It happened again. I’m scanning my morning Yahoo headlines and see that a Florida psychic is on trial for scamming her clients out of — wait for it — something like 25 MILLION (with a “mill”) American dollars. She managed to get otherwise intelligent folks to hand over gold, jewelry and cash, all in the interest of “sacrificing” to rid their lives of evil (’cause “money is the root of all evil,” get it?).
This shameless skank insist that her clairvoyant gift had been in the family for 1500 years. Gee — with all that ancestral weight, you’d think shed’a seen the law coming to shut her down.
I friggin’ hate stories like these, because it tars all legitimate psychic/mediums with a bad brush. No legit intuitive will EVER ask for more than their standard fee. Extras like curse-removing, intervening with the gods on your behalf or invisible bitch-slapping should not even enter the discussion. But this begs another question: if you have a gift, should you be charging at all?
The answer is: HELL TO THE YES.
No matter how naturally intuitive someone is, using that ability takes energy. A lot of it. You don’t want to see me after a long afternoon of reading: its not pretty and usually requires some serious time on the living room couch.
Most of us devote a lot of effort to keeping our gift sharp, in order to provide the best possible information we can to our clients. We take classes, buy and read books, travel to sacred sites, meditate. It’s not just for fun: its specifically to help us be of service.
Then there’s the fact that a reading requires time. Outside of the actual session, there’s preparation involved: in my case, I spend about a half hour before you even get here to meditate, tune in, clear the space with sage and incense.
Psychics could be using that kind of time for plenty of other things: car pools, laundry, making flan. Plus, most of the psychic/mediums I know have full or part-time jobs, families and other things pulling at us. So, at the very least, you’re paying us for our time.
On the subject of “giving it away,” most every psychic/medium (myself included) has frequently used their gift for someone who’s in need, and not taken dime one. We want to help, and our hearts are softer than most when it comes to a person who needs to hear a message or get some direction. The point is, we shouldn’t be “expected” to work pro bono.
Very few of us get rich from this work. The John Edwards and Theresa Caputos are few and far between. But our efforts to help and heal others in our own little way should be honored monetarily. Every reader has their own rate card; like any professional, I’m up front with mine (which you can see here). I’m not a fan of those “one free question” types or the ones who only charge you $5. ‘Cause you KNOW they’re gonna suck you in for a lot more. This is not a party game; it’s serious endeavor and should be respected as such.
What do you think about psychics and money? Share your comments with me.
As a psychic, the subject of relationships is one of the Top Three questions I get (the other two being money and career, in case you were wondering). Love is a straight-up crazy ride, so no surprise that psychics get so much business.
Therapists are one way to sort out your love life; so are intuitives. We offer a different approach to issues of the heart, an unconventional source of information that can give you fresh insights.
Naturally, every client’s story is different, but these are the themes that come up repeatedly. Any of ‘em ring a bell?
1) “WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?”
Clearly, there are some practical issues. Like if you spend your time on the couch watching re-runs instead of putting yourself out into the world: just so you know, the Relationship Fairy will not be delivering someone by FedEx.
But outside of this, I often pick up on deep wounds that have yet to heal or unresolved fears. All that works like a big “STOP” sign to a relationship. What is it that you need to break down?
2) “WHY ISN’T/DIDN’T THE RELATIONSHIP WORK?”
Relationships come with issues as standard equipment. Learning to work through them advances our growth, but its no guarantee that we’ll grow at the same rate as our partner.
Many times people simply end their journey together. They’ve learned all they’re going to and its healthier to just move on. Its my job to pick up whether there are lessons still in the pipeline or if its time to let go. If that’s the case, I can also provide the “coming attractions” reel of what will fill that void. Because Nature abhors a vacuum.
3) “WHY DO I KEEP MEETING THE SAME LOSER?”
Because you’re not paying attention. Repeating a pattern means you haven’t learned something. So the same person/scenario keeps showing up, but in different guises. What is it you’re missing? What do you need to change?
No matter how much of a dirtbag that person might be, or if something is “all their fault,” you have a role to play in the situation. Yes, really. What is that role and how can you break free of it? As they say, “it takes two to tango” and a session with a good psychic may teach you some new steps in the dance of love.
Got questions about your own relationship(s)? I’m here.
Being a psychic is humbling, exciting, eye-opening, cool and inspiring. It can also kick your ass.
They don’t call us “sensitives” for nothing: psychic or mediumistic work requires a shift in your personal energy that leaves you “open” to both the good vibes and the bad. When I read, I can feel my client’s joy, angst and heartbreak. It’s a fascinating experience, and it’s a huge lesson in empathy – but it can take its toll on the physical body.
Over the years, I’ve learned a few things for taking care of my psychic self and preventing burnout.
1) White Light. Before I read, I make a practice of visualizing an “egg” of protective white light around both my reading space and myself. Because I’m about to open myself up, this keeps any janky energies or entities from getting in.
Here’s what I say before starting a session: “I surround myself with the white light of love and protection. I ask that only positive energies be present as I do this work, and help me to be a clear channel for the information which my client seeks. I ask that they help me receive, discern and relay that information in the kindest and gentlest of ways, for the highest good and the good of all. I accept nothing less.”
I don’t recall where I learned this prayer, and it’s evolved over the years, but it sets up a safe, healthy space to work in.
2) Washing hands. I do this both before and after a session, visualizing any stale energies leaving my body (in the TMI category, I also pee beforehand just in case – so I def need to hand wash!). It’s also a sign of respect and honor for the tools I’m about to handle (cards, crystals, etc.). Washing my hands after a session also brings me back to earth.
3) Food. I try to eat something light about 45 minutes before reading. I need the energy. After reading, I also have a snack. Food helps ground me. In that same vein, many psychics are vegetarian. Good for them, but this girl needs her Big Mac.
4) Where I read. Early in my development, one of my teachers warned that psychics should never read in bars. Besides the noise and the random assholes, you’re dealing with some crazy energy. People go to bars for a reason, and their problems or pain is amplified. I made the mistake of doing a few quickie reads when I was out with some friends one night; they went fine, but the next morning, yours truly was absolutely knackered. And it wasn’t from the chardonnay. I felt like I had holes punched in me, and it took days for me to feel normal again. So now when I go to a bar – white light or not – my shingle reads “Closed.”
5) A Process. Intuitive energy or the energy surrounding a mediumistic session kind of has a life of its own. Learning to control it is a little like learning how to ride a bucking bronco; there’s a rhythm and unpredictabiltity. A routine for opening up and closing down puts a framework around that energy and makes it easier to handle. The bronco may still buck, but at least its in the corral versus hauling ass across the painted desert.
When I begin, I’ve put the white light around myself; when I complete a session, I envision a little curtain being pulled across my crown chakra, as a way to terminate the link.
Then I wash my hands and eat, and I feel like I’ve come back to earth. Doing something grounding – gardening, petting my cat, taking a shower – also works.
Having a process for your psychic work is vital. I’ve seen too many of my students go a little nuts with their blossoming abilities. They walk around with their channel wide open, reading anyone and anything that comes across their path. I think they like the attention. One woman was thrilled to tell me about the two people she’d read while standing in the Express Checkout Line; no mention of how her unwitting subjects felt about it.
Not only is that just crazy intrusive, its not healthy for the reader. When your energy isn’t controlled, its like an ungrounded power line. Sooner or later, you will get burned but good.
So use these tips to stay healthy and focused both in and out of the intuitive realm. And I’d love to hear what you do for yourself to stay sane and centered. Hit me up in the comments.
I first got turned on to crystals back in the 80s (didn’t we all?). At one point, they were everywhere in my tiny apartment. My roommate would just roll his eyes when he saw another added to the collection. I was about 4 stones away from officially being declared a hoarder.
All these years later, I still have plenty of beautiful little stones, but there are a few in particular that I work with the most. They’re my go-to crystals when I do any psychic work.
QUARTZ CRYSTAL; Like a Chanel suit, this stone goes with everything. It’s the kind of crystal that can serve any purpose you assign it. Yup, you can “program” it so that it’s electromagnetic properties help attract whatever your intention is. Just hold it in your non-dominant hand, envisioning your goal uploading into it. When you feel a “click,” you’re done. You can re-program it for something else, by envisioning that you’re clearing it, then repeating the upload process.
I keep these on my reading table, simply because of the positive energy that seems to flow from the little buggers.
ROSE QUARTZ: The soft pink color aligns with the heart chakra. I love the gentle vibe surrounding rose quartz. It’s not throwing off hot monkey-love vibes, more of a gentle, patient energy. It’s the kind of love vibe you have for your pet, or your grandma has for you. Unconditional, sweet, giving. It’s the Aunt Bee of crystals.
This is a good stone to work with when any sort of grief or loss is going on. It heals the heart, which makes it great to carry after a breakup, a death or anything that makes you feel like you’re walking around with a giant hole in your chest.
LAPIS: I can get lost staring at this gorgeous blue-gold stone. It’s powerfully spiritual, used to help connect with higher realms and energies.
Lapis throws off a really strong metaphysical energy and really helps open up my channel. It turns up the volume in a major way. Nigel Tufnel (all hail, Tap!) breaks it down for ya….
AMETHYST: Like lapis, this is a spiritual stone. The energy of amethyst, however, isn’t quite as macho. Amethyst resonates with the crown chakra, helping us connect with the channel of enlightenment and awareness. It just makes me feel good to have around, ’cause its so purty.
OBSIDIAN: Of course, when I’m having trouble staying spiritual, this repels/absorbs any negative energies. When a client requires some seriously heavy work, obsidian is like an anchor in turbulent waters. The dark color works like a super-magnet for grounding me when my head is all over the place.
Not for nothing, obsidian is helpful for blocking someone’s icky vibe from affecting you. I had a boss who was, shall we say, an idiot with a heaping side of Pain in the Ass. I hated going to work, but once I put a giant chunk of obsidian on my desk, he didn’t come around as much — and I stopped wanting to punch him in the throat.
At any rate, these particular crystals are must-haves for the spiritual life. As Bob Dylan once sang, “Everybody must get stoned.” In a good way.
The way I see it, you need these on speed-dial: a plumber, mechanic, lawyer, and in my house, a chicken place that delivers.
I would add to that, a good psychic.
I’m not talking about hitting up Madame Lasagna at the boardwalk. I’m talking about those of us who are truly, sharply tuned in to the intuitive side. That kind of information gives you a new (and sometimes better) way to deal with modern challenges.
Ever since the first human wondered if the person in the next cave over liked them or not, humans have sought ways to see what couldn’t be determined by other means. Psychic ability lets us pull back from what’s in front of us, and sense other things at play. The psychic’s brain downloads on a completely different channel and offers another source of information.
Intuition is a nice counterbalance to the super-tech, pointy-headed vibe of this 21st century life. It’s more organic. Your iPhone can do a lot of things, but picking up psychic info ain’t on the list.
Maybe that’s why I’ve seen such a huge increase in people coming for a reading whom you might not expect: a tough Irish cop, a psychoanalyst, a surgeon, for starters. They’re finding a new way around their problems, by tapping into this age-old data stream.
If you’re still kicking the idea around, here are my 3.5 reasons to consider a psychic.
Reason #1: WE SEE THE BIG PICTURE – THE REALLY BIIIIIG PICTURE
As a psychic, I’m focused on the particular issue you bring me, but I’m also “pulling back” to see what else is going on around its edges. It’s kind of like Google Earth. Many times, I pick up on things affecting it that you weren’t aware of: past-life influences, karma, what’s up with the other people involved. That kind of intel gives you a new perspective on why and where you’re stuck. (Even if you’re not sold on the idea of past lives or karma, admit it – it sounds interesting, doesn’t it?)
Reason #2 WE GIVE YOU A DETOUR AROUND THE ROADBLOCKS
When the same annoying situation/person keeps showing up in your life, there’s a reason. Yes, really. The Universe is trying to get your attention, or to provide a lesson. What is that lesson? An intuitive can give you the crib sheet and show you how to finally move forward.
Reason #3 A READING GETS YOU OUT OF YOURHEAD
Check the frownlines on your face: we spend so much time grinding our mental gears, trying to work out a solution to a problem.
Sometimes, you need to take the brain out of it – and see what instinct and the heart has to say. That’s the specialty of a psychic. Add that info to the intellectual mix, your own knowledge of the situation and you’ve got something you can really work with in solving a problem.
Reason #3.5 YOUR DEAD GRANNY WANTS TO SAY “’SUP?”
Not all psychics are mediums – meaning, possessing the ability to connect with those on the Other Side. But for those who do have that particular channel on their radio, it can be a powerful experience for the client. My motto is, “It’s not a reading ‘til someone’s crying.”
Connecting with someone you’ve lost is incredibly therapeutic. I’ve had clients finally be able to drop all kinds of baggage after getting a message from someone who’s crossed over. It’s not only intensely liberating, it’s a big comfort, as well. The right psychic-medium can hook you up on that channel.
When it comes to finding an intuitive, I strongly believe in personal recommendations. You want a good fit – and a truly professional intuitive won’t mind if he/she isn’t the right one for you.
Let me just add that a responsible psychic will only ask for his/her standard fee (and not hit you up for “extras,” like “removing curses”); and if someone’s issues are above their paygrade, they’ll suggest a qualified mental health professional.
At any rate, if you’ve ever rolled your eyes at the thought of consulting a psychic, open your mind. This ancient art is more 21st century than you think.
I admit it – when it comes to nurseries, garden centers or roadside plant sales, I’m like a crackwhore. My happiest mornings are when, coffee in hand, I can walk up and down the rows at my favorite garden place, picking up a new plant or flat of annuals to brighten up my yard.
Gardening is what I call “dirt therapy.” And it serves an additional purpose, grounding me after spending time in the psychic realm. Many times after a reading, I will get down and dirty – literally – throwing on my work shoes for a quick round of weeding. Putting my hands in the earth balances out the buzzy energy in my head. If I can’t weed, I’ll step outside and just place my hands on the ground.
Working in the psychic realms involves raising your vibration; I always feel a little spacey afterwards. You need to balance that out, because too much time in that place, and you’ll end up like those ladies who talk to themselves in the produce aisle. Or THIS guy…
Even if you’re not psychic, we’re all under a heightened barrage of energy these days, the kind that keeps us in our heads. Texting, email, watching cat videos on YouTube – all the time we spend “connected” does a number on us. Exhibit A: look at any kid at the mall, zombie’d out on their phones. Need I say more?
Anyway, I think that’s one reason we see so much anxiety and depression. Yes, there may be other medical reasons, but when your brain is jumping all over the place, looking for the next bit of stimuli, well, that can’t be good. In fact, I read of a new phenomenon called “popcorn brain.” The name says it all.
Balancing out all that mental energy with something physical is good for you in so many ways – and will keep you psychically healthy. I tell my students that they should do something grounding after reading: play with your dog, go for a walk, eat something, share some hot monkey-love with your honey, or plant up a pot of geraniums. The point is to keep your channel from going all flookey.
Psychic energy has a component of electricity to it. One needs to ground that special brand of electricity or you’ll burn your mental house down. I’ve seen it, especially among people just opening their channel. So be responsible with your instrument. And meet me at the garden center for some dirt therapy.
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I’m big on combos: Peanut butter and jelly. Solids and stripes. Jagger and Richards. So it wasn’t a huge leap to combine my psychic ability with my love for critters and become an Animal Communicator.
Learning to tweak the radar to interact with animals has been a profound experience. Besides the unconditional love and humor they share, I’ve been struck by the untamed spirit that each animal brings to a session. Even the most docile housecat is still linked to the wild essence of the Earth. These encounters remind me of the powerful connection between all forms of life.
One of the most important lessons Animal Communication has taught me is to respect their unique place in the universe. We assume that, as humans, we’re superior to those lower down the food chain. Just ‘cause your dog rolls around in goose poop at the park or your cat chases shadows on the wall, do not take this as a sign that they don’t know what’s really going on. Animals demonstrate unconditional love, endless forgiveness, a massive capacity for joy and plenty of loyalty. How many people do you know like that? Didn’t think so.
Respect for an animal is key to communicating with them.
I can’t just start demanding they talk to me. Instead, I need to relax, quiet my ego and wait until they feel comfortable. I mean, imagine if a total stranger came barging into your living room and started trying to get you to reveal details about a personal issue? Oh yeah, that’s Dr. Phil. But if it happened, you’d probably want to run and hide, just like a shy kittycat. So I give the critters some space. And some r-e-s-p-e-c-t.
And when they talk? Their conversations are refreshingly simple, direct, and without all the hoo-ha we humans wrap ourselves in.
My cat Pyewacket frequently tells me to “lighten up” during the day – then does something silly to make me laugh. A horse calmly told me to assure her nervous owner that she fully intended to win a race she was entered in – despite never having won before — then went on to do it (sorry, I won’t be holding court at the OTB anytime soon). A dog who had passed on when her owner was suddenly called into work told me she purposely wanted it that way, because she knew that, if “Mom” had stayed with her, she would have had a much harder time leaving. Letting her owner know that alleviated a huge burden of guilt.
If you’re an animal lover, you’ve most likely had a conversation or two already. You just didn’t consider it as such. Like I said, animals talk very simply and directly. There’s no need for them to really “think it over” –they say what they feel. And the act of receiving intuitive impressions is actually pretty simple – if you’ve ever had a hunch or gut feeling, you’ve experienced it. We just make it more complicated than it really is.
Here are some simple steps to talking to your animal friend(s):
1) Quiet your mind. If you don’t already meditate, learn to do so. You need a “clear palate” to receive any intuitive information. Focus on just breathing, letting random thoughts simply pass by. The goal is to not have a completely blank mind (physically impossible), just one that’s not preoccupied with car pools, grocery lists and work stuff.
2) Approach your animal when they’re relaxed. Sit with them quietly, focusing on your breathing and imagining your energies drawing closer together. Even if they’re not physically close by (like a wild bird or a feral cat), imagine your energies meeting.
3) When you feel relaxed and ready, ask your animal a simple question. The answer may come quickly, as an image, a feeling or a single word. Trust what you get – doubting yourself is the quickest way to shut down the link.
I find that my first impressions are usually the most accurate, and I’ve proven this by logging my “critter conversations” and checking back later. So learn to trust what you’re receiving.
If you find yourself getting frustrated, settle down and breathe again. Learning to trust your instincts takes time and patience, but it’s a skill that will serve you well, not just with animals, but in everyday life.
And when you’re done talking with your furry companion, remember to say “thank you.” Good manners aren’t just for the two-legged types.
Let’s face it: no matter how spiritual you try to be, at some point, you will encounter people who are — to put it bluntly — pains in the ass. They push your buttons, work your last nerve, make you want to punch something. They can be a co-worker, neighbor, boss, family member, client. They are someone you can’t easily get away from. Here’s how they dealt with it on Seinfeld:
Other than “Serenity now!”, there are some practical tricks you can try. Like the Ice Cube method: write your personal PIA’s (pain in the ass) name on a slip of paper. Put it in any small container filled with water and stick it in the freezer. Their ability to interfere, aggravate or otherwise drive you nuts will be sharply curtailed.
This is an old bit of sympathetic magic that doesn’t harm the person, which is very important. According to the laws of nature magic, whatever you put out will come back to you “three times three” — this is why Wiccans include “with harm to none” in their workings. So as much as you’d like to punch them in the snoot, please control yourself and head for the ice tray.
My sister has a boss that would make the Dalai Lama lose his shit. She had tried everything to make their working relationship better, but he continued to belittle, insult and interfere. I told her about the freezing method; she went home and stuck his name in her big downstairs ice chest. Guess what? The next day, he started heading towards her in the hallway, with that look on his face indicating that he was about to deliver his usual morning beatdown- but all of a sudden, she saw him stop dead in his tracks, turn around and go back to his office. Since then, he’s largely stayed out of her hair.
There’s a variation on this technique involving water. If there’s a PIA you need to sit near, say for a meeting or event, put a glass of water between the two of you to block the negativity. I read about a fellow psychic who did outdoor fairs. There was one other reader no one ever wanted to work near; she was a raging PIA and her negative vibes kept customers away. Well, our psychic found herself stuck next to the PIA, and there was nothing she could do about it. So she poured a cup of water and set it between their tables. Guess what? She got more business than any one who’d ever been placed in that slot before.
If you have a really irritating neighbor, put water in mason jars and dot a few along your property line. If you live in an apartment, put it against a common wall. Just make sure to dump the water down a sewer drain and NOT in your home’s system. Don’t want that janky vibe coming back into your domain.
Crystals are another helpful tool to block the aggravation of a PIA. Wearing them or keeping a chunk in whatever space they may show up in works. Rose quartz has a gentle, loving vibe that will increase your understanding of why a person is being so obnoxious.
If you need to up the protective wattage, black obsidian will absorb the bad juju coming off that person. One of my friends who read in bars –not something I recommend — used to keep a giant piece of black obsidian in her bra to protect her heart chakra. Kinda made her look like she had a third breast, but it did the trick.
For that matter, wearing something black will also have a shielding effect.
These are all stopgap measures. Over the long term, consider that when someone in your life is rubbing your fur backwards, they’re giving you a chance to learn something — if its only to learn creative ways to swear silently. “Serenity now!”
I’m a big believer that everyone – EVERYONE — is psychic. Whether it’s a hunch, first impression or gut feeling, intuition is hardwired into our system. It was a survival skill back in the day – and can still save you from a whole lot of aggravation, if you only trust it more. Admit it: there’s been at least one instance in your life where you “knew” something, right? Did you blow it off at the time? Many of us do, but I’m here to tell you that learning how to pay attention to those little “pings” is going to change everything.
So what distinguishes a professional psychic like me from plain old you? Not much, actually. I compare it to a radio: some people are born with their intuition “channel” locked in and turned waaaaay up. Others have to fiddle with the knobs a little to pick up what’s out there in the ether. But it’s totally do-able. Like anything, it just takes practice.
There are three basic ways psychic information shows up:
Clairvoyance: “clear seeing.” This is when you see images in your mind’s eye. There are some psychics who see things for real – but most of us see it in our head. I may see images of people involved in a person’s job, or a geographical place if I sense a move.
Clairaudience: “clear hearing.” This is “hearing” sounds, voices, words in your mind’s ear.
Clairsentience: “clear feeling.” You feel physical sensations, smell things – anything that engages your senses. For instance, I may feel a heaviness in my chest when I’m picking up someone who passed from lung or heart issues.
Very often, a psychic will get a mashup of the three. One channel may dominate, and it may vary from day to day. For me, I tend to predominantly hear and feel my info, with seeing images close behind. Like your fingerprint, your intuitive style is completely unique. And its fun to figure it out!
The experience of “getting” information often trips people up because they think they’re just “imagining” it. Here’s the thing – your imagination is the vehicle. It has to be – that’s how we process things in our lives.
Think about what you have to do after work. You’re probably seeing yourself running to the grocery store, picking up the kids after soccer and making dinner. That information shows up in your imagination, like images on a screen. And it’s the same way with psychic stuff.
The trick is to learn how to distinguish between the kind of imagination that has you seeing yourself in a hot air balloon with George Clooney (OK, that’s just me) – and the kind where you’re seeing a new job opportunity. That just comes with practice.
Before I share some fun exercises, let’s talk keeping yourself sane and healthy. Any kind of psychic work involves energy. It’s important to take some care before you dive in. Why? Well, think about one of those people – and you KNOW you know one – who just drains you. They have a talent for sucking you dry with their problems. After a night out, listening to their story (again), they say something like, “Wow – it was so great to see you. I feel soooo much better!” You, on the other hand, feel like you got hit in the face with a bat.
So energy is a real thing, and you need to know how to work with it. Before I do anything related to spiritual work, I envision an “egg” of protective white light around my whole body. This is something I learned years ago; it takes about 2 seconds and serves as a shield from whatever, good and bad. It keeps me from becoming completely knackered after a reading (PS — it’s a good thing to do when you’re about to meet that Energy Vampire for drinks. You’ll thank me in the morning).
If your ability to “see” this white light isn’t so hot, you can just say something like, “I surround myself with the white light of love and protection.” That’ll work, too.
So make it a point to do this super-quick ritual before practicing anything to do with your psychic side. It’s not a bad addition to your daily life in general — keeping a lot of random crap from sticking to you.
Now, let’s dive in.
NAME THAT HEADLINE
I first started teaching this little exercise back when old school newspapers were still big. Even if you get your daily news fix from an online site, it’ll still work.
Here’s what you do: start by putting yourself in that handy egg of white light. Then…
1) Set a notebook and pen aside to record what you get. Close your eyes, relax and take a few deep breaths.
2) Envision a blank movie screen or piece of paper in front of you. Keep breathing.
3) Now ask the Universe to send you a hint of tomorrow’s news. It may come as an image, a word, a feeling. Stay relaxed and let it unfold. Go with the first thing you get. I can’t stress this enough; oftentimes, our first impression is the RIGHT one. But we talk ourselves out of it.
4) As this is happening, stay gently engaged and observe how you’re getting the info: are you seeing it, feeling it, hearing it?
5) After a few minutes (really, keep this short so you don’t get too anxious), take a few more breaths and return to the “here and now.” Jot down what you got. Check it tomorrow and see how you did.
You may need to do this a few times before you get a “hit.” But it’s fun!
For this, you’ll need something like a piece of jewelry, from someone you don’t know the backstory on all that well. Maybe ask a friend to bring you their mother-in-law’s earring (yes, you’ll give it back. Unless its really nice….). You can try it on anything where you can get some confirmation afterwards.
Once more, put yourself in that white-light-egg thingy. Then…
1) Set a notebook and pen aside to record what you get. Close your eyes, relax and take a few deep breaths.
2) Hold the object in your non-dominant hand (meaning, the one you don’t write with). That allows you to tap more easily into the subconscious. Relax and keep breathing.
3) What information is coming off the object? It may come as an image, a word, a feeling. Stay relaxed and let it unfold. Go with the first thing you get. And, this is important, tell your friend what you’re getting (so they can verify). Don’t try to understand it. Just say what you’re getting. This may take some time, since we tend to want to be “right.” Learning to just flow with the information is one of the hardest parts of psychic development.
4) Again, stay gently engaged and observe how you’re getting the info: are you seeing it, feeling it, hearing it? Does one dominate more than the others?
5) After a few minutes, take a few more breaths and return to the “here and now.”
As your friend tells you what was a “hit,” recall how you got that piece of info. Seeing, hearing, feeling….The more you do this, the more clearly defined will be that line between your everyday imagination and the particular way your psychic info comes in.
These are two simple exercises that train your psychic muscle, but you can work it all day long: as in, “who’s calling?” (don’t cheat and look at your phone). Is a particular person going to reach out to you today? What song will come up next on the radio? You could sit with a deck of cards while you watch Real Housewives and try to guess their color, suit or number as you pull each from the deck. The idea is to let the part of you that doesn’t work off intellect to be in the driver’s seat more often.
And the one thing I can’t emphasize enough? Follow your gut. When something comes up in your life that you’re not sure of, what does your gut tell you?
Paying attention — and acting on the feelings your gut inspires — is the easiest way to tune up your psychic muscle. I’ve heard that “intuition is wisdom in reverse.” So start working that channel and save yourself a lot of grief. You’ll thank me (and I love gift cards to Target!).
So what times did your intuition tell you something? Spill it in the comments section!
Not long ago, I had a woman come in for a reading. Well-dressed, educated, well-spoken — and absolutely terrified. It seems that she’d been to another reader earlier in the week, and was told that she’d been “cursed.” She hemmed, hawed, tried to laugh it off, because, really, who believes in those things….
But as much as she struggled to brush it away, she was quietly freaked out. Then she handed me a small piece of amethyst crystal and told me that the reader had promised her that this stone would help start to dissolve the curse. Operative word, “start” — she’d need new ones to keep it going (of course). This little stone sold in our store for five bucks; that reader had charged her — wait for it — four hundred American dollars. And she’d paid it!
Well, I spent the better part of our session comforting her, telling her that there are no such things as curses, except to the extent we let someone else in our head. It’s a strong suggestion that we take to heart, and ultimately, make happen. A “curse” is the ultimate way of giving your power over to someone else. And sadly, there are some who know how to work it like a drag queen on the runway.
These unethical readers can be very good at conning people (its too damn bad they don’t put those dodgy people skills to a good use). They know how to zero in on your soft white underbelly. Four hundred dollars later, you’re wondering what happened and feeling like a world-class idiot.
Please don’t blame yourself. When you come for a reading, you’re at least a little bit vulnerable. There’s something going on in your life that you need help with. If someone’s going to take advantage of that, just know that there’s a special place in Hell reserved for them (its located next to that person who bores you to tears with pictures of their license-plate collecting hobby. Only here, you can never get away!)
My rule is this: it’s perfectly acceptable to pay a fee for a reading. You’re paying for the reader’s time, energy and talent. But once they start tacking on “extras” or giving you a sense that your life will totally derail without there special help, leave. One of the cardinal rules of the metaphysical world is that we all have free will; a reading should encourage you to use it to advance your life in a positive direction. Every esoteric system that I know of also emphasizes embracing one’s own power — so if someone is attempting to make you feel powerless, dependent, helpless, frightened, tell them to pound sand. They don’t have your best interest at heart, just your wallet.
If you’ve found yourself in this situation, don’t beat yourself up: take it as a reminder from the Universe to embrace your own power and not give it over to a psychic. Or anyone, for that matter (as in crappy bosses, loudmouthed partners or your bitchy mother).
As for that store-front swindler that freaked out so many of my clients, well, she suddenly moved on. I hear the cops shut her down (ya think?); unfortunately for her — and anyone like her — the Universal Cop will also come calling at some point, as well. And no 400-dollar crystal will help them.