This one really skeeves me out. The people in it look drunk to me. See what I mean by how the images can “speak” to you? This deck tells me to run, run far away. But other people might like it. Tarot is such a personal thing.
Once you get comfortable with a certain deck, you might want to sample the others out there. Believe me, there are decks for every possible interest: fairies, Camelot, Kabbalah, Native Americans, even cats (yes, I have that one). It’s interesting to see what new spin different images can put on a card’s meaning.
The bottom line is to let the pictures trigger your emotions and intuitive feelings. You’ll be surprised at what you can pick up, even if you’re still just learning the “official” meanings. Play with the cards. Don’t take it too seriously or try too hard. Like a wonderful picture book, just turn the pages and see what stories come out!
As a psychic, the subject of relationships is one of the Top Three questions I get (the other two being money and career, in case you were wondering). Love is a straight-up crazy ride, so no surprise that psychics get so much business.
Therapists are one way to sort out your love life; so are intuitives. We offer a different approach to issues of the heart, an unconventional source of information that can give you fresh insights.
Naturally, every client’s story is different, but these are the themes that come up repeatedly. Any of ‘em ring a bell?
1) “WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?”
Clearly, there are some practical issues. Like if you spend your time on the couch watching re-runs instead of putting yourself out into the world: just so you know, the Relationship Fairy will not be delivering someone by FedEx.
But outside of this, I often pick up on deep wounds that have yet to heal or unresolved fears. All that works like a big “STOP” sign to a relationship. What is it that you need to break down?
2) “WHY ISN’T/DIDN’T THE RELATIONSHIP WORK?”
Relationships come with issues as standard equipment. Learning to work through them advances our growth, but its no guarantee that we’ll grow at the same rate as our partner.
Many times people simply end their journey together. They’ve learned all they’re going to and its healthier to just move on. Its my job to pick up whether there are lessons still in the pipeline or if its time to let go. If that’s the case, I can also provide the “coming attractions” reel of what will fill that void. Because Nature abhors a vacuum.
3) “WHY DO I KEEP MEETING THE SAME LOSER?”
Because you’re not paying attention. Repeating a pattern means you haven’t learned something. So the same person/scenario keeps showing up, but in different guises. What is it you’re missing? What do you need to change?
No matter how much of a dirtbag that person might be, or if something is “all their fault,” you have a role to play in the situation. Yes, really. What is that role and how can you break free of it? As they say, “it takes two to tango” and a session with a good psychic may teach you some new steps in the dance of love.
Got questions about your own relationship(s)? I’m here.
Being a psychic is humbling, exciting, eye-opening, cool and inspiring. It can also kick your ass.
They don’t call us “sensitives” for nothing: psychic or mediumistic work requires a shift in your personal energy that leaves you “open” to both the good vibes and the bad. When I read, I can feel my client’s joy, angst and heartbreak. It’s a fascinating experience, and it’s a huge lesson in empathy – but it can take its toll on the physical body.
Over the years, I’ve learned a few things for taking care of my psychic self and preventing burnout.
1) White Light. Before I read, I make a practice of visualizing an “egg” of protective white light around both my reading space and myself. Because I’m about to open myself up, this keeps any janky energies or entities from getting in.
Here’s what I say before starting a session: “I surround myself with the white light of love and protection. I ask that only positive energies be present as I do this work, and help me to be a clear channel for the information which my client seeks. I ask that they help me receive, discern and relay that information in the kindest and gentlest of ways, for the highest good and the good of all. I accept nothing less.”
I don’t recall where I learned this prayer, and it’s evolved over the years, but it sets up a safe, healthy space to work in.
2) Washing hands. I do this both before and after a session, visualizing any stale energies leaving my body (in the TMI category, I also pee beforehand just in case – so I def need to hand wash!). It’s also a sign of respect and honor for the tools I’m about to handle (cards, crystals, etc.). Washing my hands after a session also brings me back to earth.
3) Food. I try to eat something light about 45 minutes before reading. I need the energy. After reading, I also have a snack. Food helps ground me. In that same vein, many psychics are vegetarian. Good for them, but this girl needs her Big Mac.
4) Where I read. Early in my development, one of my teachers warned that psychics should never read in bars. Besides the noise and the random assholes, you’re dealing with some crazy energy. People go to bars for a reason, and their problems or pain is amplified. I made the mistake of doing a few quickie reads when I was out with some friends one night; they went fine, but the next morning, yours truly was absolutely knackered. And it wasn’t from the chardonnay. I felt like I had holes punched in me, and it took days for me to feel normal again. So now when I go to a bar – white light or not – my shingle reads “Closed.”
5) A Process. Intuitive energy or the energy surrounding a mediumistic session kind of has a life of its own. Learning to control it is a little like learning how to ride a bucking bronco; there’s a rhythm and unpredictabiltity. A routine for opening up and closing down puts a framework around that energy and makes it easier to handle. The bronco may still buck, but at least its in the corral versus hauling ass across the painted desert.
When I begin, I’ve put the white light around myself; when I complete a session, I envision a little curtain being pulled across my crown chakra, as a way to terminate the link.
Then I wash my hands and eat, and I feel like I’ve come back to earth. Doing something grounding – gardening, petting my cat, taking a shower – also works.
Having a process for your psychic work is vital. I’ve seen too many of my students go a little nuts with their blossoming abilities. They walk around with their channel wide open, reading anyone and anything that comes across their path. I think they like the attention. One woman was thrilled to tell me about the two people she’d read while standing in the Express Checkout Line; no mention of how her unwitting subjects felt about it.
Not only is that just crazy intrusive, its not healthy for the reader. When your energy isn’t controlled, its like an ungrounded power line. Sooner or later, you will get burned but good.
So use these tips to stay healthy and focused both in and out of the intuitive realm. And I’d love to hear what you do for yourself to stay sane and centered. Hit me up in the comments.