Category: Change

How To Become More Psychic

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I’m a big believer that everyone – EVERYONE  — is psychic.   Whether it’s a hunch, first impression or gut feeling, intuition is hardwired into our system.  It was a survival skill back in the day – and can still save you from a whole lot of aggravation, if you only trust it more.  Admit it:  there’s been at least one instance in your life where you “knew” something, right?  Did you blow it off at the time?  Many of us do, but I’m here to tell you that learning how to pay attention to those little “pings” is going to change everything.

Sorry, the tin foil doesn't increase the frequency...
Sorry, the tin foil doesn’t increase the frequency…

So what distinguishes a professional psychic like me from plain old you?  Not much, actually.  I compare it to a radio:  some people are born with their intuition “channel” locked in and turned waaaaay up.  Others have to fiddle with the knobs a little to pick up what’s out there in the ether.  But it’s totally do-able.  Like anything, it just takes practice.

There are three basic ways psychic information shows up:

Clairvoyance:  “clear seeing.”  This is when you see images in your mind’s eye.  There are some psychics who see things for real – but most of us see it in our head.  I may see images of people involved in a person’s job, or a geographical place if I sense a move.

Clairaudience: “clear hearing.” This is “hearing” sounds, voices, words in your mind’s ear.

Clairsentience: “clear feeling.”  You feel physical sensations, smell things – anything that engages your senses.  For instance, I may feel a heaviness in my chest when I’m picking up someone who passed from lung or heart issues.

Very often, a psychic will get a mashup of the three.  One channel may dominate, and it may vary from day to day.  For me, I tend to predominantly hear and feel my info, with seeing images close behind.  Like your fingerprint, your intuitive style is completely unique.  And its fun to figure it out!

Spinning the psychic mashup groove.
Spinning the psychic mashup groove.

The experience of “getting” information often trips people up because they think they’re just “imagining” it.  Here’s the thing – your imagination is the vehicle.  It has to be – that’s how we process things in our lives.

Think about what you have to do after work.  You’re probably seeing yourself running to the grocery store, picking up the kids after soccer and making dinner.  That information shows up in your imagination, like images on a screen.  And it’s the same way with psychic stuff.

The trick is to learn how to distinguish between the kind of imagination that has you seeing yourself in a hot air balloon with George Clooney (OK, that’s just me) – and the kind where you’re seeing a new job opportunity.  That just comes with practice.

Psst!  George!  Call me!
Psst! George! Call me!

Before I share some fun exercises, let’s talk keeping yourself sane and healthy.  Any kind of psychic work involves energy.  It’s important to take some care before you dive in.  Why?  Well, think about one of those people – and you KNOW you know one – who just drains you.  They have a talent for sucking you dry with their problems.  After a night out, listening to their story (again), they say something like, “Wow – it was so great to see you.  I feel soooo much better!”  You, on the other hand, feel like you got hit in the face with a bat.

Yeah, they kinda make you feel like this.
Yeah, they kinda make you feel like this.

So energy is a real thing, and you need to know how to work with it. Before I do anything related to spiritual work, I envision an “egg” of protective white light around my whole body.  This is something I learned years ago; it takes about 2 seconds and serves as a shield from whatever, good and bad.  It keeps me from becoming completely knackered after a reading (PS  — it’s a good thing to do when you’re about to meet that Energy Vampire for drinks.  You’ll thank me in the morning).

It'll look a little like this....
It’ll look a little like this….

If your ability to “see” this white light isn’t so hot, you can just say something like, “I surround myself with the white light of love and protection.”  That’ll work, too.

So make it a point to do this super-quick ritual before practicing anything to do with your psychic side.   It’s not a bad addition to your daily life in general — keeping a lot of random crap from sticking to you.

Now, let’s dive in.

NAME THAT HEADLINE

I first started teaching this little exercise back when old school newspapers were still big.  Even if you get your daily news fix from an online site, it’ll still work.

Here’s what you do:  start by putting yourself in that handy egg of white light.  Then…

1)  Set a notebook and pen aside to record what you get.  Close your eyes, relax and take a few deep breaths.

2)  Envision a blank movie screen or piece of paper in front of you.  Keep breathing.

3)  Now ask the Universe to send you a hint of tomorrow’s news.  It may come as an image, a word, a feeling.  Stay relaxed and let it unfold.  Go with the first thing you get.  I can’t stress this enough; oftentimes, our first impression is the RIGHT one.  But we talk ourselves out of it.

4)  As this is happening, stay gently engaged and observe how you’re getting the info:  are you seeing it, feeling it, hearing it?

5)  After a few minutes (really, keep this short so you don’t get too anxious), take a few more breaths and return to the “here and now.”  Jot down what you got.  Check it tomorrow and see how you did.

You may need to do this a few times before you get a “hit.”  But it’s fun!

OBJECT READING

For this, you’ll need something like a piece of jewelry, from someone you don’t know the backstory on all that well.  Maybe ask a friend to bring you their mother-in-law’s earring (yes, you’ll give it back.  Unless its really nice….).  You can try it on anything where you can get some confirmation afterwards.

Once more, put yourself in that white-light-egg thingy.  Then…

1)  Set a notebook and pen aside to record what you get.  Close your eyes, relax and take a few deep breaths.

2)  Hold the object in your non-dominant  hand (meaning, the one you don’t write with).  That allows you to tap more easily into the subconscious.  Relax and keep breathing.

3)  What information is coming off the object?  It may come as an image, a word, a feeling.  Stay relaxed and let it unfold.  Go with the first thing you get.  And, this is important, tell your friend what you’re getting (so they can verify).  Don’t try to understand it.  Just say what you’re getting.  This may take some time, since we tend to want to be “right.”  Learning to just flow with the information is one of the hardest parts of psychic development.

4)  Again, stay gently engaged and observe how you’re getting the info:  are you seeing it, feeling it, hearing it?   Does one dominate more than the others?

5)  After a few minutes, take a few more breaths and return to the “here and now.”

As your friend tells you what was a “hit,” recall how you got that piece of info.  Seeing, hearing, feeling….The more you do this, the more clearly defined will be that line between your everyday imagination and the particular way your psychic info comes in.

These are two simple exercises that train your psychic muscle, but you can work it all day long:  as in, “who’s calling?”  (don’t cheat and look at your phone). Is a particular person going to reach out to you today?  What song will come up next on the radio?  You could sit with a deck of cards while you watch Real Housewives and try to guess their color, suit or number as you pull each from the deck.  The idea is to let the part of you that doesn’t work off intellect to be in the driver’s seat more often.

And the one thing I can’t emphasize enough?  Follow your gut.  When something comes up in your life that you’re not sure of, what does your  gut tell you?

This gut tells me to cut down on the pork rinds.
This gut is saying, “Cut down on the pork rinds.”

Paying attention — and acting on the feelings your gut inspires — is the easiest way to tune up your psychic muscle.  I’ve heard that “intuition is wisdom in reverse.”  So start working that channel and save yourself a lot of grief.  You’ll thank me (and I love gift cards to Target!).

So what times did your intuition tell you something?  Spill it in the comments section!

The Real Trick to Changing Your Life

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I met a woman –call her “L”  — in January.  First-time client.  This woman’s back story was pretty amazing: horrible childhood,  husband dies on their 7th anniversary leaving two little boys to raise alone.  So she was training to be an electrician in a decidedly macho business; in fact, she was just promoted to an especially challenging specialty. On top of that, she just wrote a book about her experience stepping into that world.

She is pretty much THIS woman...
She is pretty much THIS woman…

Total badass, right?  But her weak spot was the guy who was living with her.  We’ll call him “R.”  This guy was a cheater and a slob; he spent most of his waking hours putting her down, calling her names.  That was when he wasn’t eating Cheetos on the couch (and wiping his hands on the cushions, probably). He took her money.  He ran around.  The guy was a walking  old-timey blues song and you would wonder why anyone would put up with his sorry ass.  But she did.  It happens.

No surprise that “L” was frustrated and mad with herself.  She knew he was a bonehead. She knew she had put up with this for too long, but she worried about making it financially if he were out of the picture.  She wondered if she’d ever find anyone else.  You’ve heard this story before.

Cut to this afternoon, a few months after our first meeting.  “R” is still in the picture — but not for long.  “L” has been quietly making some plans.  She rented a storage unit to stash her precious items (in case he decided to mess with her — ’cause that’s the kind of tool he is).  She secretly opened up her own credit cards and took a loan against her 401K to give her a cushion.  And, on her way to my office, had hit the Home Depot for a new set of locks.  Bah-ZING!

Don't let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya!
Don’t let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya!

The funny thing is, “R” seems to know something’s up.  And he’s trying to be all nice again — because clearly, his usual m.o. of being a jerk is not having the expected effect of putting her in line.  “L” is still a little freaked out over the change that’s coming — but she keeps moving forward.  No wonder THIS  card came up for her:

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The Moon is about being spooked by uncertainty.  The Moon’s light is deceptive; even on the brightest night, you can’t be quite sure what that is in front of you. Vicious dogs are a-barkin’, creepy things are crawling out of the mud, ready to slime you.   You just want to curl up with the blanket over your head.  It’s a game of Blind Man’s Bluff, where you feel around in the dark, not knowing what you’re about to bump up against. Frustrating. Terrifying.

However, moving forward is what we must do.  And even the smallest effort counts.  It’s the fact that you’re trying in the face of uncertainty that’s the point of this card.  That’s where greatness starts; its Edison’s final push for the light bulb, the last record company visited by the Beatles.  And you won’t BELIEVE how fast the successes and “whoa, where’d THAT come from?”s start piling up on the back of those little moves.

I was so proud of “L”s eensy steps towards a life free from the janky vibe of “R.”   She’s scared, no doubt.  But she’s walking through the uncertain light of the Moon.  She may be crawling on her hands and knees sometimes – but  she’s moving.  Before she knows it, the sun will rise, showing that she’s farther down the road than ever expected.

That’s your word of the day, children: “try.”   And here’s your assignment:  think of something in your life that just ain’t working.  You’re putting up with a job you no longer like, a person you no longer love,  the 15 extra pounds, anything you know you need to change but just can’t.

Now, take a few deep breaths and sit quietly with a pen and pad.  What are the three smallest things you can do to start to change that situation today?  No big moves to overwhelm you, just little baby steps.

Here’s an example.  Let’s say your job is played out.  You’re just grinding it out, day by day, knowing that you want something else, but it’s just too damn hard to consider leaving it.   If this were me (and it was, at one point), here are my three baby steps:

1) Google a few job sites and just poke around for 15 minutes.

2) Write down three people to talk to about  possible opportunities (notice, I’m just writing them down, not actually contacting them at this point)

3) Pull up the resume’ and give it a quick once-over.  Again, we’re not making any actual changes to it. just initiating some energy.

I think you’ll find  that the act of doing something, anything builds momentum towards change. You take another tiny step…and another…and another. So have at it, and let the light of the Moon lead you forward into your dream life!

Tell me how you’re gonna do it in the comments below.  (And if you like what you read, share it!)

Beating the Fear Monster

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I’ve been thinking a lot about Fear.   I’m going through some things right now that have me living with a sense of worry, pretty much all the time. That’s what moving forward will do to you.

The wise ones tell us to remember that we are safe at all times, that we are bigger than our worries.  Yeah, OK.  Thanks for that.

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The Attack of the Heebie Jeebies….

Fear shows up in so many ways, doesn’t it?  Worry, anxiety, anger, bitchiness.  All of those stem from a place of not feeling safe.  Example:  look at the downright nasty nature of politics these days.  If you really drill down, it strikes me that all that heat comes from fear of a changing world.  We like things settled, predictable.  When that goes away — or appears that it might– watch out.

So how do we get to that place of feeling serene when all we want to do is dive face down into the biggest martini we can find?  Breathing helps, both on a physical and spiritual level.  The act of consciously breathing releases tension in our body and gives our mind something else to focus on.

I also think that anxiety and worry are the Universe’s way of letting us know that we need to make a change.  Something isn’t working. This particular Tarot card illustrates that awful wide-awake-at-3-in-the-morning feeling…

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Of course, when you discover the answer, making that change brings its own kind of freak-out potential.  Change is not something anyone really likes; look how long the evolutionary process took–  millions of years for us to just stop walking on our knuckles.  But getting up off our knuckles is necessary.

When the Nine of Swords comes up in a reading, I tell my client that worry is counter-productive and that they need to shrink that sense of overwhelm with action.  One small, bite-sized step at a time gives us a sense of control over the situation.  Action is the antidote to Fear– whether its making a plan to get out of a bad situation, or the physical kind that sweats it out of you.

So I’m trying to look at Fear through a different lens, as an indicator that I am making an important change. I’m not thrilled at it riding shotgun on this journey — but with some deep breaths, an action plan and a giant martini, maybe the trip won’t be so bad.

Led Zeppelin and the Tarot

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People who know me will tell you that I luuuuurve Led Zeppelin.  I am convinced that one day, I will somehow, some way, meet and marry Jimmy Page.  But in the meantime, I love how he injects himself into another passion of mine, the Tarot.   Check out this segment from their awesome concert movie, The Song Remains the Same.  Can’t you just smell the reefer???

Anyway, that freaky old dude he’s climbing towards is this guy from the Tarot:

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Like his namesake, the Hermit has retreated from the world.  He’s climbed waaay up high, away from strip malls, drive-thrus, cable news and American Idol, to spend time with inner thoughts and his higher self.  He’s taking a timeout to take a good look inside.    His number is “9” (I know, Roman numerals are a bitch to read).  “Nine” represents one ending of a cycle, so he’s using that opportunity to assess where he’s been and the best direction to go next.

The Hermit also has a neat perspective from that way-high lookout.  He can look down on the rest of us and see all the ridiculousness we get trapped in.  He is the Google Earth of wisdom.  The light he holds doesn’t just help our hero, Jimmy Page, find him in his climb up that psychedelic mountain– it’s light he’s sharing with the rest of us.

That kind of wisdom requires solitude and the willingness to reflect. Now while I am one of those folks who loves alone time, there are plenty of folks who HATE to be by themselves.  I won’t guess at the myriad reasons for this, but all I can say is that taking some time, undistracted by people or things, is enormously helpful.  There needs to be even a little bit of quiet space in your life for spiritual wisdom to seep in.

A meditation practice is helpful here.  Even five minutes a day gives your brain a chance to throttle down and your soul to speak to you. If meditation isn’t your thing, just reading an inspirational book – like A Course In Miracles, Vitamins for Your Soul, any of those “thought-a-day” volumes — for a few minutes will feed your spirit.

Whenever anyone comes to me for a session after a breakup, they’re frequently flailing in all that “space” they’ve just been given.  It can be a scary place, especially after being so used to having someone there.  I remind them that this downtime can be empowering.  It’s the chance to review the relationship, look at the lessons and grow from them.  That investment of time can pay off in huge ways when the next one comes along.  This applies to any kind of loss; you will be so much richer for that time spent alone, high up on the mountain.

At least, that’s what Jimmy tells me (psst!  Call me!)

Reincarnation 101

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Recently, I read a woman who lost her son a few years ago.    I can’t even imagine that kind of pain.  So I was not at all surprised when she asked if there was a chance that he might reincarnate while she was still alive, and they might connect again.  Let’s discuss.

Reincarnation fascinates me.  And it makes total sense to my hyper-logical brain.  I just can’t believe that everything that makes a person who they are just goes away when they die.  The force of personality is not organic, like a piece of old bread.  It’s much more than that.

We are not THIS....
We are not THIS….

Physics tells us that energy cannot die, it can only turn into something (or someone) else.  So I believe that when we pass, our spirit-energy goes to the Summerland to take stock and reassess.  It’s like the Mother of all Debriefings.

Let me break it down: you spend some time there, looking over what you learned in your time on Earth.  You hang with your ancestors.  You get really good at badminton or origami (even if you couldn’t fold a newspaper to save your life, when you HAD a life). Then you decide to return to Planet Earth, bringing back some memory of what you learned the last go-round.

"...just think: I couldn't even walk and chew gum in my last life..."
“…just think: I couldn’t even walk and chew gum in my last life…”

You hope to move the needle on your soul’s evolution, by being smarter, wiser and more loving in this new life. It’s your chance to move up a grade, as it were.  Eventually, you “graduate” and can decide to permanently hang on the sweet side, although many evolved souls are opting to return to help the rest of our sorry asses out.

That, to me, is how I understand reincarnation.

I’ve read that we used to come back every 200 years or so.  But as our civilization has “sped up,” the process is much more frequent.  So does that mean someone you love will return in your lifetime?  Sometimes.  But that doesn’t mean that they will necessarily show up in your neighborhood.  They could be running a pedi-cab in Sri Lanka.

"Nana?  Is that you?"
“Nana? Is that you?”

The other thing is, that when we reincarnate, we do bring some of the knowledge of our past lives with us.  But we have a hard time remembering it – and the people that were there with us (another reason for not waiting around for them).  I’m going to reference one of my favorite movies, Made In Heaven  with Timothy Hutton and Kelly McGillis.  It’s a great romantic film, but the way it depicts Heaven and returning to Earth is spot on.  Check it out.

Anyway, we’re back to take on new experiences; to be burdened with the entire memory of our past lives would make our heads explode (not to mention, make it really hard to decide what to put on in the morning). So while there’s a certain spiritual “overlay” of what we’ve been through, as with all our lives, we have free will to use it moving forward.  Or to completely forget it and go off the rails.

Here’s an example.  Early in my spiritual development, I met a guy I was cah-razy for. Naturally, after I got home from our date at the bar, I used one of my new skills and did his numerology chart.  Now, according to numerology, each of us has up to 11 Karmic Lessons to learn.  In some lifetimes, we may only have one or two; in others, a boatload of them.

Anyway, I was stunned to see that  Mr. Yummy had NO Karmic Lessons.  Zero, zip, nada.  This was a curious thing, because he turned out to be the biggest tool on the planet.

Thought he was this guy.  Not even close.
Thought he was this guy. Not even close.

You would think someone with no Karmic Lessons in their chart would be really spiritual like Ghandi or Jesus.  But you would be wrong. I was completely stumped, until I learned that, just because you come into this life with a clean slate doesn’t mean you exit with one.

There’s that pesky “free will” thing again. My hunk may have reincarnated after years of deep study in various medieval monasteries.  But in this life, he clearly had abandoned any vows of celibacy and sobriety.  And reading.   If he was someone’s long lost sweet grandma that they hoped to see again, they were gonna be waaaaay disappointed.

One thing to keep in mind is, the experience of losing someone is part of our growth as humans.  Grief is a powerful teacher. The understanding that we can and will connect with them in the spiritual realm is another lesson.  To hang on to the hope that you’ll see someone again in the flesh keeps you from moving forward.    Don’t put your life on hold for them.

Extreme Makeover: Life Edition

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There are tons of “do it yourself”-er shows on TV these days, where experts are making over homes, restaurants, relationships, bad hair — whatever.  And this is the Tarot card that sums up all that creative energy.

The Magician is the card of the entrepreneur or, for that matter, anyone who wants to give something in their life a fresh paint job.  Take a closer look:

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On the table are all four of the symbols that show up in the Tarot deck:  the cup, wand, sword and pentacle.  He’s about to use every resource available to him.  The cup are his emotions and intuitive insights; the wand his practical abilities; the sword represents his ideas and intellect; the pentacle, his earthly resources and physical energies.

He’s pointing down towards the energy of the earth and  up towards the power of the unseen worlds above him.   That squiggly figure-eight shape above his head is called a “lemniscate” and represents being tuned in to the universal power during the whole process.  In a word, he’s about to get jiggy wit it.

Speaking of magicians, here’s one of my all time favorites:  Tim, the Enchanter!

Our Magician is not so much about throwing fireballs from his finger (although that could come in handy); he’s about doing something more useful.  I like the idea of engaging ALL of our abilities and talents in pursuit of a goal.

It gives us an opportunity to take stock of the many gifts we have at our disposal. Do this right now- make a list of your gifts, from your amazing smarts and long list of friends, to your ability to juggle. Really dig in, and see all you’ve been given to run your life.  This is the secret of the Magician.

Here’s mah girl, Chrissie Hynde, to sing us out.  She’s running down her own list of tools: “gonna use my arms, gonna use my legs…”  Work it, honey.

Talk to the Bubble…

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Ever since I was a kid, I’ve kept a journal.  From high school through my early adulthood, I spent hours filling dozens of spiral notebooks with every random event, meaningful song lyric and painful moment.  It was my comfort, my friend, my addiction.  And as I moved out of the dorm, into my first apartment(s), I carted them all around in a couple of plastic milk crates.

A few years ago, when I was packing to move again, I randomly pulled out a few of those spiral notebooks, sat down and had a good read.  The pain of my college years leapt off the pages and brought back a ton of memories (OK, I was a bit of a drama queen).  It was hard reading them, realizing how sad and frustrated I had been.  After a couple hours, I realized that I had been carrying pain around with me.  Literally.  So I dragged those crates downstairs and threw just about every one of my journals in the dumpster (I kept a few for laughs, because nothing makes you glad to be older than reading your 16-year old self. Holy crap).

For me, that was a liberating moment.  I never realized how attached I’d become to those notebooks, fearing that if I didn’t have them with me, I’d somehow “forget” my life.  That ceremonial dumping made me realize that I didn’t need those painful reminders — I had lived through them.  Constantly hanging on was not going to serve me.

So I let go.

Those journals were tangible baggage.  But what are you carting around from the past that no longer does anything for you?   How many milk crates are taking up space in your head?

That's a lot of space that could be put to better use...
That’s a lot of space that could be put to better use…

There’s a great exercise that I just discovered to help free yourself of any situation, painful memory, person or whatever is putting a negative splotch on your life:

1)  Picture that person/situation/thing in your mind’s eye.  And here’s the key thing — remain unemotional about it.  Emotion is like sugar to a toddler; it amps up the energy and makes it hard to manage.

Yup, I knew that Ring Ding was a bad idea....
Yup, I knew that Ring Ding was a bad idea….

If the thought of that bad breakup still makes you start clenching up inside, take a moment to breathe.  Now try again.  Maybe make them/it appear like a static picture.  Once you have the image in your head, put it in a bubble of white light.  Call this Part A.

2) Put an image of yourself in a bubble of light, too.  Again, remain unemotional about it.  It’s just a picture of you (aren’t you glad you combed your hair?)  This is Part B.

3) Bring the A and B bubbles together,and attach them within a figure eight.

Like this....
Like this….

4) Now, imagine you’ve got a big pair of scissors and you cut the figure in half, letting Part A just float away, softly, into the light.

Up, up and away....!
Up, up and away….!

I heard of a woman who used this exercise to keep her neighbor — whom she liked — from incessantly playing the piano.  She didn’t know how to tactfully ask him not to practice, so she “released” the image of the neighbor playing….and guess what?  The neighbor suddenly curtailed his sessions dramatically.  And no cops had to be called!

Now, with some things, it may take you a couple attempts to really feel like you’ve rid yourself of its past influence and gotten it out of your energetic field.  You may run into your ex unexpectedly and have a setback.  Just do the exercise again.  I guarantee that with each attempt, their power over you will be dramatically reduced; and when you see your ex with their new honey, you’ll be able to be all cool and calm…and not want to put a shiv in their side.

I’d love to hear how this worked for you, so hit me up in the Comments section….

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else:
you are the one who gets burned.”  Buddha

Thanks, Debbie Ford. Now Get That Smile Off Your Face.

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Earlier this week, self-help author Debbie Ford passed away at the too-young age of 57.  I was introduced to her work by a friend who gave me a copy of “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers.”  Yeah, I know – awful title.  But the point of the book is really interesting:  namely, that our “dark” side is a necessary part of who we are.  That notion really got me to thinking.th

I’m told that I was a pretty happy kid. I still tend to view life on the sunny side. On the occasion that I’m feeling less than cheery, or just have a “meh” look on my face, someone will invariably say, “Hey…smile!”   Super-annoying.

The message is clear:  tantrums, moods and other “dark” things are not welcome in this over-medicated world of ours.

"She goes running for the shelter/of her 'Mother's Little Helper..."
“She goes running for the shelter/of her ‘Mother’s Little Helper…”

But Ford’s book encourages us to embrace those parts of ourselves.  They are vital pieces of the puzzle that make us who we are, the yin to the yang.  And flipping your “dark” side over on its soft white underbelly can reveal some powerful insights.

I know a woman who, for years, chronically played “the good girl,” always sweet, giving and polite.  But there were a few occasions when she threw a righteous temper-tantrum.  I’m talking the red-faced, object-throwing, furniture-rattling kind.  Clearly, her “dark” side wanted out.  It was showing her that she had power, the kind she denied herself in her quest to always be sunny and light.   Once she accepted her ability to get angry, she was more fully herself.  She finally got the guts to stand up to her overbearing boyfriend (’cause he didn’t want to see the red-faced version of her. For real).  And fewer objects got broken.

One of my guilty pleasures is “Star Trek.”  There was an episode where, after a transporter malfunction, Captain Kirk got “split” into his good half and his bad half.  After causing plenty of havoc and confusion, Kirk realized that he needed the icky side to make him the kick-ass space cowboy that he was.  Check out the awesome ham-tastic acting!

In the metaphysical world,there’s a lot of talk about “living the light,” being positive, etc.  This might sound like we want to avoid the darker parts of ourselves — but to be a fully-integrated human being, we need to acknowledge and work with them.  That’s part of our spiritual challenge.  Acting like a junior pageant queen 24/7 will get you nowhere.  Except, perhaps, committed.    RIP, Debbie Ford.

She's just two stops away from starring in a Lifetime movie about running over her husband with a milk truck.
She’s just two stops away from starring in a Lifetime movie about running over her husband with a milk truck.

Guess Who’s Coming to the Funeral?

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Tom Sawyer wasn’t the only one: dead people like to attend their own funerals. Come on, wouldn’t you?  They tend to stand near the end of their coffin, and watch as people pass to pay their respects.   They love looking at all the flowers and expressions of sympathy (so make sure you send really nice ones.  Just sayin’).

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Tom Sawyer enters his own funeral….and everyone nearly drops dead for real.

While the deceased enjoy seeing all the old friends and acquaintances, its frustrating for them to see all the sadness, because they know that, “Hey, I’m STILL HERE…”

Grief is a hugely powerful emotion.  It can work like a giant anchor around the spirit of a deceased loved one, keeping them (and you) from moving on.  They still care deeply about us, so intense levels of sadness make it hard to leave.  Kinda like a mom not wanting to leave their crying child (although, there are some crying kids you probably can’t get away from fast enough).

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Like these….

After our mother passed, my sister was desperate to “hear” from her.  She wanted a sign,to dream of her – ANYTHING.  But that powerful grief actually blocked Mom from coming through.  It was like a curtain of white noise that nothing could pierce.  Once some time had passed, and the need wasn’t as great, she did indeed have wonderful experiences of Mom’s presence.

Allowing our loved ones to transition is the natural order of things.  It’s not easy, but if we keep in mind that they’ve just moved on to another level of existence, one that allows them to stil be with us (albeit in a different form), we’re more likely to experience their presence, either through a medium, dreams, or little “signs.”  More importantly, letting them go helps them in their new life.  And it allows you to continue on your own path, on this side of the veil.

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I know that some cultures “celebrate” death. That’s not exactly my style, but I do try to encourage people to put their grief in perspective, to the extent that they can.  You will see them (for real) one day.  Trust me on this one…

The End of the World? Nope.

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There’s an old REM track that’s been making the rounds, in light of this Mayan prophecy of the world ending today: “It’s The End of The World As We Know It.”

Well, clearly, since I’m sitting here, listening to the sound of the dryer and my fingers clicking away on the laptop, the world has not stopped spinning.   But I think that song title is still appropriate: it’s the end of the world AS WE KNOW IT.

The last couple months have really turned things upside down, especially Hurricane Sandy and the unspeakable tragedy in Newtown, CT.  Those two incidents alone have created a seismic shift in our thinking, about how we function as a society.  We’ve had similar disasters, but this time, something has changed.  We feel it.  And I believe this is what the Mayans meant:  we are passing into an age of enlightenment.  We are taking another step on the path, collectively.

I read somewhere that we are passing out of the Iron Age — one that has been vicious, combative, filled with selfishness (Bernie Madoff, I’m looking at you).  The Hindus refer to our current time as ‘the age of quarrel.”

Here’s a clip from a really-underrated movie, “The Devil’s Advocate,” in which Al Pacino — as the Devil — gives one of the great speeches ever.  It kinda sums up where we’ve been:

Spoiler alert: in the movie, the Devil doesn’t get to take over the world.   And now, in this new world, he doesn’t get to either.  We are passing into an age that’s kinder, more interdependent, more spiritually aware.

For the last few days, I’ve sensed a personal shift.   I’ve been cleaning out closets, getting rid of old stuff –literally.  As we go through the long, dark winter, take some time to go within and help step up your game to meet the new energy of this beautiful new age we’ve just entered.  Just like Dorothy did…