We’re hitting the Memorial Day weekend, and although its become associated with barbecues, beer and that scary moment when you display your winter-white legs in shorts for the first time, it really IS about “memorial” — as in, remembering those who’ve passed on in service to our country.
Whether you’ve lost a military family member — or any family member or friend — I want you to know that they will probably be at that barbecue with you. When someone crosses over, it does not mean that they cease to be involved or aware of life on this side of the veil. To the contrary: they’re still keeping an eye out for us.
To me, crossing over is like graduating from high school. You may be heading to college, but you’re still in touch with those kids a grade or two behind. If those “kids” are family members, you want to keep in the loop, maybe not quite as much as when you were alive — but still.
You’d be surprised at how many times a spirit has let me know that they were at a special birthday or graduation. They know about a new grandchild — or even the new addition you put on the house. The point is, they keep in touch. It’s like they’re checking your Facebook page. So you might want to keep the sketchier “selfies” off of it. Just a suggestion.
Anyway, those who we are deeply linked to, either by blood or circumstance, remain in our karmic phone book. They are busy with new experiences on spirit-side, but they don’t forget us. In fact, they’re closer than we think.
Most of us think that death takes us to a place far, far away; but in reality, they’ve just switched into a higher energy form. They move so fast that we can’t see them. Hey, Star Trek fans. ‘Memba that episode where Kirk is “sped up” by some alien chick? Here’s a refresher:
That’s kind of like how it is for our loved ones on the Other Side. They resonate at a level that we don’t easily experience; dimensionally, they live about three feet off of our ground.
For them to “appear” to us is not easy. They must slow down their vibration, which takes some doing. As a medium, I need to raise mine as they lower theirs — and then we meet somewhere in the middle, energetically speaking. When they show themselves to a non-medium, the process is even harder, so be super-grateful for that gift.
Because the process is tricky is one reason you may not see a loved one soon after their passing. They’re getting used to their new state; its like falling asleep as plain old dumpy you and waking up as Angelina Jolie. Takes some getting used to. That bit of down time is good for us, as it lets us adjust to this life without that person. Not fun, not easy, but necessary for our growth. Wanting to “see” them again is a natural response, but being too desperate and needy isn’t good for them or you.
Grief is a powerful teacher. And understanding that our loved ones continue to live on, albeit in a different form, takes time. Just know that they are as close as your thoughts and memories.
I’m big on combos: Peanut butter and jelly. Solids and stripes. Jagger and Richards. So it wasn’t a huge leap to combine my psychic ability with my love for critters and become an Animal Communicator.
Learning to tweak the radar to interact with animals has been a profound experience. Besides the unconditional love and humor they share, I’ve been struck by the untamed spirit that each animal brings to a session. Even the most docile housecat is still linked to the wild essence of the Earth. These encounters remind me of the powerful connection between all forms of life.
One of the most important lessons Animal Communication has taught me is to respect their unique place in the universe. We assume that, as humans, we’re superior to those lower down the food chain. Just ‘cause your dog rolls around in goose poop at the park or your cat chases shadows on the wall, do not take this as a sign that they don’t know what’s really going on. Animals demonstrate unconditional love, endless forgiveness, a massive capacity for joy and plenty of loyalty. How many people do you know like that? Didn’t think so.
Respect for an animal is key to communicating with them.
I can’t just start demanding they talk to me. Instead, I need to relax, quiet my ego and wait until they feel comfortable. I mean, imagine if a total stranger came barging into your living room and started trying to get you to reveal details about a personal issue? Oh yeah, that’s Dr. Phil. But if it happened, you’d probably want to run and hide, just like a shy kittycat. So I give the critters some space. And some r-e-s-p-e-c-t.
And when they talk? Their conversations are refreshingly simple, direct, and without all the hoo-ha we humans wrap ourselves in.
My cat Pyewacket frequently tells me to “lighten up” during the day – then does something silly to make me laugh. A horse calmly told me to assure her nervous owner that she fully intended to win a race she was entered in – despite never having won before — then went on to do it (sorry, I won’t be holding court at the OTB anytime soon). A dog who had passed on when her owner was suddenly called into work told me she purposely wanted it that way, because she knew that, if “Mom” had stayed with her, she would have had a much harder time leaving. Letting her owner know that alleviated a huge burden of guilt.
If you’re an animal lover, you’ve most likely had a conversation or two already. You just didn’t consider it as such. Like I said, animals talk very simply and directly. There’s no need for them to really “think it over” –they say what they feel. And the act of receiving intuitive impressions is actually pretty simple – if you’ve ever had a hunch or gut feeling, you’ve experienced it. We just make it more complicated than it really is.
Here are some simple steps to talking to your animal friend(s):
1) Quiet your mind. If you don’t already meditate, learn to do so. You need a “clear palate” to receive any intuitive information. Focus on just breathing, letting random thoughts simply pass by. The goal is to not have a completely blank mind (physically impossible), just one that’s not preoccupied with car pools, grocery lists and work stuff.
2) Approach your animal when they’re relaxed. Sit with them quietly, focusing on your breathing and imagining your energies drawing closer together. Even if they’re not physically close by (like a wild bird or a feral cat), imagine your energies meeting.
3) When you feel relaxed and ready, ask your animal a simple question. The answer may come quickly, as an image, a feeling or a single word. Trust what you get – doubting yourself is the quickest way to shut down the link.
I find that my first impressions are usually the most accurate, and I’ve proven this by logging my “critter conversations” and checking back later. So learn to trust what you’re receiving.
If you find yourself getting frustrated, settle down and breathe again. Learning to trust your instincts takes time and patience, but it’s a skill that will serve you well, not just with animals, but in everyday life.
And when you’re done talking with your furry companion, remember to say “thank you.” Good manners aren’t just for the two-legged types.
Winter has had a white-knuckled grip on us this year, hasn’t it? My sister in Minneapolis reports more snow….in mid-April. But here in New Jersey, I can FINALLY see things starting to pop up and I’m making my list of magical plants to add to my garden this year.
Lavender is one of my favorite perennials. It smells wonderful and is good for helping you chill out. But it’s also good for attracting love; rub some of it on your clothes to send out the vibe.
Rosemary has protective properties, so I keep a pot of it near my front door. I also make a bundle of rosemary and hang it on the front door to attract prosperity.
Sunflowers. I sooooo love these flowers. They are pretty magnificent in all their Shaq-sized glory. When I read and sunflowers appear in my mind’s eye, I take it as a sign of spirit. They are a seriously lucky flower; let them keep watch over your yard, then bring them inside to lighten the heart.
Marigolds are easy to grow, and they are a good flower for anyone who wants to further their career. They bring prosperity and success, but they also help keep negative energy away. Traditions says they’ll also repel pain in the ass neighbors or visitors (hear that, Guy-Who-Keeps-Placing-Chinese-Menus-In-My Door?)
Morning Glory draws happiness and tranquility and Hibiscus draws love. And of course, I have Catnip for the boys to roll around in.
I have a couple of Holly around my front door, mainly because they’re so beautiful. But they also serve as protection. I’ve heard that putting a few holly leaves under your bed will ensure a good night’s sleep.
Dandelions usually fall victim to the weed spray, but I’m learning to make peace with them. They’ve been used for centuries for purification and healing, and planting them in the northwest corner of your property will help bring about positive change. I don’t plan to actually plant the little buggers, but will let them co-exist with the grass this year.
My father and grandfather had a green thumb when it came to roses. Me? Not so much. But I keep trying. Roses raise the love vibration (no wonder we give them for Valentine’s Day) but they are also welcoming to the nature spirits. If you place some random rose petals around your home, it will take down any janky vibes. Will it make your teenager less sulky? Um, can anything do that?
Speaking of roses, I have a metal archway and plan to train them over it. Legend goes that walking beneath a bramble-covered archway will cure just about any ailment. Except maybe hangovers.
Making a garden inviting to the nature spirits will bring a wonderfully peaceful energy. I keep one small corner of my yard a little “wild.” No weeding or lawnmowing allowed. This is where those little guys can hang out. Every so often I leave a little fruit or some crumbled cookies out for them. Whether its the fairies or raccoons snarfing them down, no matter — the point is to let those entities know they’re welcome.
For this same reason, don’t get too cheesed off if the birds eat some of your fruit plants. Sharing your harvest is good karma.
Some of the other elements of my magical garden this year will include a simple do-it-yourself fountain (sounds nice and the birds like the water), plenty of windchimes and birdfeeders. But the most important of them all? A hammock, where I can take it allllll in. Preferably with a glass of wine in hand.
I’m a big believer that everyone – EVERYONE — is psychic. Whether it’s a hunch, first impression or gut feeling, intuition is hardwired into our system. It was a survival skill back in the day – and can still save you from a whole lot of aggravation, if you only trust it more. Admit it: there’s been at least one instance in your life where you “knew” something, right? Did you blow it off at the time? Many of us do, but I’m here to tell you that learning how to pay attention to those little “pings” is going to change everything.
So what distinguishes a professional psychic like me from plain old you? Not much, actually. I compare it to a radio: some people are born with their intuition “channel” locked in and turned waaaaay up. Others have to fiddle with the knobs a little to pick up what’s out there in the ether. But it’s totally do-able. Like anything, it just takes practice.
There are three basic ways psychic information shows up:
Clairvoyance: “clear seeing.” This is when you see images in your mind’s eye. There are some psychics who see things for real – but most of us see it in our head. I may see images of people involved in a person’s job, or a geographical place if I sense a move.
Clairaudience: “clear hearing.” This is “hearing” sounds, voices, words in your mind’s ear.
Clairsentience: “clear feeling.” You feel physical sensations, smell things – anything that engages your senses. For instance, I may feel a heaviness in my chest when I’m picking up someone who passed from lung or heart issues.
Very often, a psychic will get a mashup of the three. One channel may dominate, and it may vary from day to day. For me, I tend to predominantly hear and feel my info, with seeing images close behind. Like your fingerprint, your intuitive style is completely unique. And its fun to figure it out!
The experience of “getting” information often trips people up because they think they’re just “imagining” it. Here’s the thing – your imagination is the vehicle. It has to be – that’s how we process things in our lives.
Think about what you have to do after work. You’re probably seeing yourself running to the grocery store, picking up the kids after soccer and making dinner. That information shows up in your imagination, like images on a screen. And it’s the same way with psychic stuff.
The trick is to learn how to distinguish between the kind of imagination that has you seeing yourself in a hot air balloon with George Clooney (OK, that’s just me) – and the kind where you’re seeing a new job opportunity. That just comes with practice.
Before I share some fun exercises, let’s talk keeping yourself sane and healthy. Any kind of psychic work involves energy. It’s important to take some care before you dive in. Why? Well, think about one of those people – and you KNOW you know one – who just drains you. They have a talent for sucking you dry with their problems. After a night out, listening to their story (again), they say something like, “Wow – it was so great to see you. I feel soooo much better!” You, on the other hand, feel like you got hit in the face with a bat.
So energy is a real thing, and you need to know how to work with it. Before I do anything related to spiritual work, I envision an “egg” of protective white light around my whole body. This is something I learned years ago; it takes about 2 seconds and serves as a shield from whatever, good and bad. It keeps me from becoming completely knackered after a reading (PS — it’s a good thing to do when you’re about to meet that Energy Vampire for drinks. You’ll thank me in the morning).
If your ability to “see” this white light isn’t so hot, you can just say something like, “I surround myself with the white light of love and protection.” That’ll work, too.
So make it a point to do this super-quick ritual before practicing anything to do with your psychic side. It’s not a bad addition to your daily life in general — keeping a lot of random crap from sticking to you.
Now, let’s dive in.
NAME THAT HEADLINE
I first started teaching this little exercise back when old school newspapers were still big. Even if you get your daily news fix from an online site, it’ll still work.
Here’s what you do: start by putting yourself in that handy egg of white light. Then…
1) Set a notebook and pen aside to record what you get. Close your eyes, relax and take a few deep breaths.
2) Envision a blank movie screen or piece of paper in front of you. Keep breathing.
3) Now ask the Universe to send you a hint of tomorrow’s news. It may come as an image, a word, a feeling. Stay relaxed and let it unfold. Go with the first thing you get. I can’t stress this enough; oftentimes, our first impression is the RIGHT one. But we talk ourselves out of it.
4) As this is happening, stay gently engaged and observe how you’re getting the info: are you seeing it, feeling it, hearing it?
5) After a few minutes (really, keep this short so you don’t get too anxious), take a few more breaths and return to the “here and now.” Jot down what you got. Check it tomorrow and see how you did.
You may need to do this a few times before you get a “hit.” But it’s fun!
For this, you’ll need something like a piece of jewelry, from someone you don’t know the backstory on all that well. Maybe ask a friend to bring you their mother-in-law’s earring (yes, you’ll give it back. Unless its really nice….). You can try it on anything where you can get some confirmation afterwards.
Once more, put yourself in that white-light-egg thingy. Then…
1) Set a notebook and pen aside to record what you get. Close your eyes, relax and take a few deep breaths.
2) Hold the object in your non-dominant hand (meaning, the one you don’t write with). That allows you to tap more easily into the subconscious. Relax and keep breathing.
3) What information is coming off the object? It may come as an image, a word, a feeling. Stay relaxed and let it unfold. Go with the first thing you get. And, this is important, tell your friend what you’re getting (so they can verify). Don’t try to understand it. Just say what you’re getting. This may take some time, since we tend to want to be “right.” Learning to just flow with the information is one of the hardest parts of psychic development.
4) Again, stay gently engaged and observe how you’re getting the info: are you seeing it, feeling it, hearing it? Does one dominate more than the others?
5) After a few minutes, take a few more breaths and return to the “here and now.”
As your friend tells you what was a “hit,” recall how you got that piece of info. Seeing, hearing, feeling….The more you do this, the more clearly defined will be that line between your everyday imagination and the particular way your psychic info comes in.
These are two simple exercises that train your psychic muscle, but you can work it all day long: as in, “who’s calling?” (don’t cheat and look at your phone). Is a particular person going to reach out to you today? What song will come up next on the radio? You could sit with a deck of cards while you watch Real Housewives and try to guess their color, suit or number as you pull each from the deck. The idea is to let the part of you that doesn’t work off intellect to be in the driver’s seat more often.
And the one thing I can’t emphasize enough? Follow your gut. When something comes up in your life that you’re not sure of, what does your gut tell you?
Paying attention — and acting on the feelings your gut inspires — is the easiest way to tune up your psychic muscle. I’ve heard that “intuition is wisdom in reverse.” So start working that channel and save yourself a lot of grief. You’ll thank me (and I love gift cards to Target!).
So what times did your intuition tell you something? Spill it in the comments section!